Hi
Regular poster posting under another name for confidentiality.
Situation. Apologies long post!
I look after two boys one eighteen months.
On Friday the oldest boy became unwell in my care. Vomited at midday.
Large projectile type vomit. He then continued to vomit multiple times. No temperature.
After the second vomit I contacted the mother to inform her. She asked to speak to son. He was crying and asking for her to come home. She told him she would. She eventually came home six hours later.
It was not a problem for me if she came home or not, I am happy to look after sick child. I am an ex nurse so well able to cope.
She then continued to ring with requests for example not to give any food (of course I knew that), and later to remove her other son from the room. She also asked other relatives to ring me. The younger child had been in the room when vomiting occurred so in my view had already been exposed. I had cleaned everywhere with anitiseptic and aired room too. I did as she said; although I felt it was my call to decide where the children were. The youngest is too young to leave for long in other rooms if I need to deal with older child vomiting. Older child was crying for mum and frightened by vomiting.
Anyway an hour and half after not vomiting and having tolerated fluids the little boy wanted to eat. I said no best to stick to fluids. We had squash and water. Child had a jelly he wanted, I said no. Anyway mum rang again, she said no he couldn't have the jelly, I reminded her jelly is semi liquid but no, she was coming home. Anyway another two hours passed. Now five hours from eating and over three from vomiting. The little boy is asking for jelly. So I gave him some couple of spoonfuls, no vomit, half an hour later repeated no vomit. Mum then arrived home.
Child happy now and running around the room. Younger child had gone to bed. Mother seemed happy.
However she rang the next day (day off) annoyed I hadn't followed her orders regarding the jelly. I asked her what the problem was with giving jelly. She said no problem with jelly, problem you not following orders. Well I told her she wasn't there and I made the decision based on her child's needs. I didn't do it to annoy her she clearly thinks I did.
She then mentioned I hadn't followed other orders previously. I was unaware of this as try to follow her book to the letter.
She then raised an incident where I hadn't given paracetamol at bedtime. However the little boy was not ill/no temperature so I had assumed she didn't want me to give. An in any case I am required by insurance to have written order.
Thought please....