have you forgotten the pain?

[skerriesmum]

Can hardly believe my ds is 2 today! Snuggling him this morning I thought back to the first time I ever held him and how wonderful that was, but also how most of that was just the pure relief that the birth was over! I do want more children sometime but I will never be one of those women who say "sure it hurts but you forget once you want another". I will never forget! What do you all think? (BTW birth fairly routine, needed ventouse but not overly long.)

my third labour was the best.was so scared after traumatic birth of daughter where i had no husband even present, he was one hour late after the birth. my present partner was very supportive and helped me use gas and air at the right time and i got that much wanted epidural. the best invention since sliced bread.

Actually I think you forget what the pain sensation is like in your body but you dont forget the emotions; like the fear, anxiety ,anger, excitement, joy, etc.Had v traumatic birth,PPH etc. Dont seem to be ready to forget the bad things that happened as they traumatised me for months after & dd 16mths. I really really want another but very frightened of hospital situation and PND and PTSD. Its whats holding me back from TTC.

My DD is now 2y 9m and I can still remember what it was like. It was very painful and hurt like hell. I had an induction that didn't work, but the labour pains were so bad they were making me physically sick over and over again. And the actual process of having the second 2 lots of gel inserted wre also awful. The c section at the end, however, was wonderful

To start with it did put me off wanting another, but when DD was about 2y 3m I started to think about having another and we have now been TTC for 6 months.

I only look back on my two births with a sense of wow! I was very lucky to have two very quick and minimal of actual pain (did not feel like pain at the time really weird but true)
I do actually find myself saying that giving birth didn't hurt...
Am dying for another baby, the pregnancy I fear more having had hyperemesis very seriously with my dd...

I still remember the pain. especially from the first and 3rd ones. even my "best" birth - active home birth no tears ONLY 6 hrs was still bloody painful and I hated every moment of it. and like others here I am SOOO glad to never have to go through it again. and after 3 vaginal births, none as appalling as many others experiences, I am still jealous of those with a good reason for an elective caesarian

I agree with Melsy - it's very hard to remember what the actual pain feels like, only that it was horrifically painful!! What I can really remember from ds3's birth, because I was very in control and calm, was the unbearable pressure down below during the later contractions. It felt like I was going to split open .

Would do it again though - my births were all fine and the second two were very quick so I've not experienced the long drawn out pain and exhaustion that I know others go through - that would be a completely different story!

Just read some of these posts and agree that going through pregnancy again is not something I'd go through again in a hurry but the actual birth I wouldn't mind (had 3).

no pain no gain!

27 hours but can't describe the pain. All I remember was that the TENs didn't help one jot and I wanted my mummy after about 15 hours.

i was in labour for 17 hours but ended up having a emergency c-section. im a wimp on pain but ive forgotton about it now - baba is 4 months old. (i cant remember half of it)

God yes, the afterpains you get with subsequent babies! I remember there were two of us in the hospital ward who had just had our second babies and we looked at each other with disbelief as we doubled up in pain whilst trying to breastfeed!

Still remember 5 years on and it has put me off having any more!

what pain - I had an elective CS

Actually, ripping the dressing off was quite sore!

I thought I remembered the pain but, with both second and third, when I went into labour I really remembered... It was a "Oh S*, not again" type reaction. Somehow my body had somehow blocked the full horror of it, but the onset of labour triggered the memory.

No. Hence no further plans for children (as apposed to child)!

have forgotten the pain but just remember that it really really bloody hurt iyswim

If anyone had been honest with me about the intensity of the pain I would actually have been much better - my biggest problem during labour was that i had no idea it could be that intensely all-consuming - and then I had myself convinced that something/everything was going wrong because it did really hurt more than i knew what to do with it iykwim? No 2 due may and at least I know that however bad/painful it gets it is NORMAL! And there is light at the end of the tunnel.

i had a 28 hr labour, and suffered a 3rd degree tear and i can remember the pain!!!my 1st contraction was a painful as the last didnt steadily increase but i have mellowed about it now and i am getting a bit clucky for no 2(dd is 12mth)!!i can still feel the pain though and when you need to push its so weird that you bear down without even thinking about it your body just takes over,i know for about a wk after the birth of dd i was in complete awe because i felt and still feel it is a totally amazing thing and i was so proud of my body lol, i would LOVE to watch someone else give birth because it is such a miracle...

i have a question for you all.... when i was ready to push (i knew before the mw told me i was 10cm) i threw up,the only time i was sick in my labour did this happen to anyone else??

You KNOW it was excruciating, but somehow it gets duller - my boyfriend said that straight after the birth I told people I had thought I would die/ split in two trying to push DS' head out. Then at each telling after that, I seemed to edit it until after a few weeks I was saying 'Oh, it was fiiiiiine!'.

Yes, lilsmum, I threw up then too - that's how I knew I was fully dilated

I remember that it hurt a lot but I don't remember the actual pain. It must have hurt because when they finally gave me the gas and air I refused to let go of it, despite swearing I wouldn't touch the stuff. But what I think made the pain so much worse was feeling scared and alone. Being left in early - but bloody painful - labour all night and knowing that I still had hours and hours to go was really hard.

I had a silent labour (10cm dilated before first contraction) so it didn't hurt at all until I tore which stung a bit. Home birth no meds 10lb baby boy. Didn't like the stitches though although that was not really pain as much as phobia. I had expected it to be much worse. I am TTC at the mo and I know I can't rely on #2 being quite as easy.

I don't remember the actual feeling of pain, that's faded, but like some others have said, I remember that it was agony, excruciating and unbearable. It was as if my body had taken over and was doing stuff without my instructions - stuff that really, really hurt beyond anything I'd ever experienced or imagined. The difference between voluntary muscle contractions and involuntary, I suppose.
Wouldn't stop me going for no. 2 ? at least now I know that a. it stops (at the time it felt as though it never would) and b. for me, the feeling of bliss when I looked at ds on my tummy made up for it, instantly. If I am lucky enough to have a next time, I might choose a hospital birth with epidurals on offer rather than a midwife led unit, though.

dd1's birth was amazing and the pain really wasn't that bad at all, I was expecting it to be much much worse, however dd2's birth was really quick and VERY painful indeed. Yes you do forget the pain otherwise we would never have more than one child but I had both mine at home and so any moaning and groaning was not heard by anyone especially as both times the midwifes only turned up right at the end, so I would say go ahead have another one and do it at home if you can, the beauty about having children and the pain of childbirth is that you know the pain will come to an end. I would have children again and again but its the sleepless nights that get me!!

Although dd's birth was routine and straightforward I recall being absolutely blown away by the pain - so much for "oh, a contraction is like a very severe period pain" - yeah, right! The pain is certainly one thing that is not sufficiently talked about and explained during ante-natal classes. I was shocked at how 'rectal' everything felt - as though the baby was trying to come out of the wrong hole!!

No I will never ever forget it, I got pretty strong contractions (every 5 minutes) straight away the thing was that my waters broke I was exmained sent home started having these very painful contractions went back in was told I was 1cm and would be ages and they would admit me to the ward but then they decided against it as I was "too distressed" for me the terrifying thing was thinking this is agony and it's only just started I could have hours of this, I felt the midwives and DP were saying FFS it's only the start and I was being a drama queen. BUt in the bakc of my mind I knew the contractions must have been doing something.

After lying in the bed sniffing gas and air I remember getting the urge to push it was so so intense like everything was coming out at once. The midwives came in and said you better had not be pushing took one look and said you are fully dilated push away!! Once they said that I was much happier because I could focus the pain on pushing and I knew that if I could push really hard the pain would go. So much for my epidural!! four and a bit hours start to finish with 10 minutes pushing.

Next time though I will know the pain and won't listen to anyone telling me I'm a drama queen.