Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

[susiemumof]

Not looking for a argument or aibu type thread.

Am new to cm and have a 6mo mindee 60 hours per week, mum has a day off next week (which she did not even need to tell me about) but has said she will still send said mindee as she would like a day to herself.

I actually offer a large discount on days when mindees are not with me so can't even put it down to wanting to get her monies worth.

Was just really wondering how common other childminders have found this?

It's obviously no problem for me to have the child and I am loving my new job, it just makes me a bit sad for the baby itswim.

Susie, you are not an evil childminder. Just a bit of a silly bint! You say you don't judge but your posts are dripping with judgement. If all you wanted to know was whether other CMs take in children when their parents are not at work, you could have asked that without sharing any details regarding your mindee's domestic situation.

You are doing childminding as it suits you personally and financially and yourr mindee's families are paying for your services as it suits them personally and financially, but you're just going to have to adjust quicksmart to the reality that their personal lives have absolutely NOTHING to do with you WHATSOEVER and that you need to conduct yourself in a mature, professional, responsible way. Which means not posting gossipy little OPs dressed up as requests for advice.

I am a professional working with children and I NEVER, EVER post ANYTHING that could potentially be read by any one working with me now or who might work with me in the future (parents/other professionals etc) that might give them an insight into my personal biases and judgements in a way that might compromise our working relationship. I suggest you do the same. Your posts are beginning to sound very immature, particularly your post above responding to the poster who mentioned about the dating scan.

Grow up, move on, keep quiet and hide the thread.

good post IM
yes Susie is oozing judgement
vociferously denying it (naturally)
IM you have exactly the mindset a childcarer needs

What do you need advice on? There's nothing in your OP which is asking for advice.

It is probably correct that parents wouldn't leave negative feedback - they just wouldn't leave feedback at all. So all positive feedback is a good sign

jesus, is this shite still going on?

is there nothing on the telly?

susie if this thread doesn't put you off ever posting again, I will be amazed

actually it stopped more than two hours ago. Shhhh, if you don't say anything it might drop off the active list.

oh...

doh!

trust me to be playing catch up!

I would mind their child as long as I was paid, I suppose parents who work full-time need a bit of 'me' time without the children, if they haven't got family to help and they have a good cm to help in that way they can feel secure in the knowledge their child is being well looked after.

Many parents feel alot of guilt when they leave their child, I've known parents to cry and after a month or so give up work because they cannot bear to be separated. I'm sure she loves her children, its probably just a bit of breathing space.

I wouldn't offer discounts, remember you are not a charity, you are running a business paying for food, insurance etc, some parents wil take advantage if you offer them days off for free - be aware!

is this still going=I dont agree wish it would piss off
bet you're hoping for an alternative,a proper old school moan at the working mums.swop stories of how they abandon the weans

see that's the thing as a cm, don't post a judgey thread about the working mum. that won't just sit unnoticed.and calling it cm club is no decoy either

as Susie can well see, you will get called on it

It's really none of your business. How judgemental...

Scottish mummy you seem to be thinking I am actually bothered about whatever opinion you have!

I can assure you that you are most definitely mistaken!!

Thank you for the advice mum2luke.

I used paid childcare a few years ago and remember how much of a dent it put in my wages so would like to carry on offering a discount. Will see how I get on over the next few months.

all the feetie stamping and dont care
quite funny
o-k let me type s-l-o-w-l-y to let you catch up Susie.you see it goes a bit like this

you,typed a judgey post got called or it. now naturally you want to vociferously protest dont care what u fink
good for you!
i agree I'd hate to think you were taking this seriously in anyway

Oh I can't help but feel a bit sorry for the little baby.

NB: I have read the whole thread .

she doesn't care scottish mummy that's why she left the thread back, what?, in her 5th last post?

you feel sorry for Susie kids?
yes they do spend 60hr week with mindee
and mum works 60 hr week (same as the mum)
suppose both Susie will empathize with the mums 60hr week

Eh? I think part of the reason your posts don't put me up nor down is I don't understand a word you write.

is it selective incomprehension or global incomprehension,Susie

Yes I do believe that it happens, since I quite regularly put my children into childcare and I don't even work. It's the only time I get off, and some of it has been funded as respite care. Would hope any of my childminders never brought my situation to the internetz though.

Agree with rabbit, it's very unprofessional :(

in fairness,as the other cm have said
good cm don't gossip online about the mums
enjoy your respite day

Sorry haven't read the whole thread. Just wanted to say my lovely childminder actively encouraged me to do this ! She said it was important for me to have time for myself and would always gladly have ds for me to go shopping/get my hair done or whatever

yes good point by SM - a CM working 60 hours a week will be doing quite a few more, keeping house clean, swabbing decks each evening, record keeping, planning, cleaning toys, laundering the baby's cot sheets daily etc etc etc.

Susiemumof why don't you do us all a favour and hide this thread. Scottish mummy is just going on and on about the same thing.

I used to use a childminder like you who was lovely and really cared about my son.

As a working mother I feel guilty about leaving my child as probably a lot do on here. Think you have hit a raw nerve with a lot of working mums on here.

I am with you I feel sad for the baby that she has left so long with someone else.

For those of you who she is unprofessional we do not know where she lives.

I am a SAHM so never use child care but I certainly would use it if I worked and had a day off especially seeing as you pay for it. Maybe not for a whole weeks leave but a day here and there why not? It is really hard to get things done with little ones running around. I have every day to get all these jobs done so can afford the time to do them with "help" from a kiddie. But if you have limited time and rare days off you would want to get things done as quick as you can.

And also if she works 60 hours a week she probably has a load of eastenders to catch up on :)