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Unassisted Accidental Homebirth... Lets share amazing labour/birth videos we've seen.

184 replies

newmomma · 25/02/2010 12:03

Awesome!!!

Thought it might be nice to share videos of inspiring/amazing births we've been watching (come on we're all doing it!).

Good ones!!

This isn't me obviously

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Lulumaam · 25/02/2010 18:11

sorry, this is not really the thread for this

got carried away

my apologies to teh OP and other posters for hijacking !

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:14

and all of that lulu is true to many mothers... but as you may think of it as 'pethidine can help you dialate' I think of it as pethidine 1. can make you feel sick, 'woozy' and forgetful.
2.If the drugs haven't worn off towards the end of labour, pushing can be difficult.
3.If pethidine or diamorphine are given too close to delivery, it may affect the baby's breathing. and yes an antitdote will be given, but thats more drugs...
4.The drugs can interfere with breastfeeding.

When I was in labor with dd, I didnt think what can help 'me', i was thinking what will be better for 'her'.

(digs deep hole, ready for the shotguns to be fired)

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:15

and yes OP I am sorry for the hijack...it wasnt me, im just trying to defend my opinions

etchasketch · 25/02/2010 18:17

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Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:18

I was just about to post one and killed my MN screen

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:19

www.youtube.com/watch?v=roFVkDV45MM

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:21

that was a bit crap to be fair ..how bout this one www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jYp_Vh6yjM&feature=related

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:25

how calm does this look??? www.youtube.com/watch?v=mO6GGzJWTh0&feature=related

Lulumaam · 25/02/2010 18:26

chelle, i undersatnd all of that

i make sure the motehrs i support know all of taht before labour

a drug free birth is not desirable/suitable or psosible for everyone and women need to know pros and cons .

and that's my final word !! well, on this thread anyway !!

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:27

hehe - i think well just have to agree to disagree lol...one of those things isnt it...

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 18:29

born in sac

thisisyesterday · 25/02/2010 18:33

i had an accidentally unassisted, planned homebirth with ds3!

woke up having contractions, just about had time to get the pool blown up and filled, needed to push, dp rang ambulance as per delivery suite instructions (as i'd said it was coming very soon), got into the pool and he was born with next contraction!

i thought it was lovely.
bizarrely we had been talking about UC the day before and while I would never plan to have an unassisted birth, I'd said to dp tht this time round I really felt like I didn't want people there and that I'd be happy if I were to deliver baby alone.... mother's intuition amybe???? lol

it was a very, very intense 45 minute labour. I really couldn't cope with the pain, but once I was pushing it was fantastic. It was the first time I had felt the head crowning myself (i mean, with my hand) and the whole thing blew me away. We were quite shell-shocked afterwards lol. it was so lovely bringing him up out of the water, finding out he was a boy, and just having cuddles in the pool til the ambulance crew arrived

PacificDogwood · 25/02/2010 19:47

Amazing clips and stories, ladies !

I do wonder though, why oh why do TV/movie directors not take their inspiration from some of these births ?? Not dramatic enough, I guess...

Not sure whether this is what I do or do not need to see just now... due in 10 days.... But so want a pool now!

victoriascrumptious · 25/02/2010 19:54

Chellesgirl, I appreciate what you are saying but you really do have to be careful not to project. If you come on all strong with your anti csec beliefs you can unintentionally hurt women who did everything possible to avoid a csec but got one anyway. I know you are talking about electives but what many women will actually hear is that they "failed" because they had a csec. It can be a HIGHLY emotive issue for lots of cx women.

duchesse · 25/02/2010 20:12

I'm a hippy natural childbirther (two hb under my belt) and would have LOVED an unassisted birth this time around. My daughter alas had other ideas and came out by crash c section. I don't feel cheated, I feel lucky that she and I are still alive. Horses for courses.

I do sometimes wonder, given that a few babies are abandoned every year by girls and women who presumably delivered alone, what happens to women who are in denial and end up in trouble in labour. Do they present at the hospital in advanced labour having had no antenatal care? It must happen that pregnancy deniers get into trouble as well, surely?

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 22:13

victoria to clarify - I would never project my views on women/mothers that are in my care in the future (I dont get a say atm, but when I qualify im talking about) - for I see that no woman 'fails' if she has had a emergency c-section. Please I dont want people to confuse the elective part (the choice of 'cant be arsed to go through labor and birth experience cause it will hurt') and that of a mother/baby that need urgent medical attention.

If a woman tries her best to avoid a cs and gets one anyway she most likely needed one to avoid any further complications...and i am not judging her, mothers who choose an elective cs out of her own perosnal preference to not bother trying to birth baby out..thats what gets my rag going, I am pointing towards the medical professionals that dont aid these mums with the knowledge of why we should at least try for a vaginal birth if there have been no complications during pregnancy and not high risk.

I feel that if you didnt get the birth you want cause of complications and ended in a cs, you should be oh so proud of yourself...it would be heartbreaking if you set your mind on a vaginal delivery. I feel that some things are inevitable and some things can be prevented with better knowledge and medical care. (say GD for e.g. if you dont seek medical care/antenatal care while pregnant...not eating right/missing meals etc...you put yourself and baby at risk, but these can be prevented if the mother has excellent knowledge and someone to guide her through. These days we have numerous amounts of midwives to 1 mum, you dont see the same person twice sometimes and it lies with the NHS. And again I really do apologise if I have upset anyone on here...' no one can make you feel inferior, without your consent'.

bibbitybobbityhat · 25/02/2010 22:23

The midwife who cared for me through both my pregnancies at my GPs surgery was a wonderful lady. She delivered quite a lot of babies at home - I live in an area where home birth is quite easy to arrange, if you want one.

Anyway, she was well into her 50s when she was caring for me. She had had 5 babies. First in hospital. 2 and 3 = at home. 4 = emcs . 5 = homebirth.

Birthing is unpredictable. And can be utterly horriffic. Please reserve your judgement on mothers who choose elcs until you know a bit more about it.

TheLadyEvenstar · 25/02/2010 22:32

soremummy another quick home delivery here....DS2 was born in 4 1/2 minutes.

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 22:58

bib would you elect to have a c-section out of choice cause birth 'hurts'???

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 23:02

btw...worzel...I never actually said 'Im not a fan of CS' you took it upon yourself to say I did??? Or was you relating to someone else????

bibbitybobbityhat · 25/02/2010 23:14

I did elect to have a c section because I was scared of birth. And have no regrets about it whatsoever. I did it for my mental health.

Chellesgirl · 25/02/2010 23:15

The National Childbirth trusts actually says that no female has a 'right' to a CS the descision is made by the consultants and whether or not she is suitable and there is medical reason for it. The NCT says lack of information, loss of confidence in giving birth without medical intervention, fear of pain and pelvic floor damage and the false perception that a Caesarean section is an easy way out are not valid reasons for allowing the upward spiral of optional Caesareans to continue. This is the part that 'im not a fan of' nothing else. I do not see how a surgeon can turn around to a healthy female and say 'yes, well do one, just becuase it will make you feel better and you wont have to ruin 'down there'. A surgeon wouldnt cut off my arm cause I didnt like it now would he???

Lulumaam · 26/02/2010 07:24

you say 'If a woman tries her best to avoid a cs and gets one anyway she most likely needed one to avoid any further complications'

tries her best.. i made that point further down, implying that if women just tried harder , they would avoid c.s/intervention.. it's a very damaging frame of mind

right to a c.s... actually, i believe a woman, especially one with tokophobia, other psychological issues, does have the right to an informed choice to a c.s

every woman should have the right to a c.s or homebirth or water birth or whatever birth they are making an informed choice about

birth is more than delivery, it has a huge impact on a woman's mental , physical and emotional health and not listening to women who want a c.s because their reasons are not deemed good enough is insulting to sentient women!

look, i am a big supporter of normal birth, but am a big supporter of informed choice and not just when the choice comes down to the choice being a home water birth

i think a surgeon doing a surgery because it will make a woman feel better, relax in her pregnancy, stop her worrying , is a good thing, if it is an informed choice to elect for c.s

i really hope htat you have more of an open mind when you practice.. what will happen in your birth ecentre if someone needs more pain relief than you can offer.. or there is a sudden need for a crash section?

the whole attitude of 'must try harder' and there being only one right way to give birth is damaging in the extreme

WorzselMummage · 26/02/2010 07:30

yes you did

Do you have children chellesgirl ?

WorzselMummage · 26/02/2010 07:48

My Sil was told yesterday that she has to have her 2nd baby by elcs. Her first was breech and she has placenta previa for this one. She is absolutly gutted. She doesn't feel like she's done it properly, that in some way her not having vaginal births means she's less of a real woman. It's crazy. People like you only perpetuate the kind of attitude that you only matter as a mother of you breathed your baby out in 5 minutes flat while making no noise and writing a shopping list at the same time.Itis bullshit. If you go in to midwifery with an attitude like yours you are going to make a lot of women miserable.

Fwiw those birth videos are absoluly wonderful. I would love to have an experience like that, I should imagine it's fantastic for everyone involved but they are like that, for the most part, down to luck. There is preparation involved I am sure but it's mostly luck. I would have loved a hb, I probably would have even been interested in hypnobirthing and after my 2 highly medicalised births I was a bit pissed off that it wasn't how I wanted it to be but, you know, it doesn't matter. I am alive and both of my children by some miracle are alive. That's good enough for me.