Who took ages to recover from childbirth? Help and advice wanted from survivors!!

[godivas]

Hello everyone, I actually read old posts about this but wanted to hear more details since I am really despairing now.

I gave birth to ds1 10 months ago. Total trauma in the delivery room. No episiotomy. Ventouse and 3rd degree tears.

I have so much going on down there still that I started wondering if I will ever recover from this.

Sometimes hurting on the outside, sometimes aching on the inside, sometimes a feeling as if my soft tissues are burned off at the enterance. Sometimes I feel as if I was hit by a bus on the perineum. Sometimes I am totally fine.

Anyone experienced such complications and pain like this for months and months after the delivery?

Seb - can I shamelessly recommend my "hurray hurray hurray" post on this thread? I had what sound like similar problems and I have been really helped with cortisone and massage. It is well worth pushing for treatment - I've had gynaes tell me that the pain was pyschological, OBs who had never heard of cortison, and several GPs who said that they could see nothing wrong and therefore I just had to put up and shut up (well, perhaps not quite as blunt as that!).

It's really hard to keep pushing if you are unlucky to get an unsympathetic doctor - but there are lots of stories of women like me on here who have eventually got their bits back into working order.

Seb - a member of my family, a doctor herself, had something called "pudendal nerve damage" - not to do with stitches or anything like that kind of trauma, but painful damage caused by the birth nevertheless, although it can't be seen to the eye. She's quite shy and didn't go into a lot of detail, and it took a long time for the hospital (QCH - generally believed to be very good) to figure out what had happened, but finally she is getting it sorted.
I mention it in case it is useful. Good luck

Hi Picklesmama, how is your family member getting on with her treatment? I have pudendal nerve damage and am looking everywhere for help and advice.