Parents sending children to cm while they are on holiday themselves

[susiemumof]

Not looking for a argument or aibu type thread.

Am new to cm and have a 6mo mindee 60 hours per week, mum has a day off next week (which she did not even need to tell me about) but has said she will still send said mindee as she would like a day to herself.

I actually offer a large discount on days when mindees are not with me so can't even put it down to wanting to get her monies worth.

Was just really wondering how common other childminders have found this?

It's obviously no problem for me to have the child and I am loving my new job, it just makes me a bit sad for the baby itswim.

op, I've childminded and I can tell you some people can't be arsed with their own kids, simple as that

the baby you mind sounds lovely, you must enjoy having her, but if the parents send her to you 60 hours then don't want a rare day off with her you can be assured they fall into the category of cant be arsed

of course childminders judge parents, we are mums(usually) first, childminders second, if all the parents on this thread are so sure of their choices then they wont/shouldn't give a rats arse if their childminder judges them

anyway the op was asking childminders their views,as she is new to childminding, she wasn't asking for the usual working- mum- defensive- posts you read so much on here

so go on, flame me instead of her

I'm feeling quite sorry for the mother tbh, she is back at work 60 hours a week when her baby is only 6 months old, she's separated from her baby's father, and she is being judged for having a day to herself . She possibly has PND and needs that day to herself.

I've always sent the DC's to nursery on my days off.

I have a whole week off soon and they will be at school + nursery every day. I have months of stuff to catch up with (am almost at cracking point), that includes going to the gym and catching up with a couple of people.

"she is being judged for having a day to herself"

She has every weekend to herself. Isn't that enough?

Faye you cannot "be assured" - don't be bloody ridiculous. Last time I sent my DCs to school and took the day off work was because I was having breast screening. All was fine as it turned out but I couldn't have done it on the weekend, or taken DCs with me.

OP's client might be having a chest X-ray or she might be having her nails done - neither you nor she have the least clue. In a few months time the OP will probably know the score.

you can be assured [ ] can't be arsed Or you can be assured they have something else to do that isn't baby-friendly. Or you can be assured that it is fuck all to do with you.

Like I said earlier - that attitude is exactly why I would choose a nursery over a childminder. I think judging other parental choices stinks and I wouldn't want my precious child around anyone with views like that - not with one to one care.

the baby's 6 months, it can go to things with you

and if the mothers having her nails done instead of spending time with her baby she rarely sees to me that says cant be arsed

LtEveDallas, Nursery's judge too!

ha evedallas. dont worry, am sure the girls looking after your kids in nursery would never judge you

NOT

How do you know she has the weekend to herself? She could be working. No one really knows the full situation.

Faye, my DD was looked after by her father for 2 years whilst I was at work, and then went to nursery from 2.5 yrs till 3 yrs when we moved overseas. I think I met her primary nursery nurse 3 or 4 times. NN didn't know me, so would have no reason to judge me.

Who said the mother was having her nails done? OP doesn't know what she was doing (and yet she chose to judge, huh.)

I wasn't arguing that having nails done was a reasonable use of time FFS, I was arguing that you don't have a clue whether she's having her nails done or bikini shopping or having 2 hours of root canal surgery, or a job interview, or any number of essential things that can't be done at the weekend and are best done without a baby if at all possible

Absolutely Boring, I could think of hundreds of things that it would be better to do without a baby in tow.

why shouldnt she judge eve? has she no right to an opinion because it suits working mums to think their childcarers would never dare to judge them?

join the real world, the op is childminding for money first, love of the job second, just like everyone else

if she has a judgement of someone thats her perogative

miaow. not judging?yeah right
youre obviously judging
wel she's not answeable to you, youre the paid cm not the super ego

hi sm, fancy a fight

my kids go nursery when I've got day off or work at home
I go haircut, gym, lunch all things I don't want to do with weans in tow

Don't you think that nursery workers judge you , of course they do. My niece works in one and is always bitching about parents. Not many appointments last all day surely she could spend a few hours with her.? I think a lot of mums feel guilty about working and will keep trying to justify it. Glad this baby has found a love,y childminder.

Why should anyone judge? What have other people choices got to do with anyone else?

Whose business is it other than the mothers what they do with their time?

Why, in this day and age, is it so important for women to bitch about other women? Surely we are all doing the best we can with what we've got.

Being judgemental is just yet another way for one person to feel superior to another. What gives you the right?

Unles of course it is your own insecurity of your own choices - which would make sense "I can't be that bad, at least I don't do XXX"

I think it's very wrong.

judge all they want
I pay their wages
it's a business transaction,not looking for a pal.

Exactly, Boring. There are so many things that could be done on a day off from work without even a completely adorable baby in tow. I hope at least some of them - dental, medical, legal... - are acceptable to some posters on here, and don't mean the mum doesn't care for her baby.

I like time on my own
no work pressure
no weans
and fortunately I pay for ft nursery so I can have time to myself,weans watched
bliss

I used to child mind one of my best friends children. When she was on maternity leave with her 2nd child, the 1st came to me all the time. She also had assorted days off work to do both important and not so important things. None of my business what she was doing. I was her cm and she did what she felt was best for herself and her children.

Adults are generally quite capable of organising their own lives without being judged by other people.

Lovely isn't it that our paid childcare judges us. I have clients and I don't judge them. Why would I? They pay my wage. Some of you need to get a grip and be thankful that some poor souls have to work 60hrs. The last thing they need is their hired help judging them