IS NATALIE JANE IN LABOUR - PART TWO !!

[lulumama]

no ....still not! LOL!

I have a really big suitcase.

Nj I wish your family would come. When I found out I was being induced, I called my sister, told her I was going in that night, by the time I hung up she had her ticket booked online. She got there on Saturday to be with me.

Your dh needs to kick your mil in the ass. What kinda crap is that, that she won't come. She's the closest relative and she should want to be there for the birth of her grandchild.

Doula UK have a hardship fund. It's worth a go if you want me to ask. They can only say no can't they?

Oh my sister brought her dd, we snuck her into the hospital room.

I am going to go and spend some time with DH, and have our dinner at last!

Will catch up tonight, will warn you though don't get me started on the MIL thing!! It isn't a pretty sight when I start on about it!! LOL

group hug girls !! (((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))

see you later.

NJ don't discount the doula idea entirely, they have a hardship fund where the doula gets paid from instead of the funds coming from you. I really do think you should pursue it, you will feel much more relaxed if you have something in place rather than just acting when and if you need to. I honestly think this is preventing you from relaxing sufficiently xx

Yes I agree NJ let Mars at least check it out for you. take care, hope you have a nice dinner an I will catch up with the MIL bitchfest tomorrow.

Hello............................. Still no baby nj, been off for two days and really expected to see something on here. Come on nj, you can do it. It will be soon. Thinking of you whilst away. xxx

you can email me off board if you want to honey. lovelymarslady at aol dot com

What about popping into the neighbours for a chat, maybe arrange for your ds to play there a bit, get more used to them and vice versa.
Also if you go at night the neighbours can babysit and your ds will probably be none the wiser.
I have volunteered to be a back up minder for my friends little girl. She isn't used to being alone with me but I would do my best with her and be pleased to be involved with the excitement of my friends labour...ie your neighbours would probably love to help??

NJ,
I hope you're feeling better. Don't worry yourself too much. Try to get a good nights sleep. I'll be around if you need anything.

nj, thought i'd add my two cents!

with regards to childcare, i'm in a pretty similar situation with my ds, no family nearby and it just makes me uncomfortable to have him go to anyone else, it's only ever been me or dp.. BUT... he has to go somewhere so i just have to bite my tongue, ignore the voices in my head and have him go to a friends.. it did really help taking him their the other day and watching them play together, i feel a bit easier about it now (ish).

i've also set out my direct wishes of where he is to be, i want him to go to bed here so our neighbour is going to come here and put him to bed and stay (although hopefully i've had baby by then and dp can do it) i've just finished writing her a letter telling her his routine precisely

Thanks everyone, I think perhaps Lulu is right, it is probably just the reality of having a maximum of a week to go, and knowing the birth is coming no matter where I am!! DH has said he could stay home from now on which would give us a chance of being able to sort MIL out, but it really isn't practical for him to be away from work until he needs to be, especially at this time of year.

I have this sweep booked tomorrow and as long as she does it this time instead of making another silly excuse, if that doesn't get him moving, I really don't think anything except a proper induction will TBH. I think we are going to go with the plan of if circs are right and we can use nextdoor neighbours for DS, or at a pinch DH's mum, then we will and I will go to hospital, if not, then we are all set here for the homebirth.

MIL is a touchy subject at the moment, when I first started having the contractions and I'd seen the consultant she told me if the contractions were to get regular again I was to go straight to hospital, we asked DH's mum to come and stay at our house that night in case we needed to go, bearing in mind I was 33/34 weeks then so if he'd have been born then there was likely to be some complications and that she had already said she would stay at ours when the time came, but on the day she said she couldn't because she didn't want to leave her cats, her boyfriend lives with her so it isn't as though we were asking her to let her cats starve for a night or anything, but she didn't want to do it. So now, even though she still says she would come if we needed her to, we can't really trust that she actually would.

And that is it, no more on the subject of MIL's - or not mine anyway - because I am likely to start swearing very badly!!!

Sorry about the person we can't talk about. Everything will work itself out. That is something I strongly believe in.

I hope you have the sweep tomorrow and something happens for you. I think it will push you over the edge. But who knows.

I am still stuck between wanting the sweep to do something, so it is over with quicker, but then part of me now is really wanting to get to the induction date as then we have no choice and DS will have to be OK with someone else. LOL How insane does that make me???

Not at all insane. I'm a planner too. Could you possibly make a date for the induction while you go for the sweep or do you have to go through a different person? The system over there confuses me.

Besides, I'd rather know what is going to happen, than worry about it. If you have an induction date. You can make arrangements with whomever, and if you put it off for a few days you can introduce you ds to your neighbors and explain to him what is going to happen. .

I am assuming the midwife will want to book an induction date tomorrow, I am also guessing that she will book it for 40+14 but I know some areas like it to be 40+10 so I don't know if it will be for the weekend or next Wednesday.

It would be good if it the weekend, my whole family is desending upon us the following weekend so it would give us a good chance to get things sorted out before the mayhem of having 20 odd people in our house!!

And yes I am also a planner, I would completely relax if I knew that an induction was booked. I think I would then actually cope better if things got going on their own because I wouldn't be so worked up about it all!

still no baby? Oh you poor thing.....

still... it'll all be ok pet xx I went into labour the day before I was supposed to go in to be induced, so you could go naturally yet Best of Luck xxxxx

I hear you. Hopefully you can get a date set. It would be wonderful if you could have him before your family got there. Then you could more helpers, more for ds1 than anything. I think with your contractions you might just need a little push. Maybe the sweep will do it.

What time is your appointment? I want some news when I wake up tomorrow.

Nope no baby yet firefly

No matter what happens the baby will be here by the weekend after next (which is when my family are coming up) My midwife apppointment is at 10.40, so I should be home latest of about 12-ish.

Yes I will have some updates first thing then.

It is going to be interesting to see what this sweep does, half of me thinks it is going to be the very thing to just tip me over the edge, but then the other half is still thinking after all of these weeks of contractions, if they haven't shifted him, nothing will!!

I'm trying not to pin all my hopes on it working because they don't normally do they? No doubt that they do work sometimes, but I think most of the time they just make things more uncomfortable but nothing actually happens.