Should I buy my husband a 'push present'

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I'm due with my first child in April and wanted to buy my husband a present as he will become a dad for the first time. I'm trying to think of a thoughtful and sentimental gift for him that he can use for many years to come. I'm struggling to come up with idea's..was thinking maybe something diy related as he does so much diy. Perhaps abs engraved tool pen.

On the other hand I don't know if he'll end up feeling a bit sheepish as I don't think a push present for me would even cross his mind. I think he might feel embarrassed that I've done all the labour and he gets a present whilst he didn't even think about getting me a present.

I don't expect a present because I know gifts just don't cross his mind, he's a very simple man. He has bought me lovely gifts for milestones in the past but he also forgets other big milestones. It's hit and miss. I defo won't be sad if I don't get a present and am not expecting one tbh.

Would I be undermining him by getting him a new father present when i know full well the thought of getting me a new mother present hasn't crossed his mind?

I can't understand why you are focusing on this at this point in time?

No, you shouldn't buy him a present. The priority people are you and the baby.

Is he the type to be arsey at not being the centre of attention or something?

You are struggling to think of a gift.
He almost certainly won't have got you a gift.
Push presents for the mother are not really a big thing.
Push presents for the father are definitely not a thing yet.
I think the universe is trying to tell you something.

Save the thought for Father's Day when the boards will be awash with people looking for ideas and pick up one of them.

You won’t be getting a push present. Because it isn’t a thing other than with a few self obsessed lovies on Instagram. So knowing that you want to get your dh one. Presumably to make him feel bad?

Just don’t. Blame your thought process on pregnancy hormones and focus on your baby, not the gifts you want.

Don't get him a present.
If you had to, an engraved DIY tool is not the way to go. Would you like an engraved hoover?

Don't fuck up the birth of your actual child by brings in to play the possibility that someone involved is going to be upset of feel embarrassed about not getting you a present.

He gets a baby OP. Save it for father's day as suggested.

If you were honest, you would admit it's you that wants the present though wouldn't you? nothing wrong with that but it's not really that common unless you're minted I think.

I'm trying to think of a thoughtful and sentimental gift for him that he can use for many years to come.

I would have thought that’s the baby?

You should be the one getting the gift mama, you're undergoing the physiological equivalent of training and running a marathon.

@fmac2987

You should be the one getting the gift mama, you're undergoing the physiological equivalent of training and running a marathon.

Are you the unborn baby????

Get a slow cooker or a hoover for him because he’s going to need to do a lot more housework 🤣

Wait until you've done the pushing (or had a c-section) and then decide if he needs a "push present".

He can have a ‘Push present’ 🙄 when he actually gives birth.

@fmac2987

You should be the one getting the gift mama, you're undergoing the physiological equivalent of training and running a marathon.

I'd say it's the equivalent of running a marathon without any training...and no option to give up half way through.

@elp30 you all have not heard about a partner buying a present for the partner who gave birth? Or just the term push present? The term is meh but it's pretty odd if non of your have heard of this as a gesture IMO

I bought my husband a Swiss Army knife when eldest was born. He uses it lots for camping etc always comes in handy.

Traditionally eternity rings were often given on the birth of the first child so not an entirely new concept.

[quote Fernsinthegarden]@Kanaloa I can’t wait for DD to be able to make tea! DH and I are living for the day that she will be able to do the dishwasher 😂[/quote]
My 2 year old loves helping me empty the dishwasher. Start them young

The baby is the gift.
For both of you.

What

You don't need presents. Neither of you will give a shit about present given in the first 6 weeks of parenthood. And then it's pretty much Father's Day.

Don’t do it, OP.

-The whole experience of birth and having a new baby is so overwhelming and life-changing and wonderful, suddenly whipping out a gift bag will feel a bit trite and bathetic.

• However, if you do think it’s an occasion for presents, it should be you getting one not him.

• It’s another thing to have to think about. You’ll honestly have enough on your plate without adding this to the mix.

• It’s just a marketing idea to get people to spend money.

Get something for Father’s Day if you must. But it’s really not necessary. I promise you wont need to give him a gift for you both to feel the magnitude of the occasion.

When you are sleep deprived, sitting on a rubber ring to protect your stitches and crying because of your sore nipples and hormone chaos, you may come to resent his push present. I would wait until Father’s Day when it will seem more appropriate.

You've given him a baby, what more could he want?

No bigger gift than a baby.

It an awful term.

It's a thing here, some new mothers get new cars, diamond rings etc etc. Obvs the wealthier crowd though.

Never heard of a father getting one though. Seeing as he isn't actually giving birth...

Don't you think it will be a bit awkward if you buy him a present because YOU gave birth, and he didn't think to get you one.

Like pp suggested, rather do a father's day present. Otherwise where will it ever end? First smile present. First step present. And then when you have another child....

I have run marathons and given birth. There is no comparison. Marathons are far less painful.