I do NOT want to give birth again, I do NOT, I do NOT, I do NOT

[FillyjonkisCALM]

(I am sorry if I am scaring first timers, I just need to get this off my chest. So please click on a "how many nappies do I need" thread or something.)

I do NOT like the pain. It is not bloody "special" pain as far as I am concerned. It is JUST PAIN. Pain is NOT GOOD. Drugs are inadequate. I don't WANT to squeeze something the size of a cantaloupe melon out of my fanjo, I want a nice general anaethetic and to wake up, oooh, once the baby has learnt to sleep.

I have a week or three to go and I am vaguely panicking.

And yes I have tried sodding TENS...

I don't want to put anyone off here, I am feeling bad but I am actually bloody terrified-and this is number 3, btw...

(awaits possible telling off)

oh and I don't want to breastfeed. I WILL but I don't want to. I want to get this baby out and then go and BE BY MYSELF and not huge for about a week.

(I feel better now)

Can I just say that having a general anaesthetic and waking up a long time later to find you've had a baby, is overrated?

But not being pg any more - now that is nice. Concentrate on that part ...

do you do it in the water fills? i know yours are quick like mine...

Oooh blimey, this thread is an education. TTC no.1 at the moment. I always knew childbirth hurt, but now I really believe it...

i shoved the last one out in one, maybe two massive pushes.
knew damn well thats the hurty bit and just pushed for all i was worth to get it out and over with.

heard someone say 'i can see the head, the heads out' . through gritted teeth i snapped ' well if you can see it, PULL it!'

to ripples of amusement

(thyer not allowedd to touch it till its out apparently)

waters didnt break till then... and it didnt hurt till then coz of it. felt them go, then his head just came right down and i thought 'bugger this for a game of marbles, youre coming out right now'.

pmsl at snappy

ds born in caul

ok its useful for bringing good luck on a voyage and that but its SODDING PAINFUL. You just don't want to be pushing ANY extra layers out there...

Have a couple of glasses of wine, then some gas and air, diamorphine, then lots of epidural - hopefully that will numb the pain. BTW if you are on baby number 3 why put yourself through it!!!! Cant be that bad!

oh i was just like that with my 3rd, I was terrified all 3 times and would be terrified if I had to do it again. done the gas and air active birth, done the not terribly efficient epidural experience, done the home birth. it's all different degrees of horror.

dd3 was the least bad. I still wouldn't do it for fun though.

after dd3 I sent round a rather euphoric email saying the only good bit was that I never ever ever was going to do that again.

Oh Snappy, my labour with DS2 was like that - waters burst as he was delivered, so he came out in a great big swoosh, borne forth on a tide of amniotic fluid, piss and faecal matter. Barely hurt at all. Did give DP nightmares for some time afterwards though.

Now I am feeling guilty for being so negative and not posting supportive positive feelings.

My 3rd was definitely better than the other two.

just keep thinking Last Time Last Time This is the LAST TIME EVER

That's what's keeping me going LAST TIME EVER

it ar$ing well IS the last time every

to who it was said "it can't be that bad otherwise why would you be doing it again"-do you want actual details here as to why I am going through this again?

but never never never again. never.

oh and if I go overdue I will go mad

10 months pregnant, crippled with SPD, incontinent, heartburn, on antibiotics for painful sinusitis like someone was jumping on my head, BHs every 5 minutes and someone phones and asks "have you had it yet? what's keeping you?"

Just like to add that I got through having DS3 thinking THIS IS THE LAST TIME EVER. Then I had DS4 (although he was a CS so a different story)

Oh poor you Filly, I don't blame you at all, it's how i'd feel, absolutely. Bloody tens maching - i wanted to grind it into a fine powder both times, i hated it, annoying piece of junk, lightly flicking me in the back while i howled with pain.

I'm a little bit late - only a couple of days, but it's made me think about it all and what if i am, and actually the overwhelming feeling is total dread of childbirth - the last time was so awful and it made me decide NEVER to do it again.

But, you know, if i was, which hopefully i'm not - i just would - and you do, and it'll be ok, eventually. And it'll bloody hurt, but then it'll just stop hurting. And be fine.

Actually i'm not helpful on this one. But bloody good luck.

yes I want the details

we might as well hear about something nice as all this ruddy whinging

oh yes

oh and I have spd and sciatica, not appallingly badly but still its better I don't move, really, it always seems to end badly

And, amazingly, it DOES seem to be possibly for me to aquire more stretch marks

I am still BLOODY TERRIFIED of giving birth...

lol

didn't I DO a thread about it with all the details, about 9 months ago

you SHOULD duck frank, I am bound to be MUCH huger than you. And really, everyone, I think. Everyone, in the WHOLE WORLD.

Anyone else poo the place down while giving birth? I pooed solidly for 3 hours. And not very solidly. that was why I was scared (shitless?) of second birth.

oh why not remind us of the details

a little romantic interlude in among the terror and torment

at the time I think you glossed over the interesting bits, it was just a lot of swearing and bating

I felt like this after ds1 - veryfast birth no time for epi, felt like i had post traumatic stress. The mw felt my stomach (!) and said i wasn't having contractions with my twins, half hour later when i was vomiting they checked my cervix and it was 9 to 10cm. i was wheeled down to labour room and that's when i started shouting 'I am not doing this again, get me a f**king epidural now, i will not give birth' and so on. The anaes came and gave me a mixture of spinal block (because it works immediatley) and an epidural. It was pure bliss - i felt no pain, but felt all of it - i felt a part of their birth, i even noticed delivering their placentas, i pushed them out. i have no recollection of numbness - i could feel it -just no pain.
worth a try?

I felt like this a year ago

ds1 was a hideous marathon that culminated in an epidural, no feeling, HUGE episiotomy and ventouse so on.

DD was a great labour, at home, then I stayed 7cm for an agonising 6 hours and was transfered and had emergency cs.

So, 3rd time round with ds2 I was petrified, very afraid of having another cs which I avoided despite another long labour but I had a good epidural. Like Franny, I could feel pain but not so intense. I could walk about, bounce, stretch and I could push and there were no stitches and it was much better. I was more in control.

I was also dreading bf but acually I've enjoyed it for the first time and he's showing no signs of wanting to give up a year on and I don't mind.

I still feel like I haven't done it properly though - weird how we give ourselves a hard time. Oh, and no-one has more stretchmarks than me, I got them everywhere. Third labours are meant to be strange ones, I bet you breeze through it.

I actually had a spinal second time round, because it was too late for an epidural. It was bliss, and no numb legs. I could feel everything, except the pain. I would never do it again without an epidural or spinal.

Having said that, when I had an epidural with my first one (too late mind you, at about 8 cm dilation), it didn't really work. Just got to experience the joys of shivering like a leaf afterwards when the effect finally kicked in. The key is to get one early.