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Pregnant and Nursing Support Thread

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/07/2008 10:06

I thought I'd start up a support group, for those of us pregnant, with an older nursling. If you are pregnant at the moment or tandeming or have done in the past and want to add your support, please post!

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have a 2 and a week year old. One of the first things I noticed about being pregnant was my nipples felt bruised like she'd bitten me. 8 weeks later not much has changed and I'm still spending every feed saying "gentle please".

Someone please tell me it gets easier!

I'm also starting to feel quite full and hard.

I keep getting told by my family I'll have problems tandem feeding "and how many mothers do you know who have done it?" My dad was grilling me the other day about tandeming and when I'll stop Tink nursing. He's a radiographer. I made him agree with me "Well, you know yourself that when the adult teeth come through because they're in a totally different order to the milk teeth the jaw changes shape" "Yes and around the same time the soft spot in the jaw fuses" "That change makes it impossible for them to continue nursing, that's why they got called milk teeth" lol how could he argue when he'd just backed my argument up!

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whomovedmychocolate · 22/06/2009 15:11

DD is so tall I have to lie her down to feed otherwise she falls off my lap now DS thinks kicking me in the face is a good way to show his appreciation

DD stopped asking so much when she started nursery perhaps because nursery was on her list of 'big girl things' and nursing wasn't?

Having said, she is now refusing to potty train saying 'I don't want to be a big girl, I want to be a baby again' which I think means she wants to keep on nursing but doesn't want to ask.

I don't want her to be sad. I feel awful if I've made her feel she has to give up or that I expect her too

Babieseverywhere · 22/06/2009 19:10

I suppose that is something that people don't understand that once your nurseling is a toddler there is a lot of emotions involved with nursing.

Weaning a young baby is definately parent led, whereas we are trying to negotiate a balance between our needs and our nursing toddlers.

It isn't easy but you know that, LOL

UnderWrapsForNow · 24/06/2009 09:26

I think my boobs have grown already, and I am only 4+3

Why can my body not just say "great I already make milk, one less job to worry about"

Deemented · 24/06/2009 14:04

Hi all - haven't read this thread fully yet but was hoping you could all share you're wisdom with me. I'm 11 weeks pregnant and still breastfeeding my 13 months old dd. I'm really struggling at the moment... my breasts are incredibly tender and my nipples are so so sensitive. It's really hurting to feed her - she's taken to biting or even chewing my nipples and if i'm not quick enough she even grabs them and twists!! I really don't know what to do - do i stop feeding her altogether? If it wasn't so painful i'd happily feed her until she self weans.

Deemented · 24/06/2009 21:31

Bump - anyone?

Babieseverywhere · 24/06/2009 22:05

Ouch, sounds very painful

Atr 13 month old, your child is old enough to be taught nursing manners, Kellymom has a great webpagehere with ideas you can try.

Congratulations on your pregancy

UnderWrapsForNow · 27/06/2009 23:23

My wraps are coming off soon, once I have told the last of my family that I am pg.

You will all go "who????? never heard of you!"

mawbroon · 28/06/2009 13:41

My Wraps are off.

maygirl · 28/06/2009 14:26

Congrats
I kind of guessed it was you!!
V happy for you. I'm nearly ten weeks now, DS will be nearly 3.7 when baby born. Still got milk, though think least popular side changing taste and sometimes starts with colostrum, making it even less popular! But he still has both first thing and bedtime when sleepy! He has told me the baby can have his least favourite side, funny, as it looks like that one's revving up for newborn use!

mawbroon · 28/06/2009 15:00

LOL, was I so obvious?

maygirl · 28/06/2009 22:36

Yep

mawbroon · 28/06/2009 22:51
Blush
Babieseverywhere · 29/06/2009 09:00

Congratualations mawbroon

Of course we know who you are, silly.

Must confess, I thought it was you too. I know you have been trying for a while with an older boy nurseling. When you namechanged, I said to my DH that I really hoped it was you.

Plus you mentioned on another thread (I just happened to read, no stalking I promise) that your period was late or cycle was very long or something to that effect

mawbroon · 30/06/2009 19:14

PMSL at some random MNetter's DH being told about mawbroon being pregnant! LOL

I had to have a nap today. I stayed up to watch Andy Murray's game last night and paid for it today! I don't feel too sick yet, but there's still plenty time...........

Babieseverywhere · 30/06/2009 20:48

He was a bit LOL.

You might be lucky and not get sick, I has no sickness with DD just heartburn.

CharCharGabor · 30/06/2009 22:23

Hi, anyone mind if I join? Just had a bfp so still early days Nipples are a bit tender when DD latches on and I've got a bit of queasiness but otherwise not too bad.

Babieseverywhere · 01/07/2009 09:26

CharCharGabor, Welcome and congratulations on your pregnancy

Pull a chair up

mawbroon · 01/07/2009 14:18

LOL, DS has me sussed.

him - mummy, is there a baby in your tummy?

me- why do you ask? (hoping to avoid answering)

him - your tummy is reaaaaaaally big.

me - cheers ds

He also said that my "milks" are bigger but I don't think he has connected this to the possibility that I might have a baby in my fat tummy.

They don't miss a thing, do they!? I wouldn't mind, except I'm only 5 weeks!

Babieseverywhere · 02/07/2009 08:46

Wow, that is interesting. I wonder what else hye will notice ?

My DD neither noticed nor mentioned anything to me at the start. Mind you, she was just 16 months old when I got a BFP with my DS.

CharCharGabor · 04/07/2009 20:47

God it hurts to feed DD today, real toe-curling pain. Any tips for easing it off a bit? Have been getting her to open wide but still so sore. Have alternated between shouting, crying and yawning today, not a good start

Meanbeansmum · 05/07/2009 15:02

Wow what a lovely thread to read.

I'm not pg or tandem feeding but I'd love to be!

What are the chances of me getting pg while still breastfeeding girls? I'm feeding my 17 month old sometimes once in the day, in the evening and first thing in the morning.

When I tried to conceive DD I had to give up BF ds2 as I just couldn't catch. I gave up when he was 2 years old and 2 months later I was pregnant.

I'm having nice regular cycles, loads of the normal ovulation signs.

Good luck to all pg.

Babieseverywhere · 05/07/2009 17:21

Char, Ouch, that sounds painful. Pain whilst nursing and pregnant can differ a lot from mother to mother. Checking her latch and reattaching her sounds useful to try. I had limited soreness at 8 weeks which went away never to return. I hope your pain disappears likewise.

Meanbeansmum, No idea on your fertility but the fact you are "having nice regular cycles, loads of the normal ovulation signs." must be a good sign ? All the best in TTC.

StealthPolarBear · 06/07/2009 08:24

Mbm - I was convinced I wouldn't get pg, had one period mid October, one end of November (so 45 days later and then was pregnant by early Jan Not sure about the actual statistics but plenty of people seem to do it. You can get ovulation tests on ebay - they are very cheap - I had got some in preparation for the next 'cycle' but didn't need them

CharCharGabor · 06/07/2009 09:33

Thanks BE. The pain isn't too bad today, seems to be fluctuating. Am counting to ten like I did when she was tiny

mawbroon · 08/07/2009 13:49

Meanbeansmum - I would thoroughly recommend that you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler (if you haven't already!)

As I have written a million times on here before, I was having nice regular cycles and signs of ovulation etc, but thanks to that book, I discovered that breastfeeding was making my luteal phase too short for implantation. With this knowledge, I wasn't worried that I didn't conceive in 2.5yrs (apart from a m/c at 6weeks) and I knew that things should go back to normal once ds cut down a bit with his feeding, or stopped altogether.

Had I not known exactly what was going on, I would have been quite worried at my lack of conceiving.

I would also say that it might be different this time round for you, and not to assume that you have to stop altogether to get pg.

My ds is 3.8yo is now down to morning/bedtime/couple of times through the day feeding and it seems that cutting out night feeding in April was enough for me to finally get pg.

Charchar - sympathy on the sore nips. Same here, but DS is being so cute and almost dislocating his jaw with the width he is opening his mouth for me, and that seems to have done the trick. The first few seconds are uncomfortable, but tine after that.

I got my first complaint that my milk didn't taste good.