Should we fire our current nanny?

[confjul]

FTM here and very confused about what to do next. We had a hard time finding a good nanny. The first one we found was at a premium price where we live. She seemed great with our baby, knew a ton of games and development stuff. However, she was a slacker. She wouldn't even pick up our baby's pacifiers from the floor and never clean a bottle or plate of the baby. Sometimes, she would even leave her plates and glasses on the kitchen counter. We fired her after 2 months.
The second one we got wasn't as good at playing games with LO and entertaining her but at least she does her duties. She has been with us for 7 months. We thought all was well but then she told us all of a sudden that she wants 30%-35% increase of her salary. We were shocked. First of all, most people told us that we are paying her way more than current market and to ask for more after being with us less than 1 year? I have seen on platforms that she is actively job hunting. I have to add that this nanny also has an attitude and I was on the point of firing her 2 months ago. I guess she sensed it and she immediately corrected her behavior. There would be small things about what I wanted her to do with LO that she just totally disregarded to my face and then she would play all innocent and dumb that she didn't understand when confronted about it.
A few days ago, we have started nanny-hunting as well and we have found 2 girls (with actual qualifications and also references) for 20% less than what we pay our current nanny. My husband wants me to fire the current girl ASAP. I am also tired of her but I am also worried for LO since she became fond of the current girl. What would you do in my place?

@Derbee I have given my advice to the OP about talking to her nanny. But making assumptions isn’t fair or right. You’re now making out she’s employing someone illegally. It’s hyperbole, deal with the facts instead of having a. Go at someone based upon things you’ve made up! If you’re problem is that she wants to fire her ASAP then reply based upon that, not things which aren’t necessarily true because they fit your narrative.

And @Derbee by behaving as lots of posters have on here, you aren’t actually helping the baby cause at all. Many OPs will either get defensive or won’t come back. So by not asking questions, making assumptions or being sarcastic and rude or having a go, you neither help this current nanny or any subsequent ones because most OPs aren’t going to have a shining light moment based on such responses. If you engage with people and give advice without jumping down their throat, you’re likely to have more success in your cause.

Oh come off it - the OP was never going to have a shining light moment about the way she treats this ‘girl’.

@DearFatties FACT is that OP resents the salary she’s paying, and they want to fire the nanny ASAP.

It is also FACT to point out that she CANNOT do this. IF, and I did say IF she CAN do that, then it means that her employment is not being done above board.

Also, people who don’t respect others because they employ them, don’t tend to have “shining light” moments where they suddenly value the job that their employee is doing. They don’t suddenly have an epiphany and realise it’s disrespectful to refer to WOMEN as GIRLS.

So nice try, but nonsense IMO

Also, the first sarcasm came from the OP, but whatever. You’re clearly of the same ilk, so we’ll have to agree to disagree.

[quote DearFatties]@MolyHolyGuacamole you don’t have all the facts as you’ve stated, yet you’re making assumptions and being really rude. No wonder people get so upset on MN when you decide you’re simply ‘qualified’ in your assumptions. They’re ASSUMPTIONS, not fact. But go off, keep feeling superior to strangers online.[/quote]
Thank you for clarifying that they are, as I stated, assumptions 😂 you're repeating what I said and saying what they're not. Ok. They are also not elephants, so thanks again for clarifying.

@DearFatties it’s mumsnet

On the contrary, the OP will see the responses and know deep down that a large part of the problem lies with her attitude to nannies. She may not respond or come back but she’s been corrected and can reflect on that in private.

The OP said:
First nanny: She seemed great with our baby, knew a ton of games and development stuff. However, she was a slacker.
Second nanny: The second one we got wasn't as good at playing games with LO and entertaining her but at least she does her duties.

I am not sure what are your priorities when hiring a nanny. I thought the nanny´s duty is to entertain and play with the child.

So the second nanny was not good at playing with LO and entertaining, bt at least she does her duties?

I am confused
Do you need a nanny (child-care) or a cleaner? Or a houskeeper?
Or all of them for a pay of one?

(PS. The first nanny was crying because you were unfair. She played with the kid and entertained. You know, doing a nanny. Very unfair)

OP won’t be back. These types never come back