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Feeling a bit sad I never got to experience a natural birth

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Mariellama · 21/10/2022 14:41

Just that really. I have two gorgeous, healthy children that I'm incredibly grateful for. My friend just gave birth, she had a tricky labour after an induction but had a natural delivery. I'm so happy for her and excited that she's a new mum, at the same time I feel a hint of jealousy that I never had that experience.

With my first I had an induction due to baby's estimated size, really long and painful labour and finally an emcs because her head was in the wrong position.

Second labour, we had a planned c section booked due to previous birth and sorting out childcare for DD but I ended up going into labour naturally. I was super excited to try for a normal birth and labour progressed well but when I was trying to push baby just didn't budge. In my notes it said malpresentation, but I was also in horrendous pain at the time and when I was given the choice of c section or waiting to try pushing again I just couldn't bare the pain so chose the section.

We always said 2 dc and I bled a lot in my second emcs so we don't want more children. Just feeling a little bit sad atm that I've missed out on a vaginal delivery in spite of going through full labour pains. I'll get over it, but anyone else ever felt the same way?

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Bestcatmum · 22/10/2022 10:09

I'm not sure why anyone would think a natural birth is amazing tbh, I'd do just about anything to avoid another one.

TheOrigRights · 22/10/2022 11:50

Bestcatmum · 22/10/2022 10:09

I'm not sure why anyone would think a natural birth is amazing tbh, I'd do just about anything to avoid another one.

Truly? I am sorry yours was not a good experience. I know many, many women who feel positive about their natural births. Surely you must know that natural childbirth isn't horrendous for everyone. This thread is very skewed (understandably).

snowday01 · 22/10/2022 11:54

My first baby - laboured for almost 20 hours, had complications midwives realised too late and was rushed for a crash csection - my baby died. Had I had an elective or earlier emergency C-section she'd be here now. Had two subsequent planned csections and two healthy babies... safety of the baby is always the priority, method of birth doesn't matter it's a means to an end please don't feel guilty you've missed out on a "natural" birth - look at your lovely healthy baby and just be happy they arrived here safe. Once they get to primary no one cares or can tell how they got here! X

Highfivemum · 22/10/2022 12:05

snowday01 · 22/10/2022 11:54

My first baby - laboured for almost 20 hours, had complications midwives realised too late and was rushed for a crash csection - my baby died. Had I had an elective or earlier emergency C-section she'd be here now. Had two subsequent planned csections and two healthy babies... safety of the baby is always the priority, method of birth doesn't matter it's a means to an end please don't feel guilty you've missed out on a "natural" birth - look at your lovely healthy baby and just be happy they arrived here safe. Once they get to primary no one cares or can tell how they got here! X

You are so very correct.
so so sorry for your loss.

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