Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

[susiemumof]

Not looking for a argument or aibu type thread.

Am new to cm and have a 6mo mindee 60 hours per week, mum has a day off next week (which she did not even need to tell me about) but has said she will still send said mindee as she would like a day to herself.

I actually offer a large discount on days when mindees are not with me so can't even put it down to wanting to get her monies worth.

Was just really wondering how common other childminders have found this?

It's obviously no problem for me to have the child and I am loving my new job, it just makes me a bit sad for the baby itswim.

I wish I could afford to send my 6 and 3 year old to CM for a few hours a week as they used to love it so much and miss her and the other mindees. Fortunately she is just round the corner so we do see her anyway but not quite the same.

1950'shousewife my career before involved working with abused and neglected children so your judgment that there is a difference between us there is totally wrong.

I can see from this thread that many people think their childminder is nothing more than a hired servant who should bow down and be grateful for the money given to them but thankfully my real life experiences have been nothing like this.

I like mindees mum and I love looking after mindee, never once on this thread have I bad mouthed her.

I am surprised that she is leaving her dd with me for 12 hours when she is on holiday, it's not something I would do. Likewise she was surprised that I let my 21mo dd walk down the front two concerete steps of my house last week unaided. Does not mean she thinks I am a terrible parent (I hope) just because I do things she is surprised about.

There are so many vile comments on thus thread from people wanting to try and "prove" that their point of view is the correct one that everyone must agree with that makes me think they must not be happy with their own situation.

"There are so many vile comments on thus thread from people wanting to try and "prove" that their point of view is the correct one that everyone must agree with that makes me think they must not be happy with their own situation."

eh?

I don't get it.

I can't imagine feeling anything but admiration and empathy for any single parent who works 60 hours a week, let alone one with a 6mo baby.

I am surprised that she is leaving her dd with me for 12 hours when she is on holiday You didn't say surprised, you said sad.

Vile comments Really? OK.

makes me think they must not be happy with their own situation I don't have a situation. I don't have a child requiring childcare. My disagreeing with you has nothing to do with that, I don't agree with parents being judgemental about other parents. Especially those who are providing one to one care for their children.

Your charge is sleeping and you are on Mumsnet? I would have thought you would have wanted to spend any time not working with your child (as you also work 60 hour weeks even though this is unacceptable for someone else). Game. Set. Match. Put your soapbox away and go and be the perfect parent.

My own child is asleep, are they not allowed to sleep at the same time

Hell of a sleep they're having. Anyway, I'm leaving this thread now. I'll leave you to read your Daily Mail.

I don't think you are even a childminder.

lagoon think you may be right.

I've read the whole thing now, I doubt you are actually a childminder.

However, if you are...wow.

There's a single parent working a 60 hour week with a 6 month old baby.
Most people don't do that for fun.

How many people judging this woman have had to work a 60 hour week with a 6 month old who may of may not sleep through the night?

Do you know how exhausted she is?
Do you realise that in all likelihood she gets home late and doesn't have time to do much?
Do you know medical appts/dentists/bank appointments and a million other day to day jobs can only practically be done during the week?

I want someone who is a lone parent, having to work these hours to feed, clothe, put a roof over DCs heads to judge the mum for needing 1 day to herself.
I haven't heard anyone yet, I wonder why?

FWIW mine went to nursery from 4 months 8-4 every day.
If I had a rare day off and had to go to bank, doctors, dentist, clean the house, I sent them to nursery.

They are teenagers now who can't even remember going to the bloody nursery.

I am a very naughty mummy, my DD has been to nursery today and i have been to the hairdressers.

ha susie, next time you have a question about your childminding, remember to keep the thread title to something that only the childminders on here would answer, don't try asking a simple question that will invite mums who use childminders to answer as you can see from the reaction here the abuse you will get

good luck with your business

(when I was a childminder any threads I started usually had "childminders club" preceding them)

Ahhh right Faye thank you! Rookie mistake I have lurked a fair bit and noticed the club thing so will keep that in mind in future!

yup, scary the amount of backlash you can get on here....

face you wrote a shitty post
and got called on it
instead of thinking,yes was bang out of order, you chose to get all huffy and owww get the abuse I've suffered

and nah,even if you prefix your petty gripes with cm club you'll still get rumbled if you're bitching about the working mums.

and the working mum is a hero, clearly driven and hard working having to put in a 60hr week - she needs a medal not derision

Perhaps if you weren't slagging off your clients on a website that is largely populated by said clients, then you wouldn't get a drubbing? Just a thought.

Biting the hand that feeds you is never a wise move. And then how would you pay for all those little treats?

I think we have already covered all these points! several times actually!

I am not biting the hand that feeds me!

I am not slagging of mindees mum

and

If this job did not pay for my "little treats" I would be finding another job that did bit obvious that one!

I do this because I enjoy it far more than my old job, however if i ever needed to I would go back to my old job and start using childcare again myself (:o shock horror the terrible childminder actually used childcare herself in the past!!)

lol,no you don't get to determine what points we discuss
write an iffy post expect to get called on it
I'm curious though...for someone who doesn't need to work.(and only does it for fripperies for the kids) that you work 60hr week

gosh whenever do you see or attend to your own children.all that working

My own children are with me all day, that's what happens when you are a childminder you look after your own children as well as others

but you're minding and attending to someone else kids 60hr a week? means your kids not getting full attention. surely. given you're working

what fripperies do you need that require you work a 60hr week

I love people that say "oh I don't need to work so hours a week, I do it to buy little treats" and then judge people that actually do have to work to pay for actual things like food, light and heat

cm works 60hr week
judges mum for...60hr week
kettle
black
pot

Show me one post on here where I have judged mindees mum for working 60 hours a week!

Also I may not spend as much one on one time with my youngest dd during the day that I did with my elder dc but she gains loads from having other children around during the day.

Susumu of think you have hit a raw nerve with a lot of working mums on here. Scottishmummy she is still looking after her child all day though, her way.