Overwhelmed - Husband is against getting induced!

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Hi all! I'm currently 38w+0d today. We went to see a hospital consultant recently as my baby was plotting as big in the growth scans - 96th percentile. Note, I have no health risk or underlying medical issues, it's just baby is** measuring too large. The hospital consultant strongly urged I opt for either an induction or an elective c section, I went for the induction. It's all booked in for 39w (next Monday). DH couldn't make it to this appointment and so when I filled him in he was furious as he's anti medical interventions, alongside his entire family. My MIL is also very opinionated on my decision

Anyways, was just looking for some positive induction stories from you guys as I've been around a lot of negativity and criticism recently and started to regret my choice. Or is there a way I can naturally induce myself before 39w?

Thanks x

No, he needs to be supporting you all the way, and your MIL can buzz off.

I was induced with my second baby, as my waters were low, although I was over 40 weeks by that stage.

It's absolutely fine, or as fine as anything related to birth can be! You must absolutely follow your instinct and obtain all the info you can get in order to make an informed decision for yourself. This is your call!

Regarding the experience. labour began about 20 hour after first being induced (i got the prostin gel 3 times). The labour lasted only 4 hours and progressed extremely quickly and caught every one by surprise, despite being already in the hospital. In contrast to my first, in which the labour took well over 20 hours.

She's a happy and healthy little girl and I recovered quickly.

Best of luck!!

It’s your body and you’re the one that will have to deal with the consequences if you don’t have the induction and something goes wrong. It’s absolutely none of his business. And I would go as far as to say it’s abusive of him to try and stop you from having medical treatment that you need and potentially endangering your life and your baby’s life.

As for experiences, I was induced at 39 weeks because my son was also measuring big. It wasn’t the most pleasant experience at the time but my son was born completely healthy and I recovered quickly which is the most important thing. I do hope to avoid an induction in future pregnancies if possible but if I needed another one for medical reasons I would 100% do it again.

As others have said: DH and his cloven hoofed horde can wind their necks in. Then they can fuck off.

Medics tend to prefer baby tucked up inside mum. If they recommend eviction, especially an early one, there's a bloody good reason. Either you or baby are at risk.

You've made the right decision. They're trying to bully you out of it for some silly idea.

Unless they prefer the totally natural result of death? There's a reason a cash strapped government shell out for expensive maternity care, you know.

To be fair the "timed planning" is a great pro for the doctors. Isn't a positive for the baby.
And as said above shoulder dystocia is more likely to happen with an induction than normal spontaneous birth

Hi, since baby is big your decision for an indiction is wise. I had an induction at 39 weeks, they broke my waters by mistake in the process and I ended up with an emergency c-section the day after the induction as my baby was in foetal distress. I had gestational diabetes but my babies were both classed as tiny babies and there was some concern they were not growing as they should towards the end as they didn’t follow the plots on the graph. I had scans every two weeks as high risk pregnancies. Both kids are healthy. My DH is a Doctor and agreed with my decisions.

My first was measuring 95th percentile. I opted to be induced at 38+2. I was unfortunate and it did end in c-section due to failure to progress BUT i wouldn’t change my decision. My son was 8lb 10oz born at 38+5. There are risks associated with high birthweight like shoulder dystocia, it wasn’t worth the risk for me to choose not to go ahead. I had my second last year who was also measuring big, I opted for a planned c-section, he was born at 9lb 4oz at 39+6.

it’s your body so you need to do what’s best for you.

Your body, your decision. When HE has to squeeze something THAT big out of an opening in his body THAT small, he can decide no medical intervention is necessary. Until that point, he can STFU and hold your hand, because i’m sure none of this is an easy decision for you. You must be worried and him and his bloody mother aren’t helping!

I have two positive induction stories! First one (38 weeks) took ages to get started but once they broke my waters and put the drip in he arrived within 6 hours. Second time induced with twins (35 weeks) I was already a couple of cm dilated so they broke waters straight away (once I’d had steroid injections) and then once the drip kicked in they were here in 3 hours. Just gas and air as no time for much else! No forceps etc needed. Only thing I struggled with was being monitored and not being able to move around and make myself more comfortable. Not had a birth other than induction so can’t compare but mine were quick and simple!

Well- your body, your choice
always.

it does beg a bigger question though- how fundamentally opposed to medical intervention is he?

I don’t want to be dramatic, but if you aren’t in a position to advocate for yourself, then you might want to consider who CAN advocate for you, whether as a birthing partner or in your wider life. I sure as hell wouldn’t want to trust someone who wouldn’t say- give it everything you have if I’d been in an accident or whatever.

Hi! Both my kids were born by induction. They were both back to back so just weren’t going to come out any other way as head wasn’t engaged correctly and I’d been doing all the things to do to try to turn baby for days. They were both really positive experiences. The first one the pessary didn’t work so I had to have the drip - if this is the case I would recommend thinking about pain relief beforehand as it is painful. I requested an epidural too late but was able to have diamorphine which worked really well. Second induction the pessary worked a bit too well but was nowhere near as painful as the drip, she was very ready - I went from nothing to full on contractions within a couple of hours and then the second stage lasted 15 mins! As I said before I heard horror stories about induction beforehand, and I think it’s good to be prepared but I have nothing but good things to say about mine and wouldn’t have done anything differently.

He doesn't know better than a specialist doc. The baby will be fine to come out at 39 weeks.

I wonder how far he is happy to play monopoly with your and your baby's health in order to support his own belief's.

Your DH and MIL are anti-induction? Fine. They don't have to be induced. No one's forcing them to be induced. Their body, their choice. 😉

Same goes for you. Your body, your choice. Take advice from the medics, not from ideologues. And if you decide to be induced, that's your decision and absolutely zilch to do with them.

How dare they!

I'd be very careful in future about any attempts to interfere.

I’d be questioning whether I’d want to stay married with someone who thinks they know better than a consultant but also feel they have any say over my body.

I’d trust the medical professional every time.

I'm sure it's been said a million times but more is more..

Your H doesn't get a say on anything medical that happens to you,
Your MiL definitely does not get a say in anything that happens to you.

Line in the sand now otherwise she'll be saying about what you feed your baby, where they sleep, etc etc etc

Natural induction - curry, a walk, rhubarb and custard. Repeat.

I hope this is a joke, because this is disgusting. I’m assuming he won’t be allowing any pain relief once you’re in labour either?
What if you were seriously ill and required “medical intervention” - would he be opposed to that too?

I think you have a DH problem

This - he has a problem with medical interventions and so do his family?
So what?! Fuck all to do with them .

Well inductions can be horrendous. The c section is your safer bet but you do have a dh problem and if the induction goes wrong it doesn’t sound like you will get much sympathy

Hello, had an induction which was fine and baby, 2 weeks late was born shortly after at 11lbs something. Strongly recommend following consultants advice, they’ve done this a lot!
also I too would be very concerned about no medical intervention . It sounds beyond controlling. Are they controlling in other ways? I’m concerned that it sounds like he’s annoyed because he can’t make that appointment
also what happens if you do need medical intervention during/after? Things can happen which would have been disastrous in the past but thanks to medical intervention..big hugs and congratulations btw!

It’s your 100% choice and preference OP. Not sure why your in-laws are voicing their opinions at all.

I was induced a few weeks ago and couldn't of asked for a better experience. I was quite anxious about it all but had no reason to be. Had a lovely breakfast before going to the hospital, had a pessary in at 12pm. Went for lunch, did a bit of shopping, listened to music, danced etc... ( To get my oxytocin up) Contractions started around 5pm, waters went at 6pm when the MD checked me. Walked over to the Labour suite, got in the pool and my little girl was born 2 hours after. Pain wasn't bad at all, I just focused on my breathing, did belly breathing etc... I had a scan and they recommended I was induced the next day, which was a bit of a shock but I think knowing when it was going to happen made it easier. Wishing you all the best whatever you decide.

your husband is talking out of his arse. Women die in childbirth. Medical science really is a wonderful thing. Please listen to your doctor. You risk more intervention by leaving it. I was induced. My little man did not want to come out but we got there in the end. He was a bit battered and bruised and MASSIVE. Luckily no tears but they did cut. My placenta also didn’t come out and had to be removed with a spinal black.

Not many pregnancies of no medical intervention and you set yourself up if you aim to not have medical intervention.

I wouldn’t want him in the delivery room tbh. You need to be able to make decisions for yourself in there and have somebody to advocate for you if you can’t for whatever reason do it for yourself.

Agree with this. If you do do induction I’d recommend epidural first before they start you on the drip. Those things are crazy

What the ever loving fuck is his problem? So sorry you're procreating with such a dickhead

I had an induction and it was fine, I also had an epidural which I would recommend.