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[crace]

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7 til 7 are my basic hours. Anything before or after that is double time. Only ever used it once in a contract though. I used to have one start at 6!

sb - when i started i charged a higher reate before 8 and after 5 but when i put my prices up this year i dropped the higher rate but only because i was a faff and only one mindee was cared for out of those hours

hello everybody

TFIF - CAN'T WAIT TILL 5PM

ds is staying at granny's overnight so i will get a proper lie-in tomorrow

unfortunately dp has the man flu so i won't be going out on the razzle

Oh what a shame Vi! Have you got some girlie mates you could go out with? Or check if any of them are staying in within DH's, and go and have a natter?

I emailed NCMA about my trampoline and they said permission from parents is fine.

well it would be a bit mean to go out and leave dp at home with man flu - wouldn't it?

i think it's actually real flu TBH

i'm a really crap nursemaid - i hate it when my family is ill

Me too - that's why I suggested going out!

Phew, I've worked so hard today. I have to pick to up from school and one was picked up at school, because grandad thought as it was pouring with rain, he'd come early to save him getting wet and the other has been picked up by his uncle, who lives at the bottom of my road, coz mum is working late! That's nearly an hours work today! I'm knackered!

If it were me that were ill I would encourage DH to go out personally - and just use the time at home quietly. Go on, go out!

Mo, tough life eh? Someone's got to do it though.

Dh not home again tonight, sense a trend??? Honestly, the man never stops bloody working and has a presentation to write over the weekend. I love this married single mother life I've got going on here. I keep tell him how lucky he is that I am here, and that I don't give him any crap for it. He comes home and tells what crap his colleagues get from partners. Though, honestly, I am getting a bit stretched thin. Oh well, it's what he has to do for me to "stay home" so I can't beat him up about it.

Hey LMG - long time no see, alright?

I'm like that Crace. Really don't have a problem with him being out all the time, working. I feel a bit bad for him, when he gets a really rough day, like he's had today. He's be back and forward to a job that one of his engineers didn't do properly and until about half an hour ago, he wasn't a happy bunny! I was the dutiful wife and nipped out to get him a new shirt and trainers for tonight. He may not like either of them, but I was doing something nice anyway. I'm not that fussed when he goes out with his mates, every Friday night and most of the day Saturday either. If I needed him here, he'd stay, but I haven't got time to talk to him, whilst I'm on MN, so what's the point!

Mo, exactly! I actually like being on my own, so for me it's not an issue. Needs must frankly! Oh those husbands are lucky is all I can say. I do remind him, often, how lucky he is

And I am not fussed over holidays/birthdays/Xmas - I mean how much more perfect can I BE?! lol (I am kidding - all this makes up for me being opinionated, head strong, and stubborn)

Hieveryone, sorry haven't been in here much, promise i'm not ignoring you all!

Crace and Mo - you are so much more tolerant than I am, I'm not keen on being alone and I feel dp should help out too I'm very lucky he is home by 5.30 to 6pm everyday he usually baths dd2 and if i go anywhere he tidies up, he does dd1's homework with her and today he is taking dd's out with him so i can clean and food shop in peace and i'll go back to bed for a bit when he gets up later too. Tomorrow as it's mothers day he will be cooking us a sunday roast and we will go to the park as a family.

I'm not clingy but I do prefer to spend time with him and do things together than not see him I guess.

I've been working quite a few hours lately and settling new ones in so been quite busy plus i'm on a mission to loose weight have lost 11 and a half pounds in the past 5 weeks on weightwatchers, I'm really happy lately, really enjoying my life and glad I can do the job I do, all the famillies I'm working with are lovely, they all say thank you, all pay on time, pick up on time and it's going really well. I have gotr 1 leaving in a couple of weeks for mat leave but her mum said if i've got space she might ask me to have 1 or both children now and again, once mindee leaves if i don't have her back or her baby brother than I'll have a 3 day (or even and a half days) space to fill but though i'm advertising i'm only going to take on a family who will fit in well with the mindee's i've already got i think.

SB I charge £1 more per hour outside 8 til 6.

V Did you go out? I think depending on how he was I'd have gone out!

LT how was the wedding? Hope baby settles in soon!

hi - no i didn't go out girls - i know it makes me sound like a saddo but i have absolutely no-one to go out to play with

the only people i could think of would be mum's of mindees and knowing what i'm like when i've had a few drinks it would probably be a bad idea!!!

it's not that i have no friends really - it's that none of them are local and the ones i have made recently are all mummy's not drinking buddies IYSWIM?

i could really do with a big night out too

LMG I am not exactly feeling very fondly of Dh right now as despite my earlier ramblings about not caring about holidays I have gone ballistic at him doing SOD ALL for mother's day. In fact all he is doing is moaning about how ill he is (caught my cold) and hasn't done a fing thing with and for the children all week/month/year, let alone today. Sometimes I truly feel like all he does is pay the bills, and make a few meals at the weekend. If he is here. He is also working the next two weekends as well, my birthday weekend being one of them. It's a big one, I turn 30 so I suppose I am pissed off about today as EVERYTHING goes unnoticed or at least unsaid, all the work I do for the kids and the house and I know my birthday will go unnoticed as well.

I am trying to remember his redeeming features at the moment.

ah - crace i feel for you my dp is in bed with "flu" too [grrrrr] he did however get me a cd from ds

my lovely dd got up with ds at 7.30 and entertained him till 9.30
mmmmmmm . . . a lie in

ds woke me by shouting/singing
"happy poo-poo day , you smell of wee-wee" and jumping on us in bed [ouch] which meant i very nearly did smell of wee-wee as i'd been dreaming about going for a wee as my bladder was bursting

then dd(13yrs) made me breakfast in bed

how old are your dc CRACE?

My ds is 11 and had made me something from school, but DH and I's dd is only just 2 years and he did sod all. I don't expect much from him, really and I am trying not to be the stereotypical hysterical woman - I think it's more that every occasion is like this, and it's his apathy that pisses me off the most. And I know that I am up for a huge disappointment on my 30th. I had suggested I drop off the kids to MIL on the night and we go out to dinner, but frankly I am not going to bother. I would have to phone her up, arrange it, take time off work, and get them all up to hers 1.5 hrs away. I am going to see what he is going to do. And likely that will be F all. Oh well, time to get over it.

crace why don't you just arrange to do something yourself with friends and tell dh he can come too if he wants? that way you won't be disapointed , cant you get a local baby sitter?

Crace do NOT let your 30th go unnoticed! For my 25th Fil looked after dd2 and while dd1 was at school dp and I went for lunch and shopping then on the weekend I went with my best friend for a facial, massage and manicure then went shopping it was heaven then we came home for a cocktail party at home with friends while the dc's stayed with PIL's.

I've decided all birthdays will have that much effort as tradition. Birthday's are special and should be used as a excuse to enjoy yourself god knows we all work hard enough to deserve it!

Book the day off and do something with a friend, let your dh have the children! If you don't plan something you will kick yourself and grow resentful that your dh didn't bother. I never work birthdays its one of my rules You have to put your foot down about these things or men will happily let you go without its just the way it is. My dp is happy for me to do these things as long as he doesnt have to arrange it, he will always encourage me and will happily take care of the children, I'd like to say i'm as happy for him to go and do his thing but erm i have to be honest and say that as I am on my own with dc so much of the time that when he isn't working I like him here which is a bit unfair really, he still goes and does what he likes within reason though and we don't row about it but i'm never as laid back and happy about it like he is iyswim.

I would just ditch the kids with him but he's working (it's a Friday) and all weekend and can't (truly, his job is intensive, he's a director) take the day off. And as I am massive pg so it can't be a piss up either I think I might invite a couple of girlfriends over and just feel sorry for myself. I think I would just like him to just THINK about me. Too much to ask? I pretty much told him today that I felt undervalued and have been "off" with him all day. The thing is that I have done this before - and he was genuinely mystified why I was upset.

I need to learn how to make peace with the fact that he is useless in this department. He does work very hard for our family and his family never made a big deal of anything so it's hurting me now.

And I wholly blame my pg hormones on this .

grrr. . . . darn those preggers hormones

men are a bit dense about these things really

i forgot about you having a bun in the oven you can always make up for it[your 30th] next year