I didn't know I was in labour?!?

[FluffyFlowerFace]

I had my ds at 34 +4 weeks. On the Monday i felt like I had a temperature. I picked up then had period cramps on Thursday. On Friday I started with period cramps but no back or leg pain at midnight. The pain continued but it wasn't unbearable. I passed some blood at 2pm went to hospital and was 8cm. Had him at 6pm. Why wouldn't I know I was in labour?

I don't feel contractions until my waters go with a gush but I silently dilate. With my first I was five cms and hadn't felt a thing. Until they burst my waters. Second waters started leaking so went to hospital and was 6cm. With my third I went for a sweep but was already 6cm when she done it. 36 hours later I woke up with my body bearing down pushing. Rushed straight to hospital and gave birth having not felt one contraction (waters burst as he was coming out).

Fluffy - please listen to the lovely ladies here.

You are a good mum. You have a healthy body which has give birth to a normal healthy baby. There’s is no reason to think that he will grow up small or unhappy in any way.

Every labour is different . Some women don’t even know they are in labour when they have done it several times before. It doesn’t matter, your body knew just what to do on its own.

You have done nothing wrong. You have done a great job giving birth - many congratulations.

There’s no reason to think that there’s anything wrong with you, your body or your baby.

It’s ok not to love your baby yet, not everyone gets that rush of love stuff. I never did . Just act like you love your baby and it will come in time. Baby won’t know any different as long as he is being treated in a loving way. Fake it Until you make it.

Its not logic Making you worry all the time like this , it’s the depression. Bloody. annoying chemicals in your brain. Making you think ilogical thoughts.

Tell them to fuck off. And see your doctor if it doesn’t get better soon.

I feel physically sick mustang it's horrible

I go to bed determined to enjoy him more the next day but I never do it's always another worry

Oh fluffy you are torturing yourself. Can you take some time away from him for a few hours today. Leave him with family and you go sit and have a cuppa & read a book in a nice cafe or go for a gentle walk. Just some time to clear your head and reflect.

Maybe start a wee diary and put all your feelings down good and bad hopefully it could prove cathartic.

I lost my plug over the past few weeks, had a bloody show a few days ago, still have slightly brown gloopy discharge, have had tummy tightenings for a few days along with on/off low back ache, occasion period like cramps under my bump, I feel like I'm carrying a bag of water in my vag occasionally, baby's heartbeat is lower down then usual (used to be at my belly button height and is now under it) plus I've been feeling like I'm "coming down with something" all week.

So far I've put it down to false starts and general end of pregnancy symptoms but you've all got me wondering now! I've been waiting on serious pain starting or my waters going.

Oh my. I thought I'd read to the end but I have missed a few posts.

Fluffy please excuse my last post, that now seems insensitive of me. 😒 I agree with Mustang, a hour or so to yourself to reflect on everything might just be what you need.

I went into hospital at 9cm with my first. With my second I went in as soon as my contractions started. By the time Id got to hospital (15 minutes away)I was 7 cm!

Sorry I seem to have missed a few posts too. [Flowers]

Fluffy, when my DS was in NICU I wrote a journal. I was brutally honest to myself in it. On bad days it helped me to look back and see how far DS had come, as it's not easy to see it when you're in the midst of it. Could you try something like that? Even just the tiniest of positives?