Please give me some responses (sensible and flippant equally appreciated) for my Dh's unsupportive questions/comments about extended breast feeding

[popsycal]

FFS
I feel ill
I have to respond to questions about breast feeding regularly from family and friends. The least I expect is DH to be supportive. Well, at least not critical.

But tonight, he has just confronted me with:
'so give me a ball park figure (twat) for when you are going to stop breastfeeding'
'whenever ds2 wants to'
'people think it is getting ridiculous'
'which people?'
'just people. my mum, people I work with'
'what does your mum think is ridiculous and what has it got to do with people you work with who don't know me and who i have never met?'
'but it is getting ridiculous'
'is it?'
'yes - he would be sleeping through by now if you did not breast feed?'
'would he? which research is this based on?'
'my research (twat)'
'where is your research?'
'in here.... (twat)
'what are your objections?'
'it is getting ridiculous'
'what is ridiculous?'
'that he is nearly two and even people who breast feed think it is ridiculous'
'why?'
'why do you have to do it for so long? you are being selfish. it is nearly all for selfish reasons'

at which point i left the room before i exploded
so bloody cross

It's his baby and hers. Her breasts are hers and so is her body. What they has to do with him being a twat about this I dont know.

Yes, but this is a rather different issue from most parenting ones.

I don't see why the person not giving birth - whether that's the biological father, or another partner of the same or different sex - should be judged to have equal weight in some of those biological decisions.

Breastfeeding is so obviously the mothers remit. How can he know better and how dare he be so critical of her efforts?

What if a woman wanted an epidural during labour but her husband was concerned about the effect it might have on the baby. does his opinion carrry equal weight to hers?

I'd say no, personally. That way lies "we're not having pain relief".

Erm, no!

I put that example to demonstrate it's the woman's choice!

but it's not the breastfeeding, it's the attitude about breastfeeding as being some sort of holy grail that only the mum can possibly commnent on that I find so odd. It's enough to make me run for the formula milk and I haven't got strong feelings either way on breast or bottle.

I expect if her dh had been able to have a rational conversation about it that would have been different but to say it is getting ridiculous....

Why on earth would that put you off breastfeeding??

Zoo,I see it as exactly like that.
It is precious and wonderful,a miracle second only to making a baby.

People who can't understand that are...

Why 'excluded'? Does he want the milk? Dog in the blooming manger, I call it.

I am really, really not remotely earth mothery at all.
OK...look away Cod, Jools et al...tonight dd was asking for Mamore (her word) she says, 'dis way mamore....dat way mamore'...to which dh echoes, jokingly, 'this way mamore, that way mamore...' and ds chimes in, 'and no way Jose mamore'. Well, it made us all laugh.

I'm sure I'll stop soon. It's just really different when you've just carried on and your child is an enthusiast, and very sweet and lovely and cuddly. As someone else says you don't just wake up one morning and decide to feed a two year old, it's a process, and it hurts nobody, it really doesn't. I would be very, very upset to be constantly challenged over it.

hercules, Moondog has answered your question for me. It's just breastfeeding fgs, like weeing or pooing or coughing or sneezing. A lot of women seem to be terribly precious about it and are so zealous about it that I think it puts other women off trying or persisting with it.

Not waxing lyrical aboutbreastfeeding = loon?

No, it's so much more than that. Your description is far more worrying.

why worrying?

Breastfeeding is like shitting????

Fuck me........

yes in that it's a natural thing

Because you are so far off. If it meant nothing then I doubt the human race would be here now.

I think you're all bonkers.

Yes, it is a natural thing. An amazing, astounding, beautiful, mystifying thing. Pooing is not.

Zookeeper that would concern me as much as being told that oooh,let me see now...Bryan May wears blue underpants.

Ahh and so the discussion generates as predictad and already seen 'you're weird'.

Falling in love in natural, holding your newborn for the first time is natural...neither are much like shitting. Well not for me!