Kid keeps attacking my 3 year old

[Mamalexi343]

So I'm fuming right now!

My 3 year old dd keeps getting hit and pushed and kicked by the same kid at her nursery.

Now this kid has special needs and whilst I do understand (my niece is autistic) I don't understand why nothing is being done about it. I'm not angry at him (well I am a bit, he hurt my baby) nor am I angry at his parents (slightly annoyed) I'm furious with his care givers, that they know he lashes out yet nothing is being done.

He went to her old nursery and bit her twice on the same finger, breaking the skin both times and I didn't realise he had moved over to her new nursery until I saw him a couple of weeks ago and it all clicked together all the time she was coming home saying xxxxx had hurt her again.

As soon as I realised he was there I immediately took her teachers to the side and quietly explained their history and he seems to have taken a disliking to her, they assured me they would be vigilant in watching and on hand if any situation looks like it's forming.

I pick her up today to be called into the classroom and she is uncontrollably crying and they inform me she has hit her eye, it's only once we've got home and her eye has swollen up and turned into a black eye and I ask her what happened and she again tells me xxxxx has thumped her in the eye.

I am beyond angry and waiting for her next nursery day to get to the bottom of this, she wouldn't say someone did something if they didn't and I said a few of the other kids names and she assured me it was him.

Why is the nursery not doing anything about it? Why did they lie to me? Why aren't they getting this boy the help he so obviously needs? My dd isn't the first child he's gone for, I've had several conversations with other parents of children he's hurt.

I already struggle to get her in there every morning let alone with all this now going on.

I don't care if I'm over reacting I'm not having this!!!! How would you guys handle it?

OP your duty of care is to your dd. I would be very angry at the situation too. As suggested please put it in writing, it makes it 'official' and easier to follow up.

Hope you get it sorted and your dd is OK.

Oh, and I have a life. I don't come on here posting and trying to upset someone who is rightfully upset. That's your nasty little game.

And good on you Kelly, some right twattish comments on here.

Well thats me put right in my place.

Fuck me im glad i met you Kelly

Do carry on.

Im off to sleep. Thanks for the laugh kelly.

Plus its not nitpicking to say she shouldn't be angry with the boy or his parents either.

It is when she's already said she isn't. You seem to want her to feel even worse than she already does.

I am a mum to a daughter who has ASD, dev delay, learning difficulties, and have been in the position of the parents. I totally agree with yiu, they need to be keeping chikdren safe, despite this boys needs and they are not! You need to have reassurance from them that they will not happen again, how are they keeping your child safe. They have a duty to do that. If I was the parents of that boy, I woukd be angry that this is happening at nursery, where are they, when my son is doing this. Mabey that setting is not right for the little boy, a more specialist nursery or a school attached nursery with more resources would be more appropriate. That would be up to the nursery manager to broach that.

mama its really easy to do an ofsted complaint and a complaint to the DoE; they are both on-line submission, just a couple of screens, I will try and find you links

The policy is normally governor's FIRST...but I submitted all 3 at the same time

contact.ofsted.gov.uk/online-complaints

Oh you wouldn't be glad if you actually met me, because unlike you I'm not a keyboard warrior. I'd say it all to your face straight, without a little passive aggressive after lou. See I don't get off on making other women feel shit when they're in a bad place, but that's clearly your thing. I no worries about calling people out like you though.

Sleep well lou. I'm sure the OP won't after you're 'support'.

Its your.

*your

Ill sleep fine, your wee showoffy rant hasnt bothered me :) keep going all night if you like.

Yes I know love, it was spell check. I have a masters in English . Well done for proving your passive aggressive nature though

Now you've made yourself look like even more of a wanker...if that's actually possible???

And it's I'll btw, there's and apostrophe. If you're going to try to correct anyone else, at least make sure your house is in order

*an (before you say anything)

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"Prioritise children with sn over others"

Well. That didn't take long did it?

Still running the "that's my child" campaign mnhq???

DixieNormas They may be trying to cover their arses because their have been previous incidents with OP's DD and the other child and OP has expressed her concerns to them.
The school I worked at had a policy of informing parents of injuries (as required) but not of exactly how they happened. For example, instead of "Joe hit John on the head", we would be instructed to word the injury slip "John bumped head"...not an out and out lie (John did bump his head...albeit on Joes fist) but not the whole truth, either

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