nickelbabe is resigned to never giving birth

[nickelbabe]

there.
part 2 of the "not-live-birth-thread"

How come I can conceive and carry through a pregnancy but I can't finish one?

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I am now officially 40+10.

Had to get ds from school and then on to exercise class so missed the songs but they were good. Nickle have a good night and hope you get some sleep or have a baby. :)

Now you see i'm a big fan of breaking of the waters, i've trying to get my dh to have a go to no avail, a friend did say earlier that she'd pop over with a crochet hook it's just such a lovely relief when they go and then the contractions ramp up nicely, ahhh.

Just to add about that curry it woke me up at 3 am with such bad heartburn my eyes nearly bled and i had no gaviscon left and hasn't improved much throughout the day.

Good luck and keep us informed - inch by inch and stage by stage..

oh shit!
thank god I've got lots of rennie's left!

I thought you'd seen this before shiney . I just can't deal with intervention.
I feel perfectly fine, the baby's moving well and as normal. I don't see the point if everything's okay.

in some trusts (like mine) they wouldn't even book induction purely on date until +14 shiney

youtalkin it really is like a big crochet hook.

I am another one who went into labour the morning I was supposed to be induced. Instead of me seeing the consultant he walked into the labour room and I was really rude to him! It was so not like me!! DS popped out within 2 minutes of my rudeness! My other 3 labours were induced, but all really "nice" labours. Most I had was pethidine with the first and not even a whiff of anything for the others.
Lets hope things move tonight so that you dont have to make that call in the morning!

Make sure you do go in if there is any change in movements though, nickel. Even if baby starts moving more than normal you should get checked out. It isn't just about reduced movements.

shiney - sorry i meant i thought you'd seen my thread and how overdue i was. :)

i will.

I have a friend who went to 40+20 she then decided that it was time to something so let them break her waters, it was he second baby she had a very very long labour where she laboured in the pool with out anything but then she got to 10cm and still nothing turned out baby was stuck with its head on her pelvis, she had to have a forceps delivery, she was very very anti intervention of any sort but sometimes when a baby is stuck, it's stuck, she says it was a lovely birth and the intervention made no difference in the end. The reason she went so overdue and took so long to dilate is because the babies head wasn't pressing on the cervix. I'm not telling you this for any other reason other than when you write your birth plan please do keep an open mind. You can end up giving yourself a really hard time if it doesn't go to plan and births don't always.

Intervention is sometimes for the best, not all the time but sometimes. I'm really hoping to have a natural home birth but experience is telling me not to write anything off, the main thing is that i stay in control of the choices, much more empowering than saying no to everything and then them becoming medically necessary.

i won't take any chances.
if i am worried, I will definitely get it checked out.

Plus, they force me to be monitored daily (i'm going for every other day - MW complains i'm being stressed and then thinks it's a good plan to have to do the crappy journey to a hospital 8 miles away down stupid crappy roads every day... cos that's going to ease my strss levels, oh yes!), so if anything is amiss, they will pick it up.
:)

talkin - i'm hoping that won't happen to me!
As i said earlier - i'm against intervention if there's no reason for it. If something was wrong, then I would take the intervention.

How's your DH doing with all this Nickel? He must be quite apprehensive.

Nah i'm sure you'll be absolutely fine. I've just had lots of women so disappointed by their birth experience because it was so far from what they had planned, plan little, avoid disappointment .

With dc1 I wrote a birth plan and it was all lovely. None of this and lots of that.

Reality - emergency section with baby fighting for his life and dh as white as a sheet. It really doesn't matter how they get here, just as long as they do.

I made it to 40+12 with DS2, and had a home water birth 6 hours after accidental rupture of membranes during a sweep, so you're not necessarily going to end up with induction etc. He'd been engaged for 5 weeks and I was already 2 cm dilated at 40+6, I was sick to the back teeth of people telling me I was about to go into labour and it not happening. The midwife said DS2 looked barely term and placenta was 'far too good' to be 40+12 and then she changed my dates by a week when she wrote up my birth notes! 40+5 sounds much less dramatic, doesn't it?

Good luck!

sparkling - the best thing about DH is that he's very calm about everything!
I'm showing determination (and obviously courage in my convictions) so he's happy to go along with that.
as long as i'm not worried, he won't worry.

Tupper - one reason I don't want a sweep is because of the chance of "accidental" rupture of membranes.
(the other is because i've heard how fucking uncomfortable it is, and even that NICE reckons it doesn't do anything unless it was about ready to happen anyway)

The only thing i wrote in my birth plan with DS was i do not under any circumstances want an episiotomy, it was strictly adhered too because it was all i had put and i guess that it was underlined scared them .

With DS2 my labour bag and birth plan were safely in the car boot as I gave birth very soon after getting to the hospital.

Hi been lurking awhile nickle I really hope you get they birth you want, but at the end of the day safe arrival of little one is most important part. I went 40+15 with my first resisted induction until I was 13d over, wanted yoga, relaxed water MW unit birth but they couldn't even break my waters my body simply wasn't ready, baby wedged I took c-sec in the end I'd just had enough. Didn't put me off having no2 who is now 14wks old and curled up asleep on my chest now :) gd luck sending you happy birth vibes.

thank you. :)

I'm going for a nap.