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Do woman who gave birth Vaginally resent woman who have had a C-section?

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Helenemjay · 13/04/2006 16:41

I have had 3 c-sections, and my sister in law who has had 2 vaginal deliveries, says she thinks she resents the fact that i never had to go through childbirth! - this has confused me somewhat as before this, she has made it quite clear both quietly and publicly that she thinks women who have c-sections are just lazy )(sorry its an old and overplayed topic c-section V Vaginal) but i have never heard of women resenting about it before?????

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CarolinaMooncup · 13/04/2006 17:47

Post-partum haemorrhage. Poor lass couldn't get out of bed for days. I have to admit we were the teensiest bit sniffy about her not bfing , despite it being because she was too anaemic to even lift her head off the pillow for long, so maybe we were cowbags ourselves...

Filyjonk · 13/04/2006 17:47

See, i feel really strongly about this.

WharfRat · 13/04/2006 17:48

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Pruni · 13/04/2006 17:50

Well, when I was stinging and aching from the stitches and bruising I had with my vaginal birth, I certainly saw the advantages of a c-section. But resent - no.
Has she just had a baby and is fed up of hurting every time she sits down and stinging when she moves the wrong way?

fuzzywuzzy · 13/04/2006 17:51

God no!! My sister underwent an emegency c-section, and I still feel sorry for her poor thing, she took ages to recover and it was really traumatic for her. Plus I have a major needle phobia and have no desire whatsoever to undergo any type of medical procedure myself.

dinosaure · 13/04/2006 17:52

Oh sorry, I knew I was being thick.

Yes, good friend of mine just had one of those and was very poorly. Her DH said she looked yellow. I don't think she's breastfeeding either (saw her and baby a few days ago, she gave baby a bottle and I wasn't about to ask whether it was ebm and formula).

CarolinaMooncup · 13/04/2006 17:56

your poor mate .

This woman's sounded horrible - ok delivery, dh pops out to make all the proud phone calls, comes back in to find blood all over the floor and docs furiously trying to stem the flow .

dinosaure · 13/04/2006 17:57

I have three good friends who had babies recently and all had to have emergency c-sections. It does make you wonder...

NomDePlume · 13/04/2006 18:10

wtf ? Resenting ? That's just weird.

lact8 · 13/04/2006 18:22

My apologies to all those offended by any remarks I've made. I only said it as IMO and from discussions I've had with other women, particularly those pregnant for the 1st time, it is a physical affect of childbirth that has concerned them. In danger of repeating myself here, but I would definately find the whole c-section, (one friend waking up not knowing she'd even given birth ) and the recovery period afterwards worse than a vaginal birth.

mumball · 13/04/2006 18:25

Sorry I've had both, and I don't resent anyone....Well except women that look like models five minutes after giving birth, slight resentment there.

Twiglett · 13/04/2006 18:38

course they do

pristine fannies

been here before haven't we gals

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emmawill · 13/04/2006 18:41

I'm with you on that mumball. I've had 2 vaginal deliveries and was up and out of hospital 4 hours after later whilst the women who had c-sections where still on the ward 2 days later and in a lot more pain and discomfort for a lot longer than I was. Yes I had long painful deliveries but 18 and half hours and all the pain was over. So, no I certainly don't resent anyone who has a c-section I think they have it a lot harder.

LIZS · 13/04/2006 19:00

resent no , how absurd ! and lazy isn't a word I'd use either. Might envy those who had a tuck but then I did get relatively back in shape quickly only to lose it all again , largely through my own fault

childern · 13/04/2006 19:01

I had 2 vaginal births and i would much rather do that than not be able able to do much for what is it 6wks??????
Must say i do think she has lost the plot a little bit

AllieBongo · 13/04/2006 19:01

i've never even thought about it tbh.... who cares?? as long as babies are ok I don't give a shiny shite

AllieBongo · 13/04/2006 19:03

God that sounds really rude...what I meant was that it shouldn't matter and has chuff all to do with her

pupuce · 13/04/2006 19:03

She obviously got issues... it's her problem and her perception... I would ignore it she'll drop it!

lapsedrunner · 13/04/2006 19:11

I'm jealous of anyone who had a c-section

childern · 13/04/2006 19:21

why?????????????????

Cam · 13/04/2006 19:30

Yes, personally I resent anyone who doesn't do everything exactly the same way as me

Pruni · 13/04/2006 19:33

Ah Cam, you jest, you jest, but take a look around...

MumtoBen · 13/04/2006 20:18

If I am honest then I am jealous of women who have had elective c-sections.

This is for a variety of reasons that would have been prevented through having a c-section - Denied all pain relief during labour (baby back-to-back - v painful)
Had virtually no midwifery care as left alone on a ward even when fully dilated
No heartbeat checks on baby who was eventually found to be in distress
14 months with no sex
Facing a major operation to have my vagina reconstructed in 6 months time and surgeon is not confident of result as 'I have never seen an injury like this before',
Large scar (larger than a c-section scar) caused by 2nd degree episiotomy not being stitched and therefore having an open wound for 3 months, Painful to wash
Cannot have smear tests

Am not resentful though. Your sil is probably unhappy with her experiences which is making her say these comments.

notasheep · 13/04/2006 20:27

Appendix out was bad enough for me-so C section no thankyou.
Resentment sounds a bit odd to me.

homemama · 13/04/2006 20:32

MumtoBen, I think what you're jealous of honey, is women who've had decent care! Sounds like you were left to fend for yourself!

Why would anyone resent someone who's needed an operation that they haven't? I had a relatively easy first birth. The thought of needing a CS terrifies me, esp with a toddler.

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