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Pregnant and Nursing Support Thread

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/07/2008 10:06

I thought I'd start up a support group, for those of us pregnant, with an older nursling. If you are pregnant at the moment or tandeming or have done in the past and want to add your support, please post!

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have a 2 and a week year old. One of the first things I noticed about being pregnant was my nipples felt bruised like she'd bitten me. 8 weeks later not much has changed and I'm still spending every feed saying "gentle please".

Someone please tell me it gets easier!

I'm also starting to feel quite full and hard.

I keep getting told by my family I'll have problems tandem feeding "and how many mothers do you know who have done it?" My dad was grilling me the other day about tandeming and when I'll stop Tink nursing. He's a radiographer. I made him agree with me "Well, you know yourself that when the adult teeth come through because they're in a totally different order to the milk teeth the jaw changes shape" "Yes and around the same time the soft spot in the jaw fuses" "That change makes it impossible for them to continue nursing, that's why they got called milk teeth" lol how could he argue when he'd just backed my argument up!

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mrsjammi · 25/05/2009 14:46

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maygirl · 25/05/2009 19:39

Joining too, just found out expecting DC2, DS1 is 2.9, and this last week has also been in a nursing frenzy, just like your DS MrsJammi! He already fed 4-5 times a day as it was! Interested to see what happens, will he wean as milk supply drops or keep going strong, will we or won't we be tandem nursing... He'll be 3.5 when DC2 arrives.

Babieseverywhere · 25/05/2009 20:15

Congratulations to maygirl and mrsjammi

jumblies · 28/05/2009 11:07

Can I join please? Am newly pregnant (well 10 weeks) and have DD of 20 months. So far she shows no sign of giving up any time soon which I'm fine with.

My nipples are in agony though, it feels like crocodille clips have been attached to them whenever she latches on. Hopefully it will get better in time

Wish I knew ppl in real life who had gone down this route, it can get lonely being the only breastfeeder in a group and now potentially the only tandem feeder.

Quick question - I still sometimes use my breastfeeding cushion with DD. Do you think I should get a new one for the baby so that DD doesn't get jealous of 'her' cushion being used?

Babieseverywhere · 31/05/2009 10:56

Congratulations jumblies

I won a new nursing cushion just before my second child was born. At first I tried to use the right cushion with the right child. I gave that up by day 3, too much other stuff to worry about. I just used the new cushion with both.

I liked my new cushion as it was big enough for me to use when I nurse them together and I still use it at home now.

HTH

TBM · 31/05/2009 19:43

How is everyone doing? Fifi is 5 months on Tuesday - where does the time go?!?! - and we're still going strong! I'm trying to get Tink to feed more often because we don't have a routine with it, I'd like to at least put her to bed with a feed.

I've been asked to be a delegate at a day conference for my H in a few weeks so I'm currently expressing, expressing, expressing! I think have about two bottles worth, I'm going to be away for about 20 hours so think I need more than that! She'll probably be about 11lb at the time, max.

jumblies · 04/06/2009 20:12

Thanks babieseverywhere! My breastfeeding cushion is a little saggy so was thinking of upgrading to a twins nursing pillow...is that a little ott

It sounds like tandem nursing is going really well for you. I hope that I will be able to type a similar post in a year's time

Babieseverywhere · 20/06/2009 09:22

Thanks jumblies

I can't quite believe that my not-so-little baby boy is Ten months old. Oh my, where did the time go ?

We are still tandem nursing and my big girl (2.10 years old) is still as boob obsessed as ever. I wonder if the frequency of her milk feeds will go down when she starts nursery or will she nurse more when she sees me. I reckon the latter but I will wait and see what happens.

It looks like DS is following in DD footsteps. He was away from me for 4 hours whilst me and DH had a date/birthday treat children free time. Whilst with grandparents he was happy and giggly, the moment he saw me he cried and demanded milk...they both did.

My mum was not impressed with me tandem nursing them together in front of her. But they were both tired and needed the comfort. Please with myself that I did not try and justify myself (especially in MY own house) and she started to say something and then stopped herself. Yeah

UnderWrapsForNow · 20/06/2009 16:14

Tentatively joining. Got a BFP yesterday.

I have changed my name as I am not going public yet, and I don't want to give too many details that will give myself away either!

Not much by way of symptoms, tired and sore nipples so far.

My older nursling is capable of understanding that it's sore and he has to try again, so i think that is the way round it at feeding time.

I will go and read the thread now.

Babieseverywhere · 20/06/2009 19:08

UnderWrapsForNow, Congratulation on your BFP and welcome to the thread

I can understand why you wanted to change your name, especially if you know people in RL on here IYSWIM. I won't try and second guess you and I hope noone else would 'out' you even if you did post details

Hope your older nurseling doesn't make things to sore for you. I was lucky to have very little soreness whilst being pregnant whilst nursing.

UnderWrapsForNow · 20/06/2009 22:55

Thanks babieseverywhere.

I am not getting too excited about this pregnancy because I miscarried about 18months ago at 6 weeks.

I did manage to read Adventures in Tandem Nursing for the very short time I was pregnant though! Perhaps I should get it out of the library again!

I had no idea that my ds would nurse this long!

Babieseverywhere · 20/06/2009 23:12

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

I have no idea if you were nursing your son or not at the time of your loss, I just wanted to reassure you that breastfeeding during a normal pregnancy is healthy and does not increase the chance of losing a pregnancy.

Babieseverywhere · 20/06/2009 23:14

As for no idea about the length of nursing...I think I was aiming for a month about 2.9 years ago and now I am tandem nursing !!!

UnderWrapsForNow · 21/06/2009 19:59

I have just discovered today that the sore nipples are not pg related!! DS must have been dragging on them in the night and he's taken the skin off one of them.

He is so sweet. Mummy, is it this one that's sore? I will be reeeeeeeally careful. He's a wee darling.

Babieseverywhere · 21/06/2009 20:15

Ouch, sounds painful, hope you heal quickly. Your DS does sound like a very sweet child

whomovedmychocolate · 21/06/2009 20:20

Congrats underwraps (sounds like a new kind of knicker!)

I fed DD right the way through a very complicated pregnancy following miscarriage and the breastfeeding was the only bit that ran to plan but DS is now 11 months old, I'm still nursing both of them (how did that happen) and it does all work out in the end. Good luck

Babieseverywhere · 21/06/2009 20:29

WMMC, Wow, I can't belive we are both still tandem nursing Time sure flies when you are having fun

whomovedmychocolate · 21/06/2009 20:33

Isn't it marvelous when a 'queue' of nursling forms. You are feeding one and you just know once one finishes the other is going to want some?

Actually DD is starting to self wean and goes several days a week now without milk, but no more than two days running then demands a lot of milk. My poor boobs don't know what the hell is going on most of the time!

Babieseverywhere · 21/06/2009 21:09

My nursing queue is very vocal, toddler jumps up and down and says 'my turn ink. Baby finished now' Despite the evidence to the opposite, looking at happily nursing baby, LOL.

I know what you mean about the milk. I actually had blocked ducts/start of mastists (not sure which) last week after a couple of days of less feeds (children with colds who couldn't breath and nurse at the same time)

What age did your DD start cutting down on feeds ? I ask as my DD is 2.10 and shows no sign of day weaning, I am waiting for her to self wean in her own time.

whomovedmychocolate · 21/06/2009 21:14

Ooh well she's only a month younger than yours. We talked about it a lot about her going to preschool and being a big girl and having lunch in her box and milk in her cup and the baby having milk from mummy. But about a month ago she started cutting down and partly it was about me not being upstairs when she woke up. For ever she's been getting into bed with me and nursing, but because DS wakes up at 5am - I am generally downstairs and she quite often forgets to ask when she gets there particularly if I meet her en route and hand her a cup of milk.

UnderWrapsForNow · 21/06/2009 21:29

DS and I have been talking about a theoretical younger sibling for ages now. He has declared that he will share his milk with the baby.

"I will have that one, and the baby will have the other one" he says.

If this pg makes it, then ds will be 4years 4 months when it is born. I have no idea if he will have weaned by then or not. In a way, I kind of hope not as I quite fancy tandem nursing.

whomovedmychocolate · 21/06/2009 21:44

Underwraps - oh it's so much easier when they are old enough to talk about it - DD was still very small when I got pregnant with DS and just didn't understand why mummy was so reluctant to have her sore nipples chewed!

Tis great fun freaking out the midwives by feeding both at once in the postnatal unit. Eyes on stalk territory!

UnderWrapsForNow · 21/06/2009 21:49

LOL at eyes on stalks. Hopefully ds will co-operate. He is so keen, I really would be surprised if he weaned when I was pg, but it's a long way until feb!!

Babieseverywhere · 22/06/2009 08:25

Yes, I had a midwife came and close the curtains and asked me if it was true I was still nursing my toddler, whilst in hospital with newborn DS. I said yes and she explained their was a lady in labour in the labour ward and she wanted to 'do the same' and was it wonderful that there was 'two of us'

Made me feel a bit like an exibition at the zoo but she meant well.

My DD was 16 months old when I feel pregnant and I ended up night weaning her, as I was too tired to sit up in her room nursing at night. I agree with WMMC, it is easier once you can explain that they have to wait/share for their milk

Babieseverywhere · 22/06/2009 08:31

WMMC, Well I night weaned my toddler ages ago. I also stopped nursing her upstairs and only nursed her on the sofa. It doesn't work. She tells me to sit down and drags the cushion we use around with her, telling me to sit down and give her 'ink. Bless her. I just thought she might be cutting down a bit, but if we are home for the day she could easily have 4/5 feeds. I am not bothered about her nursing at home, I am more worried about how she will cope at nursery in September.

Saying that she is a very confident child, who may well skip off without a backward glance and may not miss/need milk when I am not there. She copes well overnight on an occassion when she stays at her grandparents house and I don't even send EBM !!!

So I am properly worrying for nothing.