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c-section a must, if refused i'll need to pay, advise on getting c-section on nhs or paying the nhs in wales, or private c-section in wales

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Ema76 · 13/08/2008 10:39

a c-section is a must for me.
i am really worried that i will be refused one on the nhs. if so i have to have options. can i pay the nhs to give me one? really want to have my baby in wales too which restricts me as it seems more private c-sections are done in London.
Does anyone know of a good private hospital in wales (south in particular) and how much it would cost?

Many thanks for your help.

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sitdownpleasegeorge · 14/08/2008 15:31

So pleased for you that you can now relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

I hope everything goes well for you with the surgery and for your baby.

I also hope that your outcome gives confidence to anyone else who might want to follow the same path.

Qally · 14/08/2008 15:31

Ema, that's fantastic, and good for your consultant in supporting your right to choose.

I hope you have a very happy pregnancy, an easy and safe birth and a gorgeous & healthy baby.

youcannotbeserious · 14/08/2008 15:52

Ema - So pleased it went well...

FWIW, the tone of your message sounds so much happier, now that you have the weight off your mind!

I hope the rest of the PG and the birth are absolutely fine...

My CS was a wonderful experience and I'm glad that you will be able to progress your PG discussing it with your consultant.

colacubes · 14/08/2008 15:58

Glad all went well for you Ema

VictorianSqualor · 14/08/2008 16:06
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VictorianSqualor · 14/08/2008 16:17

You may want to take a look at this birthplan to help you write one for your CS to make the day more special.

EustaciaVye · 14/08/2008 16:17

Glad the appointment went the way you wanted. Good luck eith the remainder of your pregnancy.

midnightexpress · 14/08/2008 16:26

What hanaflower says. I hope you have a great pregnancy and that the CS 9and everything after...) goes well.

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Ema76 · 14/08/2008 16:26

will look at this birthplan document. thank you vsq.

many thanks again for your messages after my post today.

I will also post how everything goes for me, when the time comes and for now I will enjoy being so lucky and pregnant!!!

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LadyThompson · 14/08/2008 16:30

That's handy VS, I'll use that as well.
Offtopic a bit, but to everyone who has had a CS, either joyfully or grudgingly (!) anyone know whether staples are better than stitches? Heard conflicting reports. And is it ok to state a preference or are there (say) medical factors which indicate one or the other? Should start a thread about it I know, but too lazy.

youcannotbeserious · 14/08/2008 16:32

I had dissolvable stitches and I was perfectly happy with my recovery and the scar.

that's as far as I can comment - I didn't get a choice but never asked about it either!

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Ema76 · 14/08/2008 16:38

there are pictures of cs scars on the web and they state whether staples or stitches.

caesarean.org.uk/ScarPics.html

it has pictures of the wound initially, in the early weeks and healed and infected scars.

apparently some staples can be long and therefore uncomfortable.

when i had my hernia op i had stitches inside the wound and glue on the outside. but don't know if that would be an option for cs. glue was great.

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LadyThompson · 14/08/2008 16:39

Well, I don't want to start telling them their job or anything, and I wouldn't have thought of it myself but it was mentioned on VS's sample birthplan. And now I think back, although staples sound awful, like something off of Frankenstein's monster, now I think back I think I read someone said they were good. Maybe I'll ask my obs and she's great but you never really know for sure if you are getting a balanced opinion [overly suspicious icon]

Oblomov · 14/08/2008 16:42

LadyThompson thank you for your previous post. Thank you for expressing so eloquently what I phrased so badly.
By the way, I was apologising for my awful choice of words, to OP. Not what I was actually saying.
I still beg Op to have some counselling for her fear. I would beg anyone to have counselling for a fear, whether it was birth/baked beans/or whatever.
I was not and am still not asking her to change her mind about having an elcs. I am glad she has got it agreed.
Like Cote'd, i really don't mind how someone gives birth. I couldn't care less. Really.

I had a great Cs. And I started a thread the other day , about elcs birth plans, where I was ponted in the direction of VS's great birth plan. I intend to use this this time, to make me CS even better.
Isn't the staples or disolving stitches, or whatever, down to the particular Ob that sews you up ? I don't know.

LadyThompson · 14/08/2008 16:44

Glue! Wow! It's a new one on me. I'll take a look at the pics, though I reckon scar healing is a complete lottery...

midnightexpress · 14/08/2008 16:44

LT, I had dissovable stitches both times and had small problem with healing each time - a litle spot where the stitches split (same place each time) and it took much longer to heal properly than the rest. Not sure if it was me over-exerting myself (esp 2nd time, when I had a rather lively 14mo as well as a newborn )or anything to do with the stitches).

I too wasn't offered a choice, and frankly at the time wouldn't have cared, or had an opinion so no idea about the alternatives.

colacubes · 14/08/2008 16:45

I had staples with my first and stitches with the second, staples were better by far! IMO

Oblomov · 14/08/2008 16:46

At Kings, I had one of those that the MW pulled out, after a few days. Great. No problems with scar. But I too think that recovery is all individual and has not much to do with whether you have staples, disolving, a pully with beads on the end , or whatever.

youcannotbeserious · 14/08/2008 16:47

Oops! I'm talking out of my backside!

Mine was glued!!! I have no brain!

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Ema76 · 14/08/2008 16:51

was your glue great too even tho for different op? youcannotbeserious

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LadyThompson · 14/08/2008 16:52

No sweat Oblomov. Anyway, I was called everything on a thread about two weeks ago, and it seemed to cause huge offence to some people (which was amazing to me, cos I am so easygoing and laidback) when I was in fact only being flippant, so er, I know how it goes It got really personal, as well! I still love Mumsnet though.

I might try and do some more research into this. Cola, what was good about the staples? Have you had stitches another time?

Though no doubt I will end up being given what's cheap and handy, after Mr Bean has done the incision

edam · 14/08/2008 16:56

Glad the consultant was understanding, Ema.

MatNanPlus · 14/08/2008 16:58

Blimey Ema76 you had a busy time of it.

I am pleased that your consultant has agreed to the ELCSand you can now plan for that special of all days your DC's birth-day

Peachy · 14/08/2008 17:04

Ema Glad you got the CS sorted

I do thnk counselling would help- because you might just go into prem labour and really, it's worth a shot!

However I toatlly agree with your right to choose, I chose a HB and somehow that choice seems to get more support on MN than a cs- not sure why (did notice someone on here supporting elec cs who was anti hb for fnancial reasons though )

Anyway, ime thw Welsh maternity services are pretty good compared with the ones where I used to live, you should be OK. Good luck.