the nannies who want to moan,get advice,scream,be happy staff room thread!!!

[angisnuts]

hi guys! as promised,a nanny staff room!! i will put the kettle on and wait for you guys to come and join me for a nice cuppa and a chat.....xxxx

AMAP details.
40p rate is for the first 10,000 miles. After that the amount drops.

Oh, I'm torn between here and the CM staff room!!

I'm not officially either at the moment. Used to be a nanny but have been a cm for the last 2 years. Just moved and have to re-register which is likely to take another 3 months. I've got a nanny interview on Monday but it's only for 8 hours a week. I'm in an area where there aren't really any nannies so I should go to the interview and see if at any point the hours will be increased.

Good luck to those about to start new jobs!!

anyoneoutthere,i agree with you i think its just plain rude not to even have the decency to call you and actually talk to you,some people!nanny donna,well done to you,i think you could be right,i have been looking for a good few months 2,and so maybe its just habit! ru a nanny with own child? theres just something i cant put my finger on with this job.....i9 will keep you all posted!its either 40p per mile but my past employers couldnt be botheredwith the hassle of working it out so they just gave me a set amount at the end of every month.good luck to anyone starting new jobs,and anyone are you looking around for another job now?

That is pretty rude, anyoneoutthere..... poor you!

Well, turns out my lad was really really ill, despite the temp and so on being ok during the day as all the meds were "masking" how bad he was. I feel pretty bad now!

New week, new start, hopefully all the new prescriptions will mean he's better this week.

They really are the most wonderful kids, I think they've just all been ill. I so want to do my best by them.

Hi im 15wks pregnant and im a nanny-look after 3 kids. one of them found out got chicken pox yesturday and I know to be near him I can be at risk. The other thing is I can;t remember if I had them and neither does my mum. I have had my blood test today now just gotta sit and wait for the results. Thing that annoying me is-the dad was rude to me when I told him I coauldn't come in today. i Have been working there for like a year nearly think in that Ive had like two bloody days off, just no please in some people makes me grrrrr. I told them at xmas I was pregnant if they were gonna need cover obv they shoulda thought of that at the time as Im gonna need to.Just phoned me the mum and they can't understand why Im taking the day off. I rang the NHS up for advice told me I need to have an injection bit i am with him 5days a week 8-6-1 nurse telling me im fine and the other person telling me other. Mum can't understand why I can't be there near the child. Sorry this is long winded, since I have been pregnant I think i had 2 days off or where i have to go home early, which is nothing. What do people expect from us. Suppose to leave in july for maternity but do you know I really have had it now.

daisy,some people are just plain self centred and its obvious they are just looking after their own needs and not giving a stuff about yours and your unborn babies!i dont think chicken pox around somebody pregnant is good but am not entirely sure on this.maybe you should look at taking your mat leave early as it sounds like this job is causing you 2 much stress!? have you explained exactly why you dont think its safe for you to be at work?

thing is I have explained this to them, and the mum was pregnant when her now 3year old had c.pox-this is my first and i dnt want anything to go wrong. Thing is to be quite honest I want to leave asap now as she really has annoyed me, mean she was nice but had enough. And yes I am getting very stresses over this, I even rang NHS to get advice they have told me to stay away-i have told them situation the nurse and doctors, I am with him 5days a week-8-6 and they have still told me not to go near him. I haven't just took the days off for no reason, grrrrrr soooo annoyed. I love the kids but to be quite honest i really don't want to work for them now they think this is too inconvenient for them. Yeh I know they got to think about their kids I have done a wicked job with their kids.Said to me maybe we should have a chat and see how we want to go about this, basically I think they will wanna let me go, to be honest id rather do that. I am worried, jobwise, and moneywise. I had jobs in nurseries and walked out in both and this doens't help me with this job in this situation either. Id saty in contact with the family i think this is just gonna get to stage where ill get cross and have to leave, wouldn't be able to keep in contact with them and I don't want to do this

What can I do-i really don't want to leave, but i got a feeling they may let me go, then this would be unfair dismissal and i don't want this to turn into a bad relationship with the family. If this is a hassle for them now what it going to be like later on. I have an appointment tomorow at the hospital and be cause im kind and didn't want them have to take time off, i arranged for a friend to come and bring the kids i look after and her kid so she could watch them for me, I didnt have to do that. I am sooo stressed right now and to be honest when I do go back to work, don't want to face them but I have to. Really peed me off this has, as I was doing fine and happy till got pregnant. Im very happy to be pregnant, the family are causing me quite a bit of stress

Any more advice would be appreciated

anyoneoutthere - I've had the same thing happen to me a couple of times now, all was fine on the last day I was there, then I got an email saying they would no longer be needing my help as their needs had changed... the last day I was there, we had been discussing what we were going to do, she was happy for me to fit it around another job etc etc, and she was really impressed with how I was with her baby, then out of the blue! the email.

prior to that, I had a job that I waited around nearly 3 months for, the second day I was met with an evelope containing a weeks pay and the mother telling me she no longer wanted a nanny as she has suddenly become aware how small and clingy her 7 week old daughter was???

AND THEN I had a au pair job(don't ask) live in but in a separate house. the original advert stated that they were happy for the au pair and her partner to share the accomodation, so this was pretty much a big part of the reason I applied for it, to save me and my boyfriend money... and at the last minute the father decided he no longer wanted this to happen so he now wants someone with no boyfriend/family to live there!! and to make matter worse, they have been asking me to do temp work for them and only paying me £5.50 despite my saying I normally charge £8 ph. but hey, I needed the money...

I'm done now

oh dear-mines all sorted now-they were just scared cuz there previous nannies have just left them at last minute. They are fine now-i go on maternity soon so i can wait till then. I sorta do understand it's annoying, and they are asking you to do temp-that's a bit rude, to be honest i wouldn't let me pay them £5.50 if its usually £8 whatever, would of stuck to that rate, they are taking an advantage and taking the mickey, with you.

hi guys! as you may remember i am due to start a new job next week and have only just recieved my contract,but all that was verbally agreed at the interview has been put down differently on my contract.i spoke to the agency and apparently they are well within their rights to do this...! is this right guys? what do i do,i dont want to take it on now!xx

Do you have any other option,angi? Can you tell them that this isn't what you'd agreed to, and that the job as written in the contract does not suit you, thanks but no thanks?

Poor you!!

How significant are the changes? Is it pay / hol / hours?

If you don't want to agree to the contract, then send it back to them, saying that you won't agree to the contracts terms, and therefore they can either negotiate with you and you come to some kind of agreement (contact changed to reflect any changes needed) or you look elsewhere.

it was supposed to be a sole charge position,is now shared charge(no big deal but still differentr to what was agreed),have also been told i am not allowed to take the children out of the area ,i have to stay within a mile of the house! there was to be no housework,and its now been written into the contract that i have to do some housework! nifty,i havent got any other option im afraid otherwise i think i would be telling them to poke their job in the nicest poss way of course! is this all not a bit strange??

HI
It is so unfair that SOME employers think they can treat us badly.
I would say to them if you are not happy about contract, you need to start how you mean to go on.Communication is the best way [which i have found out over the years.!]
I am sure in their work life they dont put up with any fuss.
i understand you need a job and if this is the only one availble then give it a month[keep seaching new jobs]you never know it may work out ok.?
i hope that helps abit.let us know Monday evening how first day went.
i started my new job on Monday,twins are lovely.parents very nice and are happy for me to take them out.my son runs to them when i pick him up from school.[no kiss for me]
hope all goes well next week for everyone.

thanks nanny donna! i think i will just give it a go like you say,whilst still looking for something else! it makes me so mad though! good luck to you for monday,let us know how you get on! my first day is tue so will keep you guys posted!xx

I think not signing until you've reviewed the ways it's different from the verbal agreement is a good idea. On the one hand, you're not 100% sure it's going to work, but if you're still looking, then they're not sure either and you could find something better.

Good luck!

I'm back to work tomorrow. A normal school week thank goodness. I like knowing where I'm going to be!

Found a book in a charity shop yesterday called "Play with a purpose" or similar, hoping that it'll have some ideas for Easter as what with the different holidays I've worked out I will have a whole month of kids being off!

Has anyone else had experience of the kids being the ones that tell you of holiday plans? I've heard they're going skiiing but no one's said anything to me about it except the 8 year old... not that I'll mind being given a week off with barely any notice, of course. It'll just be a bonus!

If I applied for job and one thing was said at interview and then they shoved a contract under my nose that said something radically different I would be very worried about what kind of employer they would be after I signed the contract. Have you discussed the differences with them? Is it possible the agency or someone else pulled out a standard contract and they just didn't amend it, which is still not much of an excuse. But if I were you, I'd prefere a lazy even sloppy employer to one who was pulling a deliberate fast one. What is the notice period in the contract? What did the agency say? Are the supporting you or are they just telling you to take the job?

hi guys! eleusis,the agency were saying to just go and try it even though i told them my very good reasons y i didnt want to! but i have just phoned and told them i wasnt going to take it,and the mum was really upset.i now dont know whether iv done the right thing as i have nothing else to go into! aaaaarrrgggghh! why does nanny life have to be so complicated???

Who told you all the things about the job the were so different in the contract. I just wonder if it was the agency or the parents who pulled a fast one. WE all know I wouldn't trust an agency with the ime of day. Is it possible the agency told you the job was something it wasn't?

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oooo, what did I miss?

eleusis it was the parent,which is why i was so mistrusting of her afterwards! i do agree about agencies though,wouldnt trust them either! now im stressed because i dont have a job,and still unsure whether i have done the right thing!

hi angisnuts
Sorry to read things have not worked out but if you do not feel 100% sure then i would keep looking.i know how hard it is to find a job with a child and when one comes along you want to take it.you have to make sure that it suits you and your childs needs as well.
while i was out of work i became a dinner lady for 2hours a day,wage not the best but it helped alot.have you avertised on Gumtree,nanny job,netmums just a few i can think of.
oh it would be so nice if life was easy,no such luck.
sending lots of luck