Should I buy my husband a 'push present'

[Mangotea]

I'm due with my first child in April and wanted to buy my husband a present as he will become a dad for the first time. I'm trying to think of a thoughtful and sentimental gift for him that he can use for many years to come. I'm struggling to come up with idea's..was thinking maybe something diy related as he does so much diy. Perhaps abs engraved tool pen.

On the other hand I don't know if he'll end up feeling a bit sheepish as I don't think a push present for me would even cross his mind. I think he might feel embarrassed that I've done all the labour and he gets a present whilst he didn't even think about getting me a present.

I don't expect a present because I know gifts just don't cross his mind, he's a very simple man. He has bought me lovely gifts for milestones in the past but he also forgets other big milestones. It's hit and miss. I defo won't be sad if I don't get a present and am not expecting one tbh.

Would I be undermining him by getting him a new father present when i know full well the thought of getting me a new mother present hasn't crossed his mind?

Aw people are being very harsh here OP, I presume you are just feeling rightly sentimental about the upcoming birth and the very big life change that will bring about for you both. I get that.

I do agree with the others that a present is best left for father's day, but maybe a nice letter or a card would be a good way to mark the occasion and express your feelings to him - and that will also be something he can keep forever as a reminder of your first child's birth.

I'd organise a newborn photoshoot as a surprise for him/ you both.
They aren't cheap but aren't always mad expensive - ours was about 200 and that was in London.
I was a bit worried about being out and about on day 6/7 post c section but it was fine. We actually quite enjoyed it!!

You can get some nice baby pics for thank you cards etc and some shots of you as a family and also some pics of him and the baby.

Why the fuck would you get him a present? You're the one going through the risky and painful process of giving birth.

I really hate the world sometimes

’Push present’? Don’t know why, but that name makes me feel more 🙄🤮 than it probably should. And I have two children. Isn’t having a baby enough?!

Absolutely fine to get your husband a gift as a symbol of the new baby (I bought my husband a necklace).

Please don't call it a push present though, it's a disgusting turn of phrase.

I ordered my partner a frame that said "Daddy/Daughter". One of those nice ones from Etsy.

He got me some trainers for having a baby, so I was chuffed 😂.

But he's not pushing.. and I think after going through labour you might feel less thrilled to hand him a gift when 10 minutes prior you wanted to kill him.

What about discussing with him that you'd like to treat him (and yourself!) and mark the occasion, and pick something together that you'll both enjoy and that'll be meaningful? I'm voting espresso machine, you'll make good use of it :-)

Just buy him a book about being a patent/Dad, and not one of those funny ones.

The whole point about a push present is for the husband / male partner to spoil the woman giving birth. The whole purpose is spoiled if you push out the baby AND give him the present. You’re right - he’ll look an utter wanker in front of his mates.

@urbanbuddha

What do you call it if you have a caesarean? Just curious.

Agree with others. A baby and a Fathers Day present is plenty.

Sunroof surprise

@Calandor

But he's not pushing.. and I think after going through labour you might feel less thrilled to hand him a gift when 10 minutes prior you wanted to kill him.

Maybe ‘penis present’ since it proves his penis is in full working order. Or sperm subsidy. Ball bursary perhaps.

@Ozanj

The whole point about a push present is for the husband / male partner to spoil the woman giving birth. The whole purpose is spoiled if you push out the baby AND give him the present. You’re right - he’ll look an utter wanker in front of his mates.

I think this is entirely the point to be fair. The pointed comment about how he’ll feel awkward as he won’t have got her anything etc. I think the goal here is to appear as selfless and martyr like as possible in order to highlight his supposed selfishness.

Ball bursary perhaps.

I mean, you already gave him the orgasm...

Buy him a bottle of champagne and make sure you share it. Job done.

A pressie for you hubby a lovely idea, although could save it till Father’s Day perhaps?

Push present - have heard the term, all for hubby’s treating their wives around time of baby but what a yucky phrase, a lot more to growing and birthing a baby than the ‘pushing’ and would c section mothers not deserve one then

@Scandisaurus22

’Push present’? Don’t know why, but that name makes me feel more 🙄🤮 than it probably should. And I have two children. Isn’t having a baby enough?!

I’ve been through labour 5 times but think the phrase ‘push present’ is absolutely horrid too

What craziness is this, made up by shops wanting to sell things no doubt

You want to buy a push present for a man who is not pushing out a baby -I think your pregnancy hormones are all over the place to put it mildly

The whole push present for mothers is more evidence of the world gone mad.you are getting a baby that's a present in itself

@urbanbuddha
"What do you call it if you have a caesarean ?"

We called it an eternity ring

What a very strange idea. Wait until Father's Day and get him something then.

I hate that term. Absolutely loathe it. Congratulations though

@carefullycourageous

I can't understand why you are focusing on this at this point in time?

No, you shouldn't buy him a present. The priority people are you and the baby.

Is he the type to be arsey at not being the centre of attention or something?

I'm almost done with preparing everything, just packed my hospital bag and organised the baby's clothes so I was thinking about other things i may want to do before the baby comes.

Honestly he's not the kind to want to be at the centre of attention he just doesn't have a gifting mind whereas my way of showing love is gifts. Also I know he'd be happy and appreciate the present regardless of whatever I give him.