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Do woman who gave birth Vaginally resent woman who have had a C-section?

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Helenemjay · 13/04/2006 16:41

I have had 3 c-sections, and my sister in law who has had 2 vaginal deliveries, says she thinks she resents the fact that i never had to go through childbirth! - this has confused me somewhat as before this, she has made it quite clear both quietly and publicly that she thinks women who have c-sections are just lazy )(sorry its an old and overplayed topic c-section V Vaginal) but i have never heard of women resenting about it before?????

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PiccadillyCircus · 13/04/2006 16:41

I don't resent it. What a weird thing to say.

dinosaure · 13/04/2006 16:42

What???

No, first I've heard of it, Helenemjay.

PiccadillyCircus · 13/04/2006 16:43

I mean your SIL is weird - not you :)

Piffle · 13/04/2006 16:43

No!
I would hardly call it lazy, much easier to have a decent vaginal birth than an operation.
She really said that?
Astonished

Angeliz · 13/04/2006 16:43

What the f* has it got to do with her?

cupcakes · 13/04/2006 16:45

weird. when I was befuddled and depressed after an emergency c-section I resented women who had had natural deliveries.

marthamoo · 13/04/2006 16:46

She's nuts. I have had two vaginal births and don't feel at all resentful towards woman who haven't 'gone through' one - they've 'gone through' major abdominal surgery instead. Bloody hell, it's not a competition

CHICagoMUM · 13/04/2006 16:48

What a strange reaction. I have had 2 vaginal deliveries, my sister had a c-section (due to a breech presentation) and suffered for 4-5 weeks afterwards. She is excpecting this summer and hoping for as natural a delivery as possible. I most certainly don't resent the fact that she underwent a pretty major operation to deliver her child where as I endured (many)hours of pain to deliver both of mine, and felt pretty much ok 240-48 hours later.

Hattie05 · 13/04/2006 16:48

?? no way. If anything i'd feel sorry for someone who didn't get the opportunity to experience a vbac.

(and i'd be terrified if i had to have c-section so admire anyone who has had one - although obviously there hardly an alternative option )

lact8 · 13/04/2006 16:50

Do you think she 'resents' the fact that she might have a fanny thats a bit looser that yours?

tortoiseshell · 13/04/2006 16:50

Yes, people who have c-sections are just lazy imo, can't be bothered with all the hard work associated with childbirth. Think their children should be removed at birth.

Joke....

kid · 13/04/2006 16:51

I've had the response that by having a c-section, I took the easy way out

I seriously don't see how it matters which way a baby is born, just as long as long as they arrive safely.

sallystrawberry · 13/04/2006 16:53

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Hattie05 · 13/04/2006 16:53

OMG i just clicked on this thread thinking it was my own one about blood in dd's knickers and read lact8's post! i thought she was referring to my 3 year old dd!!!

Sorry to hijack helen but i couldn't help letting you know.
It was huge relief when i realised i'd got it wrong

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Helenemjay · 13/04/2006 16:54

Well she is quite a snooty bitch (sorry) so i guess she thinks she can say what she wants about these things im not sure! i have to agree with cupcakes though - i always resented (in the nicest possible way of course)woman who managed to have a good natural birth experience which is why i think her comments are so weird!???

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monkeytrousers · 13/04/2006 16:54

I felt disappointed for a friend who had to have an emergency C-section as knew she had wanted to experience vaginal childbirth.. I didn't resent her. I think I would have felt disappointed if I'd have had to have one too. Not trying to be controversial, but maybe your sister just isn't articulating herself very well.

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Helenemjay · 13/04/2006 16:55

LOL lact8!! wish id have thought of that when i spoke to her!

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jmum6 · 13/04/2006 16:56

Not at all, in fact I feel sorry for women who then have to cope with a newborn AND recover from major surgery at the same time.

I had a vaginal birth.

jmum6 · 13/04/2006 16:58

lact8 - I had a friend who needed stitches after giving birth (don't most of us?!) and the dr stitched her up too tightly.
She was unable to have sex properly and needed surgery to undo the damage!

Caligula · 13/04/2006 16:59

Ooh, wait for this one to kick off.

monkeytrousers · 13/04/2006 17:01

'Tis a full moon Cali

WigWamBam · 13/04/2006 17:01

What - she resents the fact that you had major abdominal surgery which took months to recover from while you were also looking after a newborn baby?

She's a very strange woman and I would suggest that if Caesareans bother her to the point of resenting women who have them, then she needs to get a life and find something more pressing to be resentful of.

Spagblog · 13/04/2006 17:04

No way!
Maybe she is a bit of a bucket now?

lact8 · 13/04/2006 17:05

jmum, Ouch!!!

Had 3 Vaginal births myself, DP says its not made any difference down there (but probably knows saying, "you're slack now" isn't conduisive to getting any! )

I would think section much worse, especially if you already have other LO's who tend to climb and jump all over you

Uwila · 13/04/2006 17:08

If she's really upset about it she could always get pregnant and have a caesarean.

I've never had anyone express resentment towards. Disapproval perhaps. But I've definately never met a woman who gave birth vaginally who was jealous of the sections.

In a way this is interesting. You hear about women who feel they have failed by not delivering naturally, as if they have missed one of life's milestones. But, you SIL seems to feel she missed something by not haveing a section. Can this feeling of failure go both ways? Or maybe I'm reading too much into it.

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