Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

[susiemumof]

Not looking for a argument or aibu type thread.

Am new to cm and have a 6mo mindee 60 hours per week, mum has a day off next week (which she did not even need to tell me about) but has said she will still send said mindee as she would like a day to herself.

I actually offer a large discount on days when mindees are not with me so can't even put it down to wanting to get her monies worth.

Was just really wondering how common other childminders have found this?

It's obviously no problem for me to have the child and I am loving my new job, it just makes me a bit sad for the baby itswim.

lol,great line in stories
aye like call me gran.no in not really your gran,but you can call me it
shocking

No Scottishmummy, they're not the paid carers: they are grandparents visiting their own grandchildren and generously including the minded children as part of the family.
In your opinion I lack boundaries. In my opinion you are spoiling for trouble and you would argue that day is night, blackbirds are white, and the sun goes round the earth on this thread

I think mad is well mad and scottishmummy, well I have never read such bull shit in my life. You sound a warm lovely person

Pehaos mindees should call me mrs.... Instead of my name. Perhaps I shouldn't kiss and cuddle them as unprofessional.

My older dss (22 and 21) shouldn't jam with them
On their guitars while they bang drums and Maraccas.

Perhaps my younger daughters shouldn't play hide and seek with them?? Unprofessional.

You have clearly no idea what parents want from child minders.
This thread is mad now.

gran/grandad are used by the mindees,to refer to adults quite clearly not their GP? you said you're family offering care,Inc grandparents.who are crb checked?
that suggests they too participate in the package - as you said?
what's the deal then?
why do the mindees call them gran/grandad?

Does that poker up your arse hurt scottishmummy.

Jesus just re read the last post, sorry but it's wierd how you seem to hate childminders.

body mindees should address you by your forename
not gran,not grandad or any familial name.as your not their family
a good warm rapport, yes
address by forename, yes
addressed as gran or grandad, def no

Because that's the deal with a home based setting! The mindees are important little guests In your house and as such one of the family.

yes they are in essence paid guests
the cm is paid staff,not the gran,not the grandad
it's an adult business transaction
keep it professional

I wouldn't mind DS calling his CM's mum granny.

what about the shop lady
the bus driver
friends gran,is that gran too?
or is over familiarity only reserved for the cm mum

See I just don't see that as unprofessional.

So I would see gossiping about parents or mindees very unprofessional, but see mindees calling my boys by nick names and having 'sword fights' as well just fun.

They are CRB checked because they regularly visit and it's an OFSTED requirement.
They are called Granny and Grandad because they prefer it and it's what my own children call them. The parents are happy with it: why should you object?

They are not paid.

Childminders are self-employed, not hired help.

Why would taniths children call the bus driver gran??

Over familiarity oh I think I get you, cms are the hired help???

Right off to get me an apron and cap.

calling adult who is gran,their gran is inappropriate
everything else,the banter,the rapport,the social mileu the interaction is fab
inappropriate use of familial names,that's inappropriate

Needs a day off may mean she is going to the doctors, dentist, helping her parents before you judge
Which you are by writing the thread

Oh tanith I think we are. Mind your manners me girl, lady Mary not happy, it's well posh up north aye mummie.

yes,cm is self employed charges fees
it's business
naive to suggest otherwise
it's a financial transaction.if parents stopped paying you'd not continue service.quite rightly so

Frankie mate go now while u still can!

This thread has moved on to a bizarre level.

Susie has gone.

I think I would find it odd if my ds was encoraged to call the nursery staff 'granny' on the other hand half my friends are referred to as 'aunty'.

Yes that's obvious mummy , noone works for free, but honestly without the bullshit can't u see the difference between a home based setting with a family is totally different to a nursery environment.

And that's precisely why parents constantly ring for places.

I know both me and tanith do school runs.

Don't u think that if parents thought we were unprofessional we would be finished.

Scottishmummy, it's you who implied otherwise by calling us paid staff. We're not.

Likewise, 3 OFSTED inspectors, a Network co-ordinator and an Early Years Professional Status Mentor all think it's fine for the children to call them Granny and Grandad. I'll mention your objections to them, though

I have no idea how parents would subjectively rate either of you
you have a working face to face relationship with parents who pay you, I will let you guage that relationship

Scottishmummy do you ever say anything nice?

is that comment,observation,or question
how inane

Have to admit I'm shocked that some cm think its ok to let mindees call the cm parents granny and grandad. How confusing and inaccurate. I wouldn't be happy with it to be honest.