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IS NATALIE JANE IN LABOUR - PART TWO !!

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lulumama · 01/12/2006 21:30

no ....still not! LOL!

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lulumama · 05/12/2006 18:55

ahhhhhhhh..you've got the fear

that sudden , horrible realisation ,that the baby has to come out one way or another, somewhere and somehow and it is so going ot hurt ! yep, the fear...often signals labour is close..!!

you need to really get into the reasons you are not comfortbale with home birth , as TMSMJ has said, and as Mars said, be open and safe during the labour

you know, it won;t hurt any less in hospital. you just have access to more pain killers!!!! and more intervention and more faffing and the worry of where to take DS...

and at home, ok, limited pain releif, but you have the birth pool.....marvelllous for pain relief. and gas and air.....

honey, i had diamorphine & epidural with first birth and gas & air and a smidge of pethidine with the second. I now know, i could have so done it without the pethidine!!!

where will you feel safest

where will you be able to labour on your terms

where will you feel safe, secure, supported and listened to

it is about so much more than an epidural..........

light some candles, get in the bath and visualise the birth..where do you see it??

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QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 18:56

Nataliejane whereabouts are you?

QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 19:00

can everyone stop portraying a hospital birth as completely negative, if its what NJ wants than it is entirely possible it can be positive and its not helpful to keep portraying it as otherwise.

MKGnearlyimmaculateconception · 05/12/2006 19:00

NJ,

Other than childcare there must have been other reasons for you to want a home birth. You must have been confident that you wouldn't need pain relief, and that you could do it.

I think that you're questioning yourself because you're overdue, and an induction is hovering over you.

Forget about what your sister said to you. My sister came to visit me when I was in labor and ask, "Are you dying of pain yet?" She wasn't the most helpful person in the room.

You can do this.

You will be fine.

lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:01

erm..who has done that??

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QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 19:02

and more intervention and more faffing and the worry of where to take DS...
don't let your own opinions of homebirth cloud the advice you give to others

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lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:04

thos are things that NJ has mentioned herself.! and if you read all the rest of my post , you will see that i have asked her to visualise the birth and ask herself where she sees it

i've had two hospital births, so have no experience of homebirth and am have been supporting NJ for the last 2 weeks and a bit with this...please do not imply i would talk her into anything she didn;t want.

thank you

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MKGnearlyimmaculateconception · 05/12/2006 19:05

QuadropheniaonIce,

I'm not against hospital birth. I'm all for it. I actually loved my hospital experience, and everyone knows it, and personally I wouldn't want a homebirth.

I don't think anyone is talking her out of a hospital birth, just reaffirming her original choice.

QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 19:05

is there anyone nearby who can help ata ll its very sad that her birth decison has been based purely on childcare issues

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 05/12/2006 19:07

I certainly wouldn't and haven't portrayed hospital birth as negative. My client on Friday had a wonderful birth and it was in hospital. All of the hospital births that I've attended have been great.

I answered NJ's question about stopping oneself going into labour and cited an example about change of location stalling labour!

lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:07

NJ lives too far from me and i think everyone else who has been on this thread ...we have been down this route a while ago and her childcare options are very limited...... she is in Accrington.

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QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 19:08

anyone on DUK who might be able to help?

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 05/12/2006 19:09

Sorry, I'm sure you've said before NJ.. but whereabouts are you?

QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 19:09

Accrington

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 05/12/2006 19:10

Ah.... Accrington is a step too far even for me. Sorry honey.

lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:10

there is an echo!!!!

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MKGnearlyimmaculateconception · 05/12/2006 19:11

I'd have to check my frequent flyer miles, and arrange transportation over there in England, but I think I could swing it.

By the time I got there it would all be over.

QuadropheniaonIce · 05/12/2006 19:12

seriously though if it is a purely childcare issue isn't there anyone on DUK who may be able to help if you asked with NJ's permission, there are a few up there?

lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:12

LOL...i think you should come over anyway !!!

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MKGnearlyimmaculateconception · 05/12/2006 19:13

lulu will you pick me up at the airport?

lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:14

i have checked the northwest and the nearest one is liverpool i think.....

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NativityJane · 05/12/2006 19:15

Hey, handbags away girls

Yes the homebirth was based solely on childcare reasons, I had to do a lot of talking to myself to get my mind ready for it, and to get DH ready for it. I haven't ever been 100% about but just tried to do as much as I could to make it as comfortable as possible, i.e. with the pool and TENs and everything, and yes the thought of not being in hospital after the birth is lovely, to be home in your own bed and with your own cups of tea is just bliss in itself really, but, I would forsake all of that for a hospital birth. I know I go on about epidurals being the best thing since sliced bread, but it is like I said, I wouldn't go in expecting to have one straight away, I would still like to try and go it naturally, but the option of having it there, if I want it, is a big thing for me.

I don't feel like anyone has tried to talk me into doing anything, or indeed talk me out of anything, I said I am a stubburn bugger, I know what I want, it is just that bit too far out of reach for me!!

lulumama · 05/12/2006 19:15

course i will!! you can live here until your baby is born and i can bring oyu yorkshire tea everyday !! lol!!!

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