My nanny is taking the p**s and dont anyone try and tell me otherwise.......

[3rdcornet]

Ive have emplyed 5 au pairs and 5 nannies. All of them bar 1 have taken the piss out of me to varying degrees.

The current so to be not one is a nanny/HK to my 2 teenagers. `fully ofsted registered and paid £26k a year live in ( in Manchester ).

I have discovered she is taking some ( not all ) of our laundry to the local ironing service and paying for it out of the kitty. Treating her self to lunch and coffee out of the kitty most days ( usually in Starbucks ) and shopping exclusively for her food for her self contained accomodation on the family credit card ( which is for work use only ) in Marks and Spencesr when she shops for the children in Morrisons and won't eat what they are eating.

On top of that she is she says too busy to do cleaning yet most days is somewhere other than my house in our car. I know this because we have randomdly popped home during the day and she is out in our car not hers and I can see where she has been using the credit card......35 miles in the opposite direction to the one school run she needs to do a day.

She also sneaks things for her own home through amazon on our account too. Ive found the delivery notes in the bin !!!

Dear God I feel a fool. I thought I could trust this one. The others have mainly been worse. The one before faked a family death to get a months compassionate leave and snuck off to America on holiday. She never came back !!

Oh well. You live and learn. I will never employ a nanny again Thank goodness and good luck and my commiserations to all of you who unfortunately still have no choice.

Im here for advice !!!!!!!Coz I got it so right !

What is your view on the hoover bags Kate?

I'm a nanny and I do think she is taking the piss a bit.

I have seperate accommodation and my contract states ALL meals, however I do buy my own food at weekends and if I fancy something a bit different during work hours. I would never expect my employers to pay for ready meals. I generally eat what my charge eats, I buy our food from Tesco or Sainsbury and occasionally Waitrose and she has a mainly organic diet which means I do too! I don't have a credit card for their bank, I have an M&S card which I pay off monthly, when thy pay me and I get the benefit of M&S points! But this is for their shopping only and I keep all receipts for them to look through, I don't think they do though and I would never betray their trust by misusing it. Once trust is gone, then hey have choice but to find alternative care.

I also have sole use of a car, it is my car, my employers cover petrol but if I go further afield ( to my parents who live 90 miles away, ex-charges who live 50 miles away and then I take them out somewhere, to see friends who live more than 50 miles) I will fill up the car on my way back and pay for it myself.

The OP says that she has three teenagers, they may all be under 15, would you really leave three teenage boys with a 20 year old au-pair? They'd run rings around her! I occasionally proxy parent for my 14 year old ex-charges, they love me but still try to con me! It may only be for 3 or 4 hours in the evening and an hour or so in the morning but what about school holidays? 12 hours a day and (I'm guessing they are at private school) 19+ weeks a year. And then there are sick days on top of that, I guess that she is on call when the boys are at school? Her driving 35+ miles away from school would worry me, what if one of the children were ill, it would take her around an hour to get to school to pick them up, this is not on if you pay her to be on call.

When I have looked after school aged children (after being with them since they were babies) I would do my jobs then go to meet friends for coffee, go to the gym, shopping etc but I was always no more than 10 minutes from school and had my phone on me and on loud.

Once trust is gone, then they have no choice but to find alternative care!

Sorry that was a bit of a novel!

I think I should become a nanny......... she is having a total laugh op

Holy - because they weren't for the OP. Doesn't matter how boring they are. if they weren't for the OP and the nanny used the OP's money to buy them then it's theft. Everything on my list was for me or my children...not too difficult a distinction surely.

It does seem an odd thing to be buying though. Another job or drugs mule? This is all more interesting than homes under the hammer.

Margo If the nanny is using the hoover bags in another job/in her role as a drugs mule, then it is stealing as they're not for the op. The OP hasn't asked her nanny about the bags yet, so we don't know that the bags weren't intended for her/she bought the wrong ones by accident. What I don't understand is why your response to 'my housekeeper bought hoover bags without telling me' is 'she's a thief'. If it had been an Ipod it would be very easy to see that as housekeeper she has no need to be buying Ipods on the OP's account, but surely hoover bags could have a very reasonable explanation?!

Oh dear, really not a very trusting person. I would consider a childminder rather than nanny and ask your teenage kids to help you around the home.

so what happened .......

yes, what happened? Did you have a talk with her about hoover bags and M&S meals.

the bit that got me was the hover bags surely a house keeper could order hover bags

I know the OP in rl and there wont be an update.

Yes nanny was spoken too and matters have been swiftly resolved.

Very upsetting for all concerned and not appropiate to say on here.

Im sure 3rdcornet will be back in due course . In the meantime a mumsnet group hug is required.

And by the way Northernlurker..........nobody desrves to be robbed.

Well that was a predictable turn of events.

A group hug? This isn't the home of the huns

So the whole story up to the resolution was fair game to post on here, but it's not appropriate to post the outcome? That's just lazy and unimaginative. No hugs from me, that would just make me feel dirty.

hugs have to be earnt big time on mn

marking for hoover-gate

I think you shoyld sack her and employ me as her replacement.

I would do what she is supposed to do for alot less money - I imagine lots of others would too.

I doubt she would be difficult to replace at all.

just seems weird that op didnt come back and say what happened - just that her friend did

swiftly resolved?? does that mean nanny was fired?