son being bullied by teacher

[chocolatelover57]

This is a very weird scenario to have to post about but DS has come home for the past term constantly in a bad mood and crying at the smallest of interactions at home. I’ve had the feeling that something was happening at school and that he was being bullied. he’s opened up and claimed he’s been receiving threats from one of the technicians at the school. The staff member has said he “knows where you live so you need to watch out” and “you’re lucky i haven’t caught you outside of school” and “i’m going to f* you up watch”. not only is this highly inappropriate from the staff member to say but i’ve spoken multiple of DS friends who can confirm these things happening. DS has no problems with any other member of staff before this incident and I have been told by multiple teachers on parents evening that he is a very good child albeit a bit immature for his age and chatty.
How do I approach the school about this?

When my DD inadvertently referred to a legal executive as a "lawyer", she was smartly corrected.

Has your child kept a record of what was said and on what dates? That would be helpful as evidence. You need to report it

Why are people questioning what type of teacher, this is not a teacher it’s a technician- who gives fuck it’s bullying from a person in authority. And why are we mamby pamby around this, go up the school in person and demand to speak to the head, I’d then go from there, if the teacher/technician in question isn’t suspended while being investigated then go to the police!!! This is absolutely abhorrent and needs to be stopped immediately. Children shouldn’t put up with this!!!

There will also be cctv evidence.

What action have you taken OP?

You may have already started action but please call the police and report the threats being made to your son. Then complete the online child safeguarding/MASH form found on your local councils website and state on that form that you will not be sending your son to school until this is investigated.

I would just call your son in sick for a week in the normal way without saying anything about it to the school, to give the authorities chance to speak to the school/technician. If you speak to the school first, the technician will be alerted and have chance to come up with a story before the authorities interview him.

It important that the perpetrator's first interview in these circumstances is with the police. Schools should never investigate potential child abuse first, before a police interview. Sadly schools don't always operate in that way, usually for fear of what this might do to their reputation or naive underestimating/denial of the seriousness of the situation. Nothing less than the removal of the technician in question is acceptable. Even if the comments were made by the technician in jest, it shows a level of inappropriateness that make the technician unfit to work with children.

I hope this gets sorted and I think we'd all be interested in an update.x

I'd not call the police straight off, you have no idea if its true yet

Exactly, so
@chocolatelover57 reassure your son that with his friends witness statements that can be backed up by the cctv, even if it doesn't have sound it'll show the aggressive behaviour/gestures then this will be wholly dealt with. Ask him today when you take him to the police to say where and when it happened in the school and they can retrieve the evidence.

But the sons making serious allegations, surely he has to know that these will be followed up?

Nobody should ever do their own investigation into child abuse to establish if it's true or not. That is literally the authority's job. Our job is to report it. It sounds like the OP believes her child and has had the report confirmed by other children. That is more than enough to report it

No same year sorry. One was a report or book writing for English I believe ..and PE teacher allowed discussion. I think another teacher allowed discussion as well. All verified by other students and then principal. I actually didn’t believe my child ..never thought they’d allow that, hence I went to the school to find the actual truth..didn’t think I would find it was all true. I thought she might have been exaggerating. Happy to say she’s in a much better way now.

Because you contact the school first.

Why have you not rang the police????

This 💯.

You should contact the school, who should inform LADO, who would advise the way forward (investigating and police)

Phone school and ask to speak to safeguarding lead immediately. This is hugely concerning and they should act without delay

And adult has threatened your child and you’ve come to mumsnet for advice? Why haven’t you reported it?

Surely you just go into the school and demand a meeting with the head and whoever's in charge of pastoral care. Once you get some facts, police. I wonder why you'd be writing on here and not emailing the school straight away?

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I’m a teacher and think you should report it to the school immediately - a written email to the headteacher and follow it up with a phone call. Be clear that if you haven’t had a satisfactory response by the end of the week (conscious it’s the end of the year!) you will report it to the police.

Hope your son is ok x

If you are a teacher you will know that this is not the response to such an incident.

A legal executive is a lawyer though so she didn't require correcting. Its not the same as calling non-teaching staff a teacher as a legal exec does practice law and therefore is by definition a lawyer

Hi

im an assistant headteacher in a secondary school and the above is spot on advice. I would suggest requesting a meeting with a member of the senior team. Following the meeting email them with what was discussed and action points - make sure you agree when the school will report back to you. I’d say a couple of days is reasonable for them to gather witness accounts and take the appropriate steps.

Cannot believe you are asking this question.

1. I would have been down the school toot sweet together with the police. For an adult to threaten a child is just beyond belief. Get him struck off.