Friend is "topping up" her 6-week old bf baby - how can I help?

[HaventSleptForAYear]

Am really stuck about how to give advice to bf friends without interfering.

Saw a friend recently who has been following a famous "routine" involving a bottle at 10pm (formula) and bf the rest of the time.

She now seems to be losing confidence and takes formula out with her "in case he's hungry". BF is still sore for her.

I BF DS1 with difficulty to start off with and have told her about this, but am worried that within a few weeks she will have given up and will then will feel bad about it (she has hinted at this).

Am really wary about interfering but feel sad if I can't help her out a little.

Any advice on giving advice ? (at a distance, will be over the phone)

finished!

what's for dessert?

Nice and easy. Stawberries, sprinkled with sugar. Double cream....

Red wine.

So now I'm an arch bf ?!

Argh - if that's the impression people have on here, she may well think that I suppose.

Maybe I'm not the best person to advise after all.

Hope you all enjoyed your dinner

Won't make up for foxy's burnt potatoes though !

Can I have some of that wine?

Even if I am bf?

no no, not me, but i think that giving advice on any element of parenting is so utterly loaded, particularly bfing, that it's entirely possible she does. it's a freakin' nightmare, personally i think all you can do is email her a couple of links on kellymom and hope for the best.

Email sent with link to kellymom - I didn't want to link directly to topping up in case she thought I didn't approve - I'll let her decide what queries/doubts she might have - I pointed her towards the search box.

Will now step away (and from this discussion too - still really sorry about the bad feeling my OP may have caused between posters who I think all wanted to help).

At least the discussion has made me realise just how loaded this topic is - there's not the same weight to it here in France as far as I'm aware...

It is only pretend, so you can drink it.

Another thing would be to introduce your friend to mumsnet, even though we are a bunch of vipers, we are nice vipers. But I would wait till this thread has disappeared off the horizon....

HAventSlept - I apologise in advance as I haven't read all the responses to your post

Just wanted to give my twopennethworth..

I too am following that famous routine for DD2 (now 4 wks) - worked for DD1

I don't think GF advocated 10pm feed as formula (not as I've read it anyway) I thought it meant to be expressed

I am following the suggestions for increasing milk production (it's at the end of the book). thought it would be a faff but it's not been difficult at all, so I don't ever feel I'm running out of milk.

Sorry this post is a bit garbled, (I'm just off to bed so not functioning at my best) but I suppose what I'm trying to say is there is a plan for increasing milk supply if that is the crux of your friend's problem

I think I am one of the few who loves GF!

Hope this helps

Actually I've just realised your thread turned into a bit of a debate - so by now my post is probably completely irrelevant!