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Who was present at your birth?

182 replies

LatoyaLondon · 11/05/2018 09:37

I would like my mum and partner present. I know people who have had friends present, aunts, and one had a doula. Out of pure curiosity, who did you have present at the birth of your child(ren) and why?

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Almondsupreme · 11/05/2018 09:39

My DH and hospital staff. One midwife for most of it and two at the end.

I wouldn't have wanted anyone else there

MarthasGinYard · 11/05/2018 09:41

Partner

Midwife and Surgeons

Perfect

Aprilmightbemynewname · 11/05/2018 09:42

Many many dc and only ever dh ad a midmife (occasionally my consultant and once a trainee male mw!)
Bewilders me why some people all but put a bus trip on to the delivery suite!

ILikeMyChickenFried · 11/05/2018 09:47

For DS my husband and a midwife

For DTwins my husband, my consultant ObGyn, junior ObGyn, 3 paediatricians, 2 midwives, anaesthetist, various operating theatre staff and a few med students - it was a planned, early C section and a bit of a demo show for everyone.

The8thMonth · 11/05/2018 11:42

Boy1: husband, 2 midwives and 1 paramedic because the midwives were very late.
Boy2: 1 midwife. Husband and Boy1 were in another room. 2nd midwife didn't arrive in time.

Mine were both born at home so immediate family was there and midwives for safety..

DrWhy · 11/05/2018 11:43

DH for support and because he was partly responsible for the whole situation! A midwife and just about a second midwife to make sure baby was OK.

PinkHeart5914 · 11/05/2018 11:44

DH and midwife, I can’t think of anything worse than having anyone else tbh.

IMissGin · 11/05/2018 11:49

Partner, midwife, student midwife, anaesthetist who told me it was too late for an epidural and the other midwife who had turned up to let mine go for tea break. 9 mins from 4cms to delivery - ended up with quite the room full

Babynonamee · 11/05/2018 11:51

DS1 my DH and my mum was there. In hinsight unfortunately some other family members disapproved of her being there.(my MIL a little jealous and thought it was 'weird') It's part of causing a big family rift Sad Sad

DS2 just my DH. For reasons stated above. (It was possibly part of my reasoning for having an ELCS- so there was no choice in the matter as only one person can accompany you to theatre.)

PotteringAlong · 11/05/2018 11:52

My DH and any medical staff needed. One midwife for DS2 and 3, the world and his dog for DS1!

SleepFreeZone · 11/05/2018 11:55

I had this ridiculous notion with my first labour that I wanted lots of people there (I’m
a twat). What ended up happening was it was me and DP in a room in the labour ward with my doula arriving at the end.

With DS2 it was just me and two midwives and it was fine.

sunshinestorm · 11/05/2018 12:07

If it was too late for an epidural then why would an anesthetist need to still be in the room for the actual birth?

Quickerthanavicar · 11/05/2018 12:07

Me, my mum and nursing staff.

QueenofSerene · 11/05/2018 12:09

Husband and midwife for both of mine, I would have loved my mum to be present and for my second I’d invited my best friend (it was on her bucket list to see a birth) but both labours were so quick it just didn’t happen.

0LIVE · 11/05/2018 12:13

I thought of inviting my boss and the neighbours round to look at my fanny and admire me pooing into a blue paper towel. But in the end I didn’t have time to do a suitable announcement for my twitter feed ( although DP managed to get some photos on insta ).

BodgingThisMumThing · 11/05/2018 12:14

Partner and mum, midwife walked in just as babies legs slid out.

Flisspaps · 11/05/2018 12:15

DH

2 midwives

A registrar

An anaesthetist I think

Maybe a HCA...

Both were forceps births and I wasn't really taking a lot of notice of who was there and I'm usually VERY private

scaredofthecity · 11/05/2018 12:15

I just had my DD a few days ago and it all happened a bit quick and my DH missed it.
Actually it was fine, I was calm and 'in the zone'. We didn't plan it like that but it was all ok.
For my first he was there and the thing I remember most is the sheer look of panic on his face! I think it was actually better just to be able to focus on myself and not worry about him!

Chasingsquirrels · 11/05/2018 12:17

Birth of my children;
Dc1: hospital birth, me & then-DH, midwife (No idea if there were 1 or 2).
Dc2: planned home birth, very quick so was just me & then-DH, although he was on the other side of the room sorting plastic sheeting and I delivered dc2 myself. Dc1 was in the house but asleep as it was midnight.

n0ne · 11/05/2018 12:19

I had two home births with just DH, the midwife, and another nurse/carer right at the end (different system here in the Netherlands). I absolutely would not have wanted anyone else there at such an intense, private, vulnerable time, least of all my mum (who I love but she's hard work, selfish and tactless). We also didn't want DD(4 at the time) there for the birth of her sister as I didn't want her to be scared. Imho a drug-free birth is no place for a kid to be, with the blood and pain and screaming etc. I know some people like to involve their kids but it just seems unnecessary stress on them to me.

happymummy12345 · 11/05/2018 12:19

My husband. We didn't want anyone else there, we wanted it to be just us (despite mums disappointment.
And one midwife and one student midwife (who were 2 of the nicest ladies I've ever met).

Potplant · 11/05/2018 12:21

Me, husband. 2 anaesthetists, consultant, another doctor, possibly a nurse, 3 midwives, 2 paediatricians, students. I had said no to students beforehand, but they only brought them in when I was flat on my back, full of the drugs so I didn't really notice them till it was all underway.

BertieBotts · 11/05/2018 12:23

My partner, my mum and whatever medical professionals needed to be there.

This time I'll just have my husband and the midwives/doctors.

crunchtime · 11/05/2018 12:24

Dh and midwives. The very idea of anyone else being there makes me shudder. Dh was an absolute rock.

evilharpy · 11/05/2018 12:26

Husband and what felt like 90% of the hospital staff.

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