Struggling with likely inoperable cancer diagnosis while waiting for confirmation

[EmeraldJeanie]

I'm struggling. My husband is in hospital and been told after MRI likely inoperable cancer. If confirmed (biopsy Tuesday and they seem certain) then week til confirmation of something they are sure about and then chemo/ palliative care. Also procedure on Monday before biopsy Tuesday.
He looks the fittest man on the ward. He walked 15,000 steps round the hospital grounds yesterday. He is masking for our boys - sixth form and university age but talking about finances/ dignitas with me.
I am signed off work with stress. We are both late 50s.
This is all rather outing for anyone who knows me but perhaps that doesn't matter.
I need to buck up. I am losing weight and slim anyway. This limbo awful and yet knowing for sure will be awful too.

I am so very very sorry. I have no adequate words. Sending love and strength to you and your children.

I'm so sorry. I'm in a very similar boat. My mother is being given palliative chemo and is due 6 cycles but seeing her rapid decline after the first one, I'm not sure she will make it through all of them. 😭

I’m so sorry. Life can be cruel

Sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry.

I am so very sorry. 💐Hugs to you all.

i’m so sorry to hear this OP.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I have you and your children in my thoughts. I can’t even imagine, I’m just so sorry.

I’m so so sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry for your loss @EmeraldJeanie

@EmeraldJeanie I am so sorry for your loss.💔 This has been a horrid few weeks for you, so take time to grieve. Work can wait as long as it has to, as YOU and your boys are the important ones to think about now.

Oh gosh, so fast. Bless him. May he rest in peace.

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

Cancer can be so quick. I'm sorry. He didn't suffer long which is a comfort.

I’m so, so sorry.
Don’t give up work yet, just keep handing in those sick notes. When I was in a similar situation with my DF they handed them over without question until I was ready to go back.

Sending hugs to you and your children xx

Thank you all xx

I'm so very sorry for your loss

I’m so very sorry, @EmeraldJeanie. Sending you love. I will be thinking of you today.

So sorry. You must be reeling.

So saddened to hear this. What a shock for you all. Wishing for peace and strength for you and your family 💐

I read the first post and the latest update is truly heartbreaking. I hope you have lots of support for you and your boys and am sure you all have many lovely memories of your DH. x

I would also suggest Mcmillian. They will support you both and were brilliant when my DH and I went through this.

In the classic words of Dory the fish “Just keep swimming”.

Take one day, one hour, one minute at a time. Lean on others, you don’t have to be everyone’s rock, you can lean and get support from each other.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I have just seen this thread and am so so sorry @EmeraldJeanie

Do let people help when they offer.

You and your sons are in my heart. X