Help, my new nanny is a bit shouty, and I'm worried, and would like advice on how to handle it

[PrincessPeaHead]

My lovely calm, quiet, loving nanny of 5 years left last week, and a new nanny started. She is NNEB, worked in a nursery (baby room) most recently, nannied for 2 children before that. She's now been with us for just over a week.

I'm a little worried about how she interacts with the children. She has been playing quite well with DD1 (9), and has been givena very hard time by DD2 (16 months) who screams at strangers generally and hasn't settled with her yet (screamed constantly yesteerday morning when I went to the supermarket apparently). DS1 (6) has been OK with her, DS2 (3) had his tonsils and adenoids out last Tues and was feeling rotten until this weekend.

She is a bit of a sargeant major - issues orders and won't brook any discussion at all, even when it would be (I think) completely reasonable to listen to what they are saying. eg she was asking them to go upstairs for a bath - we have two staircases to go up, and DS2 wanted to go up the other one to the one she was asking him to go up - and she was raising her voice and saying "DS2, I have asked you to go up to your bath and you need to go up these stairs NOW". I don't see why he couldn't have gone up the other ones if he wanted to. There are lots of other examples - I don't think I heard my last nanny raise her voice more than about 2ce (usually in situations where I would have strangled them hours previously!), whereas raising her voice appears to be this nannies MO.
My 9 year old has asked me why she shouts so much
My housekeeper has told me she is concerned.

What do I do?

fabulous soon to be ex employer
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thanks nurseyjo

she hides them in her celar tbh

ah but dogsby I don't HAVE a cellar! (high water table round here dontcha know)

I know her nursery would have her back in a flash, that's true.

pph, I have just skimmed this, but had an almost identical situation 2 months ago, and ended up paying a simialr amount to get rid quickly, as the boys were so upset by her shouting. Never have regretted it, despite the problems of coping without whilst working.

that's good to hear. yup, now that I've made the decision I just want to execute it (so to speak!)

fantastic name btw

Do a Minty on her

good luck today pph

bet you feel a lot better just having made the decision

aurgh I'm hiding in here momentarily. Have booked taxi for 9.45 - what do you think, 10 mins before?

aurghghghg

keep rereading earlybirds post!

Good luck Peahead. Think I'd send her home in the taxi.

I haven't really got much to add. I think you know what you need to say.

x posted

If I were you, I'd being going throught the points:

1- Seargant Major drill squad you ain't.
2- DD playing in pool alone... prefer not to think about it.
3- Your kids generally don't like her
4- Your trust has been broken
5- Doesn't keep the kids entertained when you are around (this is her job).

I'm sure there was more I've forgotten.

You are doing the right thing. Parental responsibilites are not always fun... but they ever so important. You are looking out for your kids, and that is your job.

PPP - glad my advice was helpful. I imagine you're having the conversation at the moment, so hope it's going as well as could be expected. It's really the best thing for both you and her to recognise early on that the fit isn't right, but it is still upsetting to have those sorts of conversations - for both parties.

An hour from now you'll probably feel tremendously relieved.

fingers crossed for you.

Good luck PPH

Yes Califrau, she was the one with the belly button piercing, remember she went out with Owain from number 45 for a while? Til he went away to the rigs to work. She was heartbroken

wonder is she waving her cheerfully goodbye already or dealing with a hysterical sobbing nanny glaring at the clock waiting for the cab to arrive?

hope it went well PPH, you've done the right thing

I'm imagining you as a female Sir Alan Sugar...you're sitting at the kitchen table (instead of the board room table) with your 'apprentice' nanny, who sadly has failed the task. You tell her, 'I'm sorry, but you're fired' and then escort her out the door to the waiting taxi which whisks her back to her 'other' life......

Did that make you smile? I know these things are difficult....

I hope peahead isn't the one sobbing. Do you think the nanny ripped out her belly button ring?

eeek. hadn't thought of that, she did get a bit physical with the ds didn't she!

should we be calling the police PPH?

ahhhh the joys of not having 'staff' !!!!!!
no firing!

Don't worry girls, she' made of strong stuff.

You can take the girl out of Tonypandy but you can't take the Tonypandy out of the girl.

She's a pea.

i have a mental image of the 2 of them sitting at the kitchen table.

PPH staring at the clock and drumming her fingers and flicking an occasional forced smile at the nanny.

The nanny is just sitting there staring at her and glaring.

tick.

tock.

tick.

tock.

tick.

tock.