nickelbabe is resigned to never giving birth

[nickelbabe]

there.
part 2 of the "not-live-birth-thread"

How come I can conceive and carry through a pregnancy but I can't finish one?

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I am now officially 40+10.

Nickel are you taking raspberry leaf capsules?

I went to 42+4 with no problems. The consultant did a scan, checked liquor levels, and I had my vitals checked every day or two by the mw. Natural spontaneous delivery of a nine pounder followed, compound presentation (ouch!) But all was fine.

not putting herbs up my fanjo.
I'm following NICE on the advice that herbal remedies aren't proven to do anything.
:)

doppler's an external one, isn't it?

I think you might have to have sex again. Sorry.

Failing that going on a swing did it for me with DC2.

no, i'm not taking anything.
I did think about the "natural interventions" and so many sources have said they're not proven to do anything if nothing was going to happen, that i've decided to ignore them - I can't afford to buy stuff anyway.

argh! nooooo! not sex!!!!
have i not suffered enough ???

I had raspberry leaf with DC1 and 2 and they arrived early (sorry). I also decided I couldn't afford to buy stuff when preg with DC3, so got evening primrose tablets cheap from wilkinson in the end (she did arrive early too) - worth a try I think.

Also the nipple tweaking, sex and an orgasm if possible should start things off.

Ooh hello Exquisite

How's babycake?

I nearly burnt mu chocolate muffins as I was so engrossed in this thread and didn't hear the timer!

FABBoy was a month late and didn't come out flaky.He was bigger than dc1 and 2 though.

nickelbabe - both DC3 and DC4 arrived in their own time on 40 + 14. (or 42 weeks...) DC3 in her waters, glided out at 9'5. DC4 was yanked manoeuvred out by my lovely male MW but was 10'14!

They do come eventually...

Hello. Back from Christmas shopping. Anyone want lunch?

Its either sex or do no house work for 3 days so that the house is a tip when the midwives arrive and you haven't changed your bedclothes nor tidied up your fanjo (thats what worked with DC3).

at 'fanjo tidying'. Bit difficult at full term.

no housework for 3 days

try no housework for 9 months!

haven't changed bedclothes - maybe doing that will bring it on? (clean bedclothes for waters to spoil, rather than waiting till these ones walk off on their own accord)

Nothing doing here, just gentle niggles. Have recovered my Zen about the whole thing and am happy to wait three weeks for my baby if that is what Egglet wants.

Nickel I don't know your back story and it sounds like you need to work but is it possible to just have a couple of days of downtime? I firmly believe going into labour is as much mental as physical and if you are still busy with work and social stuff etc then can you really let go, slip down a gear and get ready to welcome your baby? So sorry if that sounds preachy and irritating.

i've never felt the need to tidy my fanjo.

Your right Sparkling but I was amazed how many women told me that was the last thing they did before they went into labour. I just thought if I can't see (which I couldn't - hadn't for months!) then it doesn't matter!

nah, Harder - it's not preachy and irritating, don't worry.

I run a shop, so that's why i have to work.
but because it's my shop, it means that I get to do the bare minimum of work (or none at all at the moment )

a couple of weeks ago, we had nothing to do one sunday except church in the morning, and it was the longest day i've ever had. I hated it. hours upon hours upon hours of nothing to do, flicked through tv channels, napped a lot. I was ssooooooooo bored.
I couldn't do that for a couple of days.

I never gave it a thought TBH Akiram. Perhaps the midwife hairgripped it all out of the way without me noticing.

Quick one on fanjo tidying.
nickel darling I'm sure yours is as tidy as an Elizabethan knot garden.
But for the rest of us I really recommend a Wilkinson Sword buzzy, trimmy thing for sorting out the old ladygarden. Worked a treat at 40 + 4 for me. I know most of us don't care but I could have lost a kitten in mine - it needed doing....

Do you ever take time to just concentrate on yourself and baby? Yoga, reflexology, swimming, relaxation/meditation? Just wondering if you are busy and rushing around whether you are in the right place mentally?

Anyway, I am taking the opposite view to you. Taking raspberry leaf capsules, doing perineal massage, expressing jets of colostrum, having sex, having reflexology, ball bouncing, will be having regular sweeps from 40 weeks and will now be taking EPO! I'm the sort of person who will have to try everything though or I'll be annoyed with myself if I end up with an induction. And as I've not been to work for 4 weeks I need something to fill the days up.... I'm sure I'll end up being horribly overdue though....

i don't know if i'm in the right place mentally.
I don't know if i ever will be.

I've never been able to sit and rest. I think i have a low boredom threshold.
I think i take things as they come, but i don't tend to be able to just sit and smell the roses.

I never EVER found my cervix either. Even when I got to the desperate stage with A and tried a self sweep (do NOT recommend). It didn't work - I doubt I could have reached my cervix if I tried - there was a baby in the way. I just ended up stabbing myself a few times where the Sun don't shine.

WRT changing the bed sheets before the MWs come. Do you have to do that? Mine.....erm....changed my bed for me I think they took pity on poor OH who was clearly struggling with the concept of a flat sheet after I'd asked him to do them and they may have perhaps felt a bit guilty that baby had well and truly been born (and placenta was on the way out) by the time they arrived.

It's the mentally accepting that I've got to have an actual baby that I have struggled with. I'm doing and saying all the right things but deep down I'm thinking "Nah, I'll never ACTUALLY have a baby", like I will wake up tomorrow and the bump will be gone and life will just resume as it was before. I wonder if you do have to accept that at some point or whether baby will come anyway? I have delivered many hundreds of babies but its just not something I've ever thought to ask women before!