how soon after giving birth

[mum2bejan]

did you start having sex again? I know its probably going to be the last thing on my mind, but I just want to know that I won't be doing myself any harm if its before the 6 week check up.

sex straight after birth - yuck...and ouch!! And leeky boobs are just not sexy. what do i know - I've forgotton what sex is!!?

Oh my god.........I think there is something wrong with me ......once I conceived Dh went totally off sex (I didn't). We never did it. Even once. Once I had ds........... it was probably.........can't quite remember but 9 months and since then ds is 15 months and we've done it twice. We used to be at it like rabbits......we're both permanently knackered and don't have great sex drives. God knows how dc no 2 will be conceived

DS is 5 mo and we are NOT going there yet whatever DH thinks ! I also can't stand the idea when pg. I just find it hard to feel 'sexy' when I feel so 'mumsy'. I also once had a mc after lots of sex and in my mind have kind of associated this with the mc, though it obviously didn't cause it. So one pg I go off it, and don't feel like it again til I stop bf, and have my figure back.
I know this is hard on DH, I really do, but how can you force something you are not ready for ?
I admire those of you who go for it so soon, I wish I was more like that !

2 glasses of wine. Lashings of KY Jelly. Bish Bash Bosh.

will never look at that knor sausage cassorole add again bish bash bosh real good nosh!

I agree with the "feeling too mumsy" when pregnant- worried about the baby "seeing" us at it and I just felt funny tbh. Dh is in a very stressful and demanding job and luckily doesn't feel that strongly about it either. We've both got out the habit (however hope that some 20 year old secretary in the office doesn't get him back in the mood!!!)

after a couple of days! no stitches so no problem!

about 5wks after, i was bleeding for 4wks after giving birth. remember being really scared about doing it. Felt like it being my first time again!! Second you on that one "Northenluker" must get contiception first!! know two people that made that misstake!!

3 weeks with DS1 (but he was an emergency CS delivery) and a lot longer with DS2 (ventouse, episiotomy etc)

6 months and 2 days and counting since DS was born and I haven't felt like it once since then.

shoobedoo.....

6 weeks was mad for it for two months after birth and was not at all in the mood for next ten monthsoblidged him anyway as would have been tormented otherwise

I'm with the after six months crowd! Do NOT feel like it unless the effects of sleep deprivation have subsided and I'm less of a witch.

6/7 weeks iirc but I had a section. We tried one night, and had to stop, did it again the next night with some assistance from a tube of ky jelly.

Well, I was up for it again about 10days after my csection but unfortunately before we could get down to it my wound dehisced. I then had a funny vaccuum drain on my wound for 4-5weeks with a big piece of tubing coming out of my abdomen. It didn't hurt but it did get in the way a bit (understatement of the year) so we waited do do penetrative stuff until it my wound had healed.

Preferably never

dd When I stopped bleeding at 2 weeks , made me bleed so didn't do it for another few weeks. Waited a bit longer second time round. I just felt that I had to know if everything still worked, and I was kind of surprised that it did!

Well, it was more than 2 days but less than a week! And, this might be tmi, but it was wonderful

a few days, in the bath because i was worried it would hurt but so wanted to, IYSWIM? lovely to do it with no bump!

9 months after DS and 12 months after DD
Have no urge that way at all. Love DH but always to tired. Bed is for sleeping
Also didn't have much while pregnant with DD as had quite bad morning sickness followed by SPD which still gives me gyp.

about 2 months, which was too soon. it was awful. figured out afterwards that my stitches were totally bu**ered up and had to have a repair done. after that, a few weeks and we did it again and it was fine then got great. now pg again and next time no way i am starting before i feel ready mentally and phisically (and till then it's b-jobs all the way!).

tbh, any man who's seen what his woman has gone through and has no respect for the fact that it may take more than a couple of hours to get back to normal is a brute!

also- am intrigued- how long did everybody bleed for? i bled for about 6 weeks and thought it was normal. and it was so heavy there's NO WAY i would have wanted to have sex!

3 months both times.

2nd week everytime - have to make sure its all still there!