I do NOT want to give birth again, I do NOT, I do NOT, I do NOT

[FillyjonkisCALM]

(I am sorry if I am scaring first timers, I just need to get this off my chest. So please click on a "how many nappies do I need" thread or something.)

I do NOT like the pain. It is not bloody "special" pain as far as I am concerned. It is JUST PAIN. Pain is NOT GOOD. Drugs are inadequate. I don't WANT to squeeze something the size of a cantaloupe melon out of my fanjo, I want a nice general anaethetic and to wake up, oooh, once the baby has learnt to sleep.

I have a week or three to go and I am vaguely panicking.

And yes I have tried sodding TENS...

I don't want to put anyone off here, I am feeling bad but I am actually bloody terrified-and this is number 3, btw...

(awaits possible telling off)

oh and I don't want to breastfeed. I WILL but I don't want to. I want to get this baby out and then go and BE BY MYSELF and not huge for about a week.

(I feel better now)

Starlight - I was pushing for 3 hours as well! Well 3 1/2 actually (not that I'm trying to outdo you or anything ). I ended up with a local down there as well because they had to cut me twice to finally get DS out. Consequently I felt hardly any crowning sensation at all which was marvellous.

Having said that, the consultant accused me of not pushing properly because I was scared of the crowning pain. In fact I was pushing as hard as I possibly could, through horrific back pain, and I was feeling nothing except those terrible backache contractions. Nasty, nasty business.

lljkk, am very much concentrating on wardrobe variety also

And the advantage to bf of course is sitting on the sofa watching tv. that is not to be under-rated.

pmsl pruni

link to wet nurse agency pls?

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Filly, I am that you don't enjoy all the pg, childbirth and bf stuff.

I loved being pg, suffering the heartburn, tiredness and sore boobs, insomnia etc.

I enjoyed labour, even though it bloody hurt.

I hated the interventions and the eventual CS for one baby and spinal, episiotemy and forceps for the other.

I loved the bf and take a very selfish pride in doing so.

If I could offer you some of my joy to make it easier for you I would, it saddens me that others don't feel what I felt, seems so unfair, I wish I could help......

Here's hoping that you have a lovely experience after all

In answer to the Op- I can remember feeling exactly like this shortly before my number 3 was born.

I ended up giving birth without any form of pain control b/c the labour was so fast and relentless that to stay still long enough to take some G&A made the pain even worse- and G&A never worked anyway. Upside was it lasted 4.5 hours start to placenta. Recovery time quickest of the three.

She breastfed for the longest of the lot, even thought she was the world's most violent feeder (punching, biting, tweaking, pulling off with nipple still under vacuum, etc...)

She slept OK ish, not brilliant, not bad.

During the labour I swore at my husband that we were definitely NOT doing this again.

About 2 seconds after she emerged I fell in love.

You are having jitters. Your baby will be sublime, you will fall in love all over again, and will not resent anything about the little blighter when it gets here. The labour and memory of it will pass. Hang in there.

[breastfeeding is ] "slightly less of a pain in the arse than ironing, but not much."

that is a brilliant, brilliant quote!

(do you know, I've now bf for a total of about 4 years. Its not actually that I hate it or anything, its that, actually, its bloody boring and a faff. Sorry LLL)

oh and autielin, just to clarify, I really love MY kids too, I think most mothers do. You actually want PRAISE for really loving your kid?

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I have about 11 messages on my answerphone saying "Any twinges, Filly?"

Including from my FIL.

Because OH yes I am going to be chatting to him about the state of my fanjo

Anyway, this baby has to stay in there til I have finished the DNA hat.

I have about 5 days to go until the due date, but my babies are never on time

anyway, I have to finish the DNA hat.

I dunno, I do think homeopathy is largely overpriced sugar water, sorry , but any other suggestions good...

lots of sex, nipple stim and hot lovin' with mr filly.. can help get things going and will take your mind off teh impending birth

Hey Filly... why'd you abandon us Feb ladies????????

Not only did I have to do it all again, I had to push two of the blardy things out, although actually it really was ok.

Just wanted to wish you luck, you can still pop back and see us over on the Feb thread if you like, we haven't forgotten you .

Just take as many drugs as you can. And if you really don't want to breastfeed then surely you don't have to (I am not.. I did try, but it was not happening, and with two hungry mouths to feed it was not worth the heartache for me personally, so bottles it is).

Righto, I am off again, will keep an eye out to see when anything happens for you. Fingers crossed for a quick and painless time!!

i had a horrible birtth with my first one!!
only had gas and air labour 31 hours, tried to have epidural started to push so stopped then had to have vontouse so had tearing 2nd degree was very ouch!!
we have just started trying for our 2nd one

so hoping for
a c section if poss as dont like idea of anything else coming out of there again
or if not poss and epidural

the joys of being a woman!!

With the amount of pregnant women on here who hate childbirth we should stage a demonstration against cruelty to women. Demand action from the government that scientists look into ways for men to share the pain and trauma of childbirth immediately.

Fly- I think that lots of women do like to share the pain during the labour. I mean, I never actually bit my husband, but I know some who did...