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Should I change my daughters school.

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M201 · 21/05/2019 13:49

I'm torn as to whether I should change my daughters school or not. There have been some issues with some of the other parents at the school ( a specific group of women ) who seem to take it in turns to target other parents such as myself and torment them. The issue with this is, that it is now effecting my child and their friendships. Slowly one by one these women are targeting her friends and saying things ( it's obvious because their behaviour changes ). As an adult I can deal with the unwanted actions of these parents. But for my child, I just can't see it ending and over the past several months I've seen play dates decrease / my child regularly coming home from school upset that they are being left out of social interactions at school and having cruel things said to them. It's worth noting, I won't be the first parent to have experienced the wrath of these people or to leave the school. I don't know the reason why I'm receiving this behaviour either. As although it feels personal, it's been directed at others before. But it's def getting out of hand. I now hate the school run and avoid it also. Any constructive advice appreciated.

HebeMumsnet · 22/05/2019 11:18

Sorry to hear this, OP. It sounds really horrible.

Have you spoken to the school about it? If this has been an issue in the past for others, they might aware and be able to suggest a way forward?

It seems a shame for your DD to have to move schools, but how does she feel about it? If there's another school you could get her into and she'd like to do it, it's maybe worth thinking about.

Hopefully someone will be along soon who will have experience of a similar situation and be able to help more.

HebeMumsnet · 25/05/2019 22:20

Just come back to this thread and seen you've had some helpful advice, OP.

I just wondered, is it worth 'honing in' a bit on some kids whose parents aren't part of this group? Seeing if they want to come round for tea or something, and encouraging your DD to be friends with them? Maybe, subtly mention once you get to know the parents that you've had some issues with a certain group of others. Strength in numbers and all that. If they're passing this strange behaviour on through their children there's probably no point in your DD pursuing those friendships but there must be other children in the class whose parents aren't involved in all this and would also welcome a friendship away from all the drama.

Hope things improve for you both, anyway.

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