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Pregnant and Nursing Support Thread

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/07/2008 10:06

I thought I'd start up a support group, for those of us pregnant, with an older nursling. If you are pregnant at the moment or tandeming or have done in the past and want to add your support, please post!

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have a 2 and a week year old. One of the first things I noticed about being pregnant was my nipples felt bruised like she'd bitten me. 8 weeks later not much has changed and I'm still spending every feed saying "gentle please".

Someone please tell me it gets easier!

I'm also starting to feel quite full and hard.

I keep getting told by my family I'll have problems tandem feeding "and how many mothers do you know who have done it?" My dad was grilling me the other day about tandeming and when I'll stop Tink nursing. He's a radiographer. I made him agree with me "Well, you know yourself that when the adult teeth come through because they're in a totally different order to the milk teeth the jaw changes shape" "Yes and around the same time the soft spot in the jaw fuses" "That change makes it impossible for them to continue nursing, that's why they got called milk teeth" lol how could he argue when he'd just backed my argument up!

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maygirl · 08/07/2009 22:48

My DS has weaned off the left side (previously allocated as new baby's side!), which now has salty milk or sticky colostrum. Right side still seems to have normal toddler milk! Wonder if body revving up for tandem nursing!!

Meanbeansmum · 09/07/2009 08:57

Thankyou mawbroon. AF is late......sat here gtwiddling my thumbs tryoing not to POAS to avoid disappointment...that and the fact that once I start POAS I won't stop lol.

She'll probably find me in a day or so but living in hope is nice right now lol.

Maygirl, wow that sounds amazing!

Meanbeansmum · 09/07/2009 08:59

sorry for typos, I never proof read, need to train myself to scan before I post lol.

Meanbeansmum · 09/07/2009 09:00

Thankyou mawbroon. AF is late......sat here gtwiddling my thumbs tryoing not to POAS to avoid disappointment...that and the fact that once I start POAS I won't stop lol.

She'll probably find me in a day or so but living in hope is nice right now lol.

Maygirl, wow that sounds amazing!

maygirl · 09/07/2009 22:12

Fingers crossed Meanbeansmum!

verylittlecarrot · 27/07/2009 17:13

Hello ladies. I'd like to join this lovely thread, as I am now officially outing myself.

Tadaaaa!

How's everyone doing?

maygirl · 01/08/2009 16:35

Hello verylittlecarrot, how many weeks are you? I'm 14 weeks now and doing ok, one sided nursing still going ok too! I've still got milk, but not as much, feeds don't last very long now!

Babieseverywhere · 01/08/2009 17:07

Congratulatioms VLC

Welcome to the thread

verylittlecarrot · 01/08/2009 17:45

Thanks! I'm nearly 14 weeks too. I feel like my milk has all but disappeared, although babycarrot tells me it's still there. Feeds are very ouchy though. I keep waiting for it to ease off...[hopeful]

Babieseverywhere · 12/08/2009 08:04

I hope your discomfort has stopped. I was lucky and I only had limited discomfort early on in pregnancy and the rest of it I was just trying to figure out how to lie toddler DD around my bump

CantSleepWontSleep · 12/08/2009 08:10

Congratulations vlc .

(Still smiling every time I remember that you are pg Mawbroon ).

maygirl · 12/08/2009 22:23

I'm 16 weeks now and supply has really dipped. DS says left side is empty and it really is, or occasionally has colostrum. It feels really strange after having had milk there for so long!
He swings from chatting about the baby, saying it can have this side, and he'll have the other, to announcing off his own back that 'I STOP' when the baby's here and 'I have cup milk', to finishing a feed with a stroppy 'i don't want baby'! I think he thinks about it alot, I've told him they can both have milk, but have also been discussing how one day he will stop having it.

StealthPolarBear · 13/08/2009 12:46

Just noticed you are pregnant vlc - congratulations
Can I ask a quick tandem feeding question?
DS is 2y3m and baby 2 is due in a couple of weeks. DS has always been a complete milk moster but has gone down now to morning and night, and the occassional middle of the night feed, which I'm happy to continue. he occassionally asks during the day but can usually be distracted and I'd rather have it this way - obviously would still feed if he was really upset or hurt.
When the baby comes, will it be easier to go back to feeding him on demand too? Will he resent the baby having a feed at any time or will he understand that he's a big boy and things are different for him?

Babieseverywhere · 13/08/2009 13:21

SPB, I found my toddler DD went back to fulltime milk and cut back on her solids to do so. I allowed her to nurse on demand during the day and for my sanity I refused nursing at night (she had already been night weaned for 6 months before baby came along)

That said, I know a RL mum who decided from the off that the older child was going to be limited to a couple a feed a day and managed to stick to that.

What do you think you would prefer to do ?

StealthBearWipesBumOnDailyMail · 13/08/2009 13:32

Definitely carry on as we are. Ds already eats very little and would fill up on milk (mine or "Daddy's" - don't worry, it's just semi skimmed ) if I let him. Until he was quite old he fed very regularly - can't go back to that again and I really don't want to. On the other hand, if it was just the first coupld of weeks and then he gets bored and goes back to how he was I could cope if it helped him not feel pushed out...don't suppose you have a crystal ball?

StealthBearWipesBumOnDailyMail · 13/08/2009 13:34

ooh i wonder...
if i get him a new cup, a special one, and whenever baby feeds he can sit and have milk/ water out of that - might work! Plus I'm hoping to figure out feeding in a sling so hopefully it won't be a big "mummy sit down to feed baby" thing for him anyway

Babieseverywhere · 14/08/2009 22:29

I have heard having special toys/books just for breastfeeding times can be useful for an older sibling, bet a new cup would be a great gift from the baby to his/her older sibling

kitkatqueen · 15/08/2009 21:48

Hi Stealth!! I am in a very similar situation, dc3 is 20 mnths and I am due in 3 days. He has been feeding very randomly and I thought for a while that he was going to quit, but he hasn't and I too have been wondering about the logistics and how much boob time he is going to want once the baby arrives.

I think a special cup for when the babe is feeding is probably the best idea I have heard yet. Knowing my little man if the cup had bob the builder on it it would work

kitkatqueen · 28/08/2009 23:19

Hello, I had my baby on sunday I was really, really worried about how the whole dual feeding would work with my boys and was really worried that it was going to cause jealousy / conflict between them.

I am typing this whilst touching wood!! Once ds1 realised the baby was getting boobie he was less than impressed, when he then realised they could have it together, the baby became his best buddy! When they are both latched on he strokes no4's hair, comes off and says "bubbys turn" kisses him and goes off to play.

He tells his sisters off if they try to cuddle the baby too much says "mine" about the baby and kisses and strokes him all the time.

Its lovely.

Sorry, just wanted to share...

verylittlecarrot · 28/08/2009 23:53

congratulations kitkatqueen!

kitkatqueen · 29/08/2009 00:39

Thankyou.

Babieseverywhere · 30/08/2009 08:33

kitkatqueen, congratulations on the safe arrival of your new baby

Awwwwww, it is so sweet to have tandem nursing newborn and toddler. Sounds like DS is a great big brother and is bonding well with his new sibling

mawbroon · 30/08/2009 17:56

Oops, I forgot to mark this thread.

I am now 14weeks and ds is telling me that there's hardly any milk, but that he will keep trying until the "funny milk" comes in.

We have stuck to no night feeding, and he is doing well with it. He does wake up in the night, but can be comforted back to sleep in seconds. Which is good news for his knackered pg mum!!

I think I will have a bump soon as all my trousers are beginning to strain at the waist a bit. It shouldn't pose any probs though because we rarely feed with him lying across me any more.

Cantsleepwontsleep - I keep too. It was a long wait, but I think it was definitely in ds's best interests.

VillageSlingMummy · 31/08/2009 19:01

i am 41 weeks pg and nursing my 2 yr old

kitkatqueen · 31/08/2009 21:15

Thankyou babieseverywhere

Oooh!! Hope you pop soon VSM!!