IS NATALIE JANE IN LABOUR - PART TWO !!

[lulumama]

no ....still not! LOL!

Was thinking about this in the bath

I know it is not ideal but could ds go to friend/neigh bour whilst you actually give birth then come home and watch ds ?

For what it is worth I am complete wimp and had diamorphine with ds1, was too late with ds2 nd ended up only having gas/air - same level of pain with both.

NJ if I had more money/childcare I would come to Accrington with ds2 (to keep your ds1 company) and look after your son for you.

thats not far though....

Nataliejane i don't know about your childcare stuff i'm afraid, but would you be happy to have a doula look after your child maybe whilst you were in labour? Its an avenue worth investigating at least if you feel comfortable with the idea, I have known several doulas who have done this in the past.

in that case NJ

you need to find some child care now!!

contact Sitters

also, there is a nursery near me that does ad hoc emergency childcare, nannies and babysitters....you need to phone round the nurseries in your area tomorrow and see if that is an option.

any friends , family, neighbour, ANYONE who can oblige?

call your HV , she can tell you about options possibly, maybe someone from sure start or home start?????

if it is purely childcare based,.sort the child care !!!! there has to be a way !

I think my dh would be upset that I wouldn't be around, and he can't fly over there. Well he could, but he couldn't come back to US (legal status and all)

Just the thought of having lulu the dancing doula everyday though.

Sorry that made NO sense at all.

DS goto neighbours
NJ go to hopsital with DH have baby
DH come home take DS to hospital to see baby
NJ stay in hospital and go BIG sleep
DH/DS go home go BIG sleep

Loads of people have offered on MN to help anyway they could, which is lovely, but it isn't just on the day of the birth we have child care issues, DS has been away from us all of about 5 times since he was born and most of those he didn't know about because it was when he was in bed asleep, so he isn't used to being with anyone else.

And without seeming like an over protective over reactive mother, I wouldn't feel right leaving him with a "stranger" from an internet site, really no offence intended...!

doulas in the north west

i think that is a perfectly reasonable response !!!!

MKG - i don;t know if i could be the dancing doula every day..would i ever have a day off??

You're not overprotective, just logical.

Do you think your mil would come. I think I remember you saying a while ago that she lived somewhat close (1 hr or something). If you were to call and ask her to come do you think she would?

what will you do if you have to be induced or have to transfer to hospital?

no lulu, just when I take naps.

do you sleep a lot, MKG??

Um... my MWs made it perfectly clear that I needed childcare for DSs even with a homebirth.

You all type too fast for me!!

There really is no one, in an emergency we could leave him nextdoor, but he wouldn't be happy, which would mean I'm not happy, (it would have been different if it was an emergency transfer to hospital, that is slightly more life threatening than him being next door!!)

MIL won't help, my mum would love help to but she can't (she fosters so can't leave her house which is 200 miles away anyway!) my sisters all have lives/kids of their own and live miles away as well. Emergency childminders/nurseries etc. are all in the same catorgary as a very well meaning stranger from an internet site.

There really is no one.

Right have got to get DS into bed, will be back in a bit xxx

NJ... can I put request for care on the Doula website for you? Let me know. Just about to pop the DTs into bed!

It is completely natural that you want to protect your ds but honestly he will forgive you if you leave him with someone else. please contact the Liverpool doula she is lovely this is a big thing hanging over you and really does need to be sorted. You cannot go into a homebirth not wanting it it could potentially affect your ability to deliver which may mean you have to transfer emergency or not, surely it is better to get somethign sorted with your ds before this than in a potentially scarey emergency situ. I kknow i'm being a bit forthright but really you need to do something x

Bed it's 2:30 pm!

Yes lulu I do sleep a lot.

i'll do it if you bring me a suitcase full of krispy kreme donuts!

lol LulaDoula!

everyone has a price ,mars...........

ok, but don't tell lg&t. she'll freak out

I'm sipping marinara sauce as we speak.

LOL MKG how many donoughts do you think it will take? And it is 7.30 here!

Doula is out of the question at the moment, no pennies to spare Well there would be if we didn't have Christmas, the car, and a new baby to pay for!!

NJ..am out of ideas honey........xx wish you were nearer......xx but then i am a random internet stranger !!!! but i know a lot about your cervix !

(((hug))) you know what, baby will come, all will be sorted one way or the other! and in a while you will be laughing about this as you are holding the baby !