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Gifts for new daddy?

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tracy606 · 12/03/2017 18:18

I was wondering if anyone has ever bought a gift for your other half as a thank you for helping get through labour?

I know my partner is going to be so very supportive, as much as he has already been through our pregnancy.

Any ideas on what kind of thing to get?

Thanks in advance, Tracy xx

OP posts:
LouisevilleLlama · 13/03/2017 06:54

I find the gifts for either man or woman a bit silly tbh and you both get a DC at the end

halfofme · 13/03/2017 07:01

If anyone should get gifts it's you. Heartburn, sickness, constipation, squashed internal organs and labour. He doesn't need a gift for doing what he should he and supporting you

Marley45 · 13/03/2017 07:34

General consensus seems to be that it's a silly idea. However i had bought my H a Daddy mug from Emma Bridgewater which I gave to him when we came home from hospital.

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tracy606 · 13/03/2017 12:05

Wow! I was not expecting so many responses. Thank you for your honest comments, some of them made me giggle.

The reason why I wanted to buy him a gift was just as a simple thank you. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, he has literally done everything! All the housework, cooking, organising our DD for school etc., DIY jobs, sorted out most of the baby things. I've barely lifted a finger for 8 months. Don't get my wrong, morning sickness was not a magical experience, nor the heartburn and siatica but it's not exactly been what I would say is a "difficult" pregnancy (so far)
It wasn't until the other day when we were at antenatal class and he was there, running around after me as usual that it struck me just how much of a good'n I have - apologies if that sounds a little too gloaty..

Anyway, it sounds like a silly idea now and like you say, he might be a rubbish birthing partner...

OP posts:
buckyou · 13/03/2017 12:07

Erm no.

PinotGrigioPlease · 13/03/2017 12:15

I'm going to buck the trend here and say I left a bottle of DH favourite whiskey at home for him to have a toast to the baby when he got home. If you want to get him something I would.

I've never thought of it as a thank you, just a nice thing to do.

Good luck when the time comes

gamerchick · 13/03/2017 12:19

Definitely keep the vasectomy in mind when you've finished giving birth.

He sounds mint OP.

raviolidreaming · 13/03/2017 15:22

You don't sound gloaty; you sound like an excellent team and like you don't take each other for granted Smile

(Still ha ha no for a present though!)

Notanotherpawpatrol · 13/03/2017 16:45

I'm just being grumpy here! It's actually quite sweet, however i still wouldn't do it! Dh has bought me a changing bag (4th baby in 6 years, i had a hormonal breakdown over the fact I won't have a lovely bag again Blush) and he will probably get me flowers as an 'i'm sorry I put her inside of you and she ripped apart your whole undercarriage' present 😂 but I've never seen the need to get him a 'thank you for not being a useless cock lodger' present! Maybe I'll get him something this time around...Maybe when I'm less tired, grumpy and fed up or it'll end up being a vasectomy Grin

JugglingMuggle · 13/03/2017 21:07

Oh lord no. No no no. A present? No.

fluffiny31 · 13/03/2017 21:09

I didn't even get a thank you or well done for being cut open and giving birth the first time i went into labour as i went into labour twice with my dd i got told to shut up (because i was worrying being 7w early) as he was tired. Although he got his daddy presents 2 weeks after as it was his birthday.

Gindrinker43 · 13/03/2017 21:11

Nope, and I made sure he bought me diamonds!

Cleanermaidcook · 13/03/2017 21:20

Aw bless you aren't you sweet, sorry but i'm giggling a bit - you're giving him a baby isn't that enough?
I just asked my dh if i was supposed to get him something and even he laughed - then asked for a telly hahaha!

PutThatPomBearBack · 13/03/2017 21:25

Your pushing a human being out of your fanjo and he's the one that gets the gift?

Na fuck that.

SoTheySentMeA · 13/03/2017 21:28

Tmi gave to admit this did occurr to ne at the time but I had bo means of doing it. My DP was amazing throughout my pregnancy, Labour and birth. He really took charge, did everything I needed, insisted on things I needed that they weren't going to do (epidural), took over all baby care when my cannula kept getting ripped out while feeding/changing etc - he slept on a chair beside my bed in hospital for 4 nights (with permission) to do this. He was truly my hero when I was at my most broken. He still insists I did the hard bit.

I know people think men get the easy bit and I agree but I also understand the OP's feeling.

I wept buckets of tears at every tiny little thing he did for me for weeks afterwards. Hormones suck.

SoTheySentMeA · 13/03/2017 21:29

I don't know what happened to that first sentence...

TheTantrumCometh · 13/03/2017 21:29

No. I would have hated if he had got a gift for me, too (I think they're called 'push presents' )

I was grateful for all the support, and he was grateful for me carrying and birthing our DC's, but we expressed this without feeling the need to spend money.

expatinscotland · 13/03/2017 21:29

Erm, just no. Same to 'push presents'.

MrsDustyBusty · 13/03/2017 21:30

Really, helping you through labour is the least he can do, not something kind of favour that deserves a reward.

Also, he won't be much help. There's just not a lot they can do.

MeerkatOnMyWall · 13/03/2017 21:30

Please please no!! Let's not make this a thing.

Plus, if you give him a gift, does it signify (or be interpreted) that his "duties" have now come to an end and he doesn't have to help with chores etc anymore. Don't risk it Wink its sounds like he's a good chap.

Its very sweet but no. Save the money and treat yourselves to a night out once babs is old enough to be with relatives for a couple of hours. We both appreciate that time more than anything else.

Vegansnake · 13/03/2017 21:31

What a good idea, a wrapped packet of nappies so he can do the first bum change while you sleep.

Crumbs1 · 13/03/2017 21:31

Is a baby not gift enough?

UnbornMortificado · 13/03/2017 21:35

You sound really sweet, but I'm also pregnant and grumpy and blaming all my woes on DH for knocking me up so no, no present for him.

Starlight2345 · 13/03/2017 21:35

He sounds lovely but the baby you are pushing out is enough.

Enko · 13/03/2017 21:47

I bought dh a port caraffe after our first dd was born. He got me a watch.

I lost the watch several years later (bawled my eyes out I will freely admit) He still has said port caraffe..

By dd2 3 and ds we had got past the idea of giving presents Grin