son being bullied by teacher

[chocolatelover57]

This is a very weird scenario to have to post about but DS has come home for the past term constantly in a bad mood and crying at the smallest of interactions at home. I’ve had the feeling that something was happening at school and that he was being bullied. he’s opened up and claimed he’s been receiving threats from one of the technicians at the school. The staff member has said he “knows where you live so you need to watch out” and “you’re lucky i haven’t caught you outside of school” and “i’m going to f* you up watch”. not only is this highly inappropriate from the staff member to say but i’ve spoken multiple of DS friends who can confirm these things happening. DS has no problems with any other member of staff before this incident and I have been told by multiple teachers on parents evening that he is a very good child albeit a bit immature for his age and chatty.
How do I approach the school about this?

The police won't to anything, don't think there will be enough for the council safeguarding or MASH to meet its threshold. One thing schools don't like is OFSTED, follow the schools complaints procedure, contact the police if you want, but if the response from the school isn't satisfactory I'd be straight onto OFSTED.

Ofsted will pass it back to the school, dealt with it many a time. I’d be very surprised if the school didn’t take it seriously but they need to be given the chance to investigate. Marching to the school with the police is not a measured reaction.

We knew ours very well, it was a student facing job. @chocolatelover57 I'd be in that school office first thing in the morning and if they try to deflect I'd make it clear my child not feeling safe at school is an Ofsted matter if it's not dealt with appropriately x

Verify the facts first.

Well, here's the thing: I wouldn't go to the school; I'd go straight to the police.

With only the word of your child? The police will pass it straight back to the school to investigate I can guarantee that.

There are witnesses to some of it.

The school need to investigate it and get the witnesses to write down what they heard. They can then deal with it. If the parent isn’t happy with their outcome then they could go to the police although the police will still encourage the school to take additional steps rather than deal with it.

Your child is being threatened by an adult. There are witnesses. Report to the police and then the school.

So sorry forgot to say hope your son is OK. Right now he needs support and reassuring. Good luck 👍🏻

How did things go with the police @chocolatelover57?

Please contact the police and file a report. Additionally, it would be beneficial to speak with the parents of the child's friends and request that they provide witness statements. It is crucial that this technician is no longer allowed to work with children.

Surely your instant reaction to this information would have been to go to the school and/or police but instead you post on here for people to tell you to go to the school and police.

I'm so sorry. This must be making you ill with worry.

I agree with the sentiment of what others have said but I think you need to be careful. The technician will never admit this so I would make sure all the witnesses are clear about what happened when, and make sure you have a few properly credible witnesses. Not all kids will be believed. If only you could get some hard evidence! You have to act but you don't want a situation where the school backs the technician and nothing can be proved. The technician should be fired over this so the school will have to take it very seriously, and if they don't believe you it could make things worse for your child. I'm not even slightly saying you shouldn't do anything, just make sure you have everything lined up to minimise the chances of it backfiring on you.

The stupid troll hunting on this thread esp the ones disguising it as concern. Get a grip

Don’t sweat it, just part of the rich tapestry of growing up. If you are really worried then go and bang some frozen sausages into the teachers lawn. Biguns

It absolutely would meet the threshold based on the Keeping Children Safe in Education (KCSIE) regulations that came in 2022.

Section one: Concerns or allegations that may meet the harm threshold
356.
This part of the guidance is about managing cases of concerns/allegations that might indicate a person would pose a risk of harm [125] if they continue to work in their present position, or in any capacity with children in a school or college. In this part (section one) of the guidance reference is made to ‘allegation’ for ease. This part of the guidance should be followed where it is alleged that anyone working in the school or a college that provides education for children under 18 years of age, including supply teachers, volunteers and contractors has:
Behaved in a way that has harmed a child, or may have harmed a child; and/or
Possibly committed a criminal offence against or related to a child; and/or
Behaved towards a child or children in a way that indicates he or she may pose a risk of harm to children; and/or
Behaved or may have behaved in a way that indicates they may not be suitable to work with children.
[125] The harm test is explained in the Disclosure and Barring service Guidance: Making barring referrals to the DBS. and Section 31(9) of the Children Act 1989 as amended by the Adoption and Children Act 2002

The DBS categories harm as

What is harm?
This is not defined in legislation. DBS view harm as its common understanding or the definition you may find in a dictionary.
Harm is considered in its widest context and may include:

• sexual harm
• physical harm
• financial harm
• neglect
• emotional harm
• psychological harm
• verbal harm

This is not a fully comprehensive list, harm can take many different forms. What is the harm test? A person satisfies the harm test if they may harm a child or vulnerable adult or put them at risk of harm. It is something a person may do to cause harm or pose a risk of harm to a child or vulnerable adult.

Bypass school and go to the police. Threats of violence are a police matter.

technicians are not "on". Nothing to strike him off of

do not do this. It would make their statements invalid

Id be down the school toot sweet

Tout suite? Unless you’re going into school sweetly tooting on a trumpet.

It's the MN trumpet to announce the arrival of a parent who is going to 'take it the whole way'...🎺🎺🎺

Announcing yourself with a Trumpet fanfare. 😂🤣

o that is what that meant- I did wonder