39+3 Fed up/anxious/trying to relax

[Dozeyland]

Sorry to be a moan-arse

I'm just fed up of the anticipation now, I hate not knowing what to expect :( One minute i'm fine then it gets to this time in the morning wheni'm at home alone - everyone else at work and my mind goes on overdrive.

The past week I have not been sleeping well at night due to thinking too much about labour/birth/after birth etc. and my back is starting to ache lying on my left grrr i try to alternate but have to go back to my left otherwise i worry!

Due date is Friday, I have my 40 week check two days early on wednesday and just eager to know if baby is still in a good position/ if my iron has gone up etc...

Its not knowing what to expect that is worrying me! feeling so pants today :(

anyone else in the same boat and fancy a moan? lol

I am good this morning, had a much better night's sleep (just the usual wees, turning over and TMI, clearing blood from my nose - nice, anyone else have this??), no lying awake for hours. Had quite a bit of period type backache before bed, but I have been getting this frequently over the last few weeks and nothing happens.

I can not face sex. DH would do it I know, because he is so deprived. (yes, deprived, not depraved) I don't think it's worth doing anything tbh, the baby will come when it's ready to come.

Hope everyone's babies moving into the right positions. So, what are we all now - I am 40 weeks tomorrow.

Hello everybody,I'm still here too!

Just to update you all:

Yesterday: Had my MW check (39+5) discussed birthplan etc again and even had a S&S - MW said that the cervix is thinning very well and i am already 1-2cms dilated
She said baby is now ROA positioning and it shouldn't be too long?

(Previous to this me & DP has sex (ouch) as baby was being a fidget. lots of BH's.)

So anyhoo, after the S&S I started getting "period type cramps" and backache. went for a fair few walks last night, lots of watery CM (TMI ALERT - like snot! thats the only way i can describe it! )

Was having lots of strong BH's last night,. i was so shattered i went to bed about 12ish and woke up this morning feeling.... normal? (other than my stinking cold won't budge!)

How is everyone else this morning?

i'm 39+6 now DG

Forgot to mention MW also felt babys head - eek lol

but nothing much today so who knows?

thats great Dozeyland sounds all very positive for you Im so glad somebody is getting there finally is this your first? DomesticGoddess no blood in my nose but really dry and sore nose all night and very phelmy thought I was getting terrible cold in the middle of the night which made me very cross although TBH doesn't take much to maake me cross at the minute

sassie23 yeah its my first, so still in the unknown as what to expect!

Oh I hope you don't get a cold, mine isn't shifting & its turned into a chesty cough !

Me again.

Having a poo day. thinking about things too much. GRRRRRR

I know everyone is excited, but I just feel like we're going to be bombarded with everyone. I'm nervous about bringing the baby
home as it is - just everyone's reactions to a baby being here, us being parents etc. it's all so new and we're going to need
time to adjust as well as everyone else.

I've spoken to those people but it seems to fall on deaf ears. I just am not looking forward to it all to be honest. and that sounds terrible :(

I even got DP to put the bags in the car (me thinking it was the night last night) but to do it when no one was looking otherwise they'll start asking questions and worrying/excited etc.

I just:

1. not looking forward to telling them i am in labour.
2. on the way to the hospital
3. giving birth
4. visitors
5. bringing baby home (we live in the living room)

6.more visitors

DG - I am 40+11 today!!

Dozey - not sure of your situation but wonder if you can 'use' your visitors to get stuff done. Most people do seem to ask if they can help so why not take advantage? You could ask for home cooked food, for them to make you a cup of tea - anything you like really. Just try and keep them busy. They'll soon stop appearing!

Top tip someone gave me when I had DS was to stay in dressing gown until I felt human again. For some reason people feel a little odd about hanging about when you're in your dressing gown.

Also, are you planning on breast feeding? If you are you could use this as a reason to be left alone - say you feel a bit shy and prefer to get the latch right in privacy?

Just a thought anyway. Sending you hugs.

x

Justanormalmum

I am living at home with DP, Dad, Brother. and just finding it hard to relax at the moment where everyone is so excited (mum turning up at the door all the time asking if baby is coming yet, DPs mum ringing a bit and worrying)living in the living room, & just wanting to kind of hibernate until he/she is here...

I dont want any fuss when i go into labour (they have all said they will come home from work to "help" -WHICH I DO NOT WANT. DP is having that job and his sis as she is our birthing parter.

I will ask them to do jobs/help as in (shopping/cooking etc ;) but i just dont want to be bombarded as soon as they get the call saying its here! or even when i start established labour!

I am planning on BF (hopefully) but nervous about that also. so yeah i will want to be left to try and get that sorted.

They are all quite surprised how calm i am, i think they are all expecting me to be a wreck but i dont see the point.... (she says lol)

I have conversations with DP and have a cry when i am worried but i feel comfortable saying to him as he is my rock and its our experience more so than everyone else!

First grandchild is probably why everyone is freaking out but. I just can't handle it sometimes, let alone when baby is here...

we're limited for space as it is. and dad still keeps saying "jokingly - I cant believe you got pregnant!"" i'm like - well its a bit late now lol

but all wierdness like that to live with.

ARGH

Oh Dozeyland you sound fed up. Try not to worry about anyone else but you DP and LO. Your living situations may be difficult but you don't have to tell anyone you are in labour if you don't want to put the extra pressure on yourselves. I totally agree with justanormal mum about staying in your PJs until you feel normal enough to want people to stick around. With DS it was quite difficult as we had a family beareavement the day after DS was born and despite wanting to be with my immediate family DH and myself also needed precious time alone with the baby so for the first few days we muddled through and then closed ourselves away for the rest of the week you need to be able to bond together and find your feet as a new family. People need to be understanding

Oh Dozey - that does sound annoying. Hmmm. I agree with Sassie - you don;t have to tell anyone you're in labour. In fact I didn;t even tell DH I was in labour for first 2 hours. I found I coped better alone. You can also find that you labour better when walking about so if you need to go for a walk and get away from everyone.

They're all very excited but the sounds of it which is nice but also annoying. I felt that I wanted to cherish every moment with DS when he was born and even deleted my facebook account so that people couldn't contact me that way.

Another thing to do is record a message on yours and DP's phones saying 'baby dozey arrived on xxx at xxx weighing xxx. Everyone doing really well. We're hibernating at the moment and will let you know when we're up to visitors' - it might get rid of some of the extra people.

Also don't underestimate the power of a crying pregnant woman. It could be worth having a minor and slightly public meltdown about wanting to be left alone both now and after the birth. Sometimes people really do need it spelling out that this is yours and DPs experience and not theirs. xxx

Another thing to look into is if there's a midwife led unit near you that you can transfer to after the birth. There's one near me where you can stay for 4 days even if you have baby in hospital. They basically look after you, help you get BF established and only allow visitors at visiting time. Gives you some breathing space. Might be worth looking into?

Of course you may be one of those women who have a massive energy surge after birth and want to see everyone, go out for lunch etc etc. You never know. x

The place i'm planning on delivering is Midwifery-led & they let you stay andalso help establish feeding i think. Private en-suite rooms which are nice.

Thats obviously all depending on the labour & delivery.

X

Dozeyland Stay midwife-led unit for a day or so and let the excitment calm down a home. When I had my first it was a bit of a nightmare everyone turned up. Had DH grandma on the phone all the time telling me not to BF just give a bottle which was no help. With my second I came home really soon and stayed in bed for 2 days no visitors. Def stay in PJs and get yourself some good ear plugs - it will block out everyone else and you can get some rest.
Once everyone calms down it very soon goes back to normal.

I've gone back to feeling quite fine today which is a bit odd (calm before the storm) - no aches or pains, also feeling quite relaxed. Just got to get through tomorrow DH away on business all day so don't really want anything to happen and I'm on my own with 2 small children to look after! Hoping for action next week. Lets hope we get some of these babies delivered over the weekend. Keep in touch everyone :)

Smithy - hope nothing happens tomorrow for you - Saturday or Sunday instead.

Dozey - could be worth asking ahead of time if you can still stay in for a few days even if delivery isn't midwife led? Private en suite sounds marvellous! Our hospital has no such thing. :(

Any updates???

Nothing from me apart from being up at crazy o clock have hospital appointment at 11am today so will be zombie like probably. Scrubbed living room floor today and then went for a hillywalk through the local forest surely this might help...

Hi, can I join? 40 + 4 today and no signs of anything :( Have turned into a crying hormonal wreck as sick of everyone asking when the baby's coming (I'd like to know that too!) or where the baby is (oops, must have left it somewhere!). Honestly, the stupid questions people ask!
Had some really weird pains happening last night - felt like LO was punching my bladder really hard as had shooting pains down there on and off for about an hour or so. Got excited that it might be the start of something but all back to normal today. Might have just been reaction to hot curry!
Hope everyone is doing ok today - sending labour dust to you all. Let's hope things get moving soon!

Hi all

No news from me - am 41+3 today. Strangely I'm feeling rather calm about the whole thing now - I guess because I know it's only a matter of days now before he's here - he could even arrive on Sunday! It's kind of a weird feeling knowing I'm only going to be pregnant for another couple of days! Sad in a way, but I am so ready for the next stage.

sassie good luck for the appt today!

dozey I second the idea of staying in a bit longer! Hope you don't get too hassled. I know people are excited but I think they forget just how affected the new parents are. I like justanormalmum's idea of a meltdown. Our m/w gave me a good idea on Wed too - if you can handle it, try and get as many in to do the initial visit in the labour ward at the hosp - that way they leave you alone (hopefully!) for a day or so when you need to get sorted re b/f. Don't know if this will work, but might be worth considering?

smithy am also sending weekend only vibes your way!

dreemagurl welcome to the frustration!!

Have a great day all, and come on babies!

No news from me either. It's my due date today! Welcome "Dreemagurl"! I have pains in bed every night that I think "is this it?" but they always amount to nothing. Argh!

I do feel for you WH, DS was 11 days late, I went into labour on the 10th day, which I guess is where you are now. But exactly, you're 10 days over, so whatever happens, its going to be 5 days max. I could be you next week, am sure I am going to go way over.

We are in the position that we won't have any family visiting us in the first 2 weeks, which suits me fine! They all live about 4-5 hours away, so they have to come and stay for a while, so my mum will come when DH goes back to work, for a week, then MIL will come for another week. My brother lives on the other side of the world. However, we will have friends popping in - hopefully to take DS off our hands for a bit!

sassie, we seem to have the same problem - I was also awake again at that time, though I didn't get up, and went back to sleep after about an hour. You must be knackered. Try and sleep today, you don't have other children do you?

smithy, any news??? My DH says apart from Monday he is going to work from home all next week. So what's the bet he comes on the Monday! It has been worrying me a bit all week because it would take him about 3 hours to get home from the moment I call him. He's working from home today though, and then of course it is the weekend. He thinks it will happen this weekend, but he's trying to keep my spirits up.

Good luck everyone.

WH, forgot - have they booked you for induction on Sunday?

DREAMAGURL I had those "shooting/wierd pains last night too then it died down, had been sat on my birth ball for a few hours so maybe that was why?

WORRIESOMEHEART
Yeah I expect certain family members will be rushing up when visiting hours are open, (but they will be calling before hand otherwise i'll be annoyed) Good idea though, May even come to that!

SASSIE Good luck for today!

SMITHY Good luck!

No update from me as such, went for a brisk walk last night but no signs, woke up this morning with backache but thats gone now.
I think it would be lovelyfor the baby to be born on its EDD = TODAY! but who knows...

I really don't want it to happen tomorrow as its someones birthday I don't want my baby to share with! but what will be will be........

ALSO i'm worrying that if i go loads over ...HOW BIG WILL MY BABY BE?

I am 40 weeks measuring 36/37cms... MW said baby is not big, "but a nice average size"... head is 3/5 or 2/5 engaged can't remember. 1-2cms dilated cervix... i'm just still expecting a whopper to come out of there! i'm onlya small frame - eek

*Argh, see having time to think about things & I start thinking about the (ssh..)BIRTH eek

Justsat here on my birth ball, and even though i can't wait to see baby, i keep having that thought of oh dear what i have to do to get it here!! :(

Just hoping for the "efficient, quick labour people keep thinking im going to have"

Dozey, I measured 37cm at 39 weeks last week. I was a bit worried, but she said it's cos the baby has moved down a bit, to about 2/5's engaged. If you go over, I think they will be a bit bigger than they would have been, but not a great deal in it, and their head isn't going to get any bigger now! I know exactly how you feel as I had an EMCS last time, so I still can't imagine the baby coming out through it's natural exit!!

Did the MW predict how big your baby will be at term?

My MW felt and said she thinks 7.5lb...

but i guess thats her opinion?

I have seen 6 MW's throughout pregnancy!!