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Dp just called my dd a freak

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Easterdaffsx · 13/11/2022 00:36

Just that really
She's 12 and was diagnosed with autism yesterday so I know I'm quite emotional today but fgs it's not okay
He's been amazingly supportive throughout the process and she can be be very challenging I know but I overheard him call her a freak
this evening amd It's the second time . I think it the word wowed last time.
He's the only absolute constant in her life who she knows is always there for her amd this is not his usual self but we did discuss coping with this as parents this evening and he was really supportive.
I've just told him to sleep elsewhere amd stay away I need space it's really upset me amd he hasn't even apologised
He tried to tell me something that obviously had led to him saying it amd I stopped him amd said that absolutely nothing gave him the right to say that word . Like nothing .
I don't think I'm over reacting am I ?
I just feel so enormously protective for her amd more so since yesterday. Calling her a freak is just so so terribly wrong .

OP posts:
Harrysnippleno3 · 14/11/2022 00:23

oldbrownjug · 14/11/2022 00:15

Not all autistic people are the same - obviously. So please don't say what they all can or can't do. And not all think of themselves as "disabled" either. So before we judge we need more info from the OP . Which looks as though it won't be forthcoming.

If you meet the criteria for a diagnosis of autism you meet the definition of disabled.

oldbrownjug · 14/11/2022 00:29

If you meet the criteria for a diagnosis of autism you meet the definition of disabled.

You may well do but it's your choice to reject that label. And there are those that do. Not everyone wants to be defined by others

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