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Pregnant and Nursing Support Thread

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/07/2008 10:06

I thought I'd start up a support group, for those of us pregnant, with an older nursling. If you are pregnant at the moment or tandeming or have done in the past and want to add your support, please post!

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have a 2 and a week year old. One of the first things I noticed about being pregnant was my nipples felt bruised like she'd bitten me. 8 weeks later not much has changed and I'm still spending every feed saying "gentle please".

Someone please tell me it gets easier!

I'm also starting to feel quite full and hard.

I keep getting told by my family I'll have problems tandem feeding "and how many mothers do you know who have done it?" My dad was grilling me the other day about tandeming and when I'll stop Tink nursing. He's a radiographer. I made him agree with me "Well, you know yourself that when the adult teeth come through because they're in a totally different order to the milk teeth the jaw changes shape" "Yes and around the same time the soft spot in the jaw fuses" "That change makes it impossible for them to continue nursing, that's why they got called milk teeth" lol how could he argue when he'd just backed my argument up!

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showmeyourpuku · 02/02/2009 00:40

Hi, DS1 is now 19mo and DS2 is 4.5mo. When I was preg with DS2 every time I fed I vomited - not fun in the wee hours. And it was excrutiating from about 6 weeks until the day I had him - but I had vasospasm for about 3 months the first time so thought it was something to do with that initially.

I love that I am still feeding both my boys, DS1 doesn't eat much food and is 2hrly in the day if he can! He ate heaps while
I was preg, but as soon as that supply whipped back up food was out and boob was in

We are thinking of trying again in three or four months so will be watching this thread!

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 04/02/2009 17:44

Stretch, you would probably be feeling like that if you weren't pregnant because your body will becoming more efficient.

My worry has come true! Tink has discovered that Me-Me is available on tap!! Everytime I'm feeding Fifi she is asking for it, she got in bed with me this morning (me topless, Fifi asleep) and latched on without saying anything (I guessed it was coming fortunately) and she's getting upset if I say no but Fifi isn't good enough yet for me to do it one handed, she needs too much help and Tink gets in the way

Fifi is driving me mad too, she loves to suck. I know comfort sucking is just as important but she likes to have something in her mouth all the time! She will suck her thumb but hasn't got the coordination to do it all the time, she'll take a little finger too. If I put her on the breast (when she's just sucking) though she messes about and I end up sore. Her latch still isn't great and she takes a couple of attempts, I end up having to dry my nipple a couple of times because I got so slippy she can't stay on.

I keep thinking she's six weeks tomorrow, hopefully things should start to get better!

onwardandupward · 05/02/2009 22:43

Oh, but TBMandFF2 the engorgement relief!!! I am just feeling so damn smug that whenever I am getting that horrid distended leaky feeling (one week post partum) I can just invite the older nursling to help clear it. Win win

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 05/02/2009 22:59

I know, one day I asked if she wanted me-me as I was in so much pain, when I felt better I asked if she wanted to swap! The problem I have at the moment is I've told her that she's to stop biting and she doesn't seem to understand that what she's supposed to do is OK and not biting so she doesn't often latch on properly! I can't win

PinkTulips · 08/02/2009 11:25

tink, ds does that.... he tries to bite and i tell him off and then he won't suck and gets cross that no milk comes out [sigh]

the annoying thing is after months of not really enjoying him feeding and him wanting to every night when i was in agony, now that i want him to feed in the hope it'll help kickstart labour he won't!!!!

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 08/02/2009 18:00

It must be confusing for them because it is a biting motion that they do to suckle so when we say "no biting" they don't realise the difference. I talk to Tink about how she feeds, I tell her what Fifi is doing (she keeps pulling her tongue back so I get bit) and say that she has to put her tongue over her teeth so that Mummy doesn't get bit.

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 14/02/2009 00:11

How are you all?

Babieseverywhere · 14/02/2009 09:01

We are still tandem nursing, DD 2.6 and DS 6 months. Things are going very well

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 19/02/2009 00:50

Do I remember right that at one point you though you were giving up tandeming? Well done!

Things are getting better here, I was getting very stressed but feeling so much better now that I can see she's doing well.

Babieseverywhere · 20/02/2009 09:05

Tink, We didn't think about stopping tandeming, so far it has been pretty straight forward for us...wasn't it CSWS thinking about stopping ?

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 20/02/2009 22:10

Ah yes I think you're right. Everything pre-2009 seems a million years ago!

Babieseverywhere · 15/03/2009 20:25

Another bump for this thread...we are still nursing at 2.7 and 7 months respectively.

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 15/03/2009 20:47

Where is everyone? I know there are a few Fab Febbers who should be here!

2y8m and 10 weeks!

Babieseverywhere · 24/03/2009 09:24

Another bump...Tink and I know you pregnant ladies and tandem feeders are out there !!!

mama2leah · 28/03/2009 10:44

helloooooooooooo
i need alot of support right now, im struggling to feed my 8 month old..and im 20 weeks pregnant, i love breastfeeding, and it was really difficult in the beginning..i feel like im struggling again, as its really painful and i think my dd is slow self weaning herself...
my dh wants me to only feed til a yr, as he says i need a break, he is totally supportive of bf, but i think he cant see me exhuatsed and in pain....

plz tel me it gets easier...

Babieseverywhere · 28/03/2009 19:06

Welcome mama2leah and congatulations on your pregnancy

Being pregnant with an 8 month old baby sounds very tiring. It must be difficult for your DH to watch you struggle but on the other hand it is up to you how long you nurse for and I hope he understands that.

As for your current pain and discomfort, I hope it is temporary but it is impossible to say over the net.

It could be the pregnancy making you tender or your baby's latch or some health problem or nothing. What do you think ?

On the bright side, hopefully you'll find breastfeeding easier than you did the first time

Babieseverywhere · 20/04/2009 09:47

Bump for pregnant nursing mums and tandem nursers.

ommmwardandupward · 24/04/2009 18:21

bump!

Still tandemming here I must be producing gallons a day [smug]

Babieseverywhere · 08/05/2009 08:55

Bump for turtle23

ommmwardandupward, good on you

We are still tandem nursing, 9 month old DS day and night and 2.9 year old DD during the day

DD still has a fair few feeds usually around 5 a day !!! So does DS but that is expected.

I am interested in how many feeds other toddlers of nearly three have ?

turtle23 · 08/05/2009 09:59

Thanks! Hello all...am 11 weeks pg and still BF DS who is 13 months. Apparently I am a freak.

mrsgamp · 08/05/2009 10:13

I really must be a freak(!) - I am sixteen weeks pregnant and tandem-feeding my DD,3.5 and DS,18 months!! I have no plans to stop (despite recent agony!) and neither do my children, who would be at the breast most of the day if possible! (despite milk having dried up considerably).

Babieseverywhere · 08/05/2009 10:53

Welcome mrsgamp, flipping heck, I wonder how it is possible to juggle three nurselings !!!

Congratulations not only on your new pregnancy but in finding time to make said baby with two toddlers on the premises

mrsgamp · 08/05/2009 11:54

Ha ha, Babies!! It didn't take long!!!

turtle23 · 08/05/2009 12:09

I am convinced that DS knew before I did. A few days before I tested he started going into a boobie frenzy. He was feeding constantly and I know that my supply was ample (nappies alone show that!) Anybody else get this?

ommmwardandupward · 09/05/2009 11:36

the thing I'm finding hard atm is the erratic nursing of my older nursling, and my body's desperate attempts to regulate supply. so if we have a LOT of nursing one day, I am leaking for England the next (I would just go and offer my services in a scbu if I thought elf'n'safety would allow volunteer wet nursing on a irregular basis!)