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Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Cannotbelieveit · 09/09/2014 09:26

Here's a fresh thread!

Let's start by introducing us/babies again Grin

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Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 00:27

30 minutes later and DS is still awake Sad

It's times like this that I really, really, REALLY wish I had bottle fed him.

OliviaRinHerts · 24/09/2014 01:23

First feed of the night....it waS a quick one before he fell asleep but Nct breastfeed supporter told me today there is more milk at night so they feed quicker whereas the evenings he may feed for longer.

We will see if he stays asleep- he is currently making the noises seals make!

Write wannabe/cookie love- I hope you get your Lo's off soon if not already. The nights go so slow when you are tired and they won't sleep... I have downloaded countless games on the phone to keep me company .. They have to go off eventually so just keep trying to soothe/feed etc and they will get off after tiring themselves out. Am thinking of you both.

Re sleeping bags... My ds looks so lost in them as he is so little. I also have some (boy) nighties too from m&s which shud be good when you have to do nappy changes. I know they are meant to be from birth but has everyone used them since they were first born? I also bought two different kinds of swaddle but ds doesn't like them- he likes his arms free but I am worried he will get cold as he kicks off the blankets.

Squizita- it is one worry from now on until they are 18 and beyond but you seem to be adjusting well and your milk is in and you are feeding which is fab. Hardest thing is not knowing if they get enough so your poonami is great news ( and made me laugh !). I'm getting ds weighed weekly now although they only need to see him fortnightly - just as reassurance for me. Is your dp/DH At home? To start with (as DH was on 2 weeks paternity leave) we were both up most of the night.... Esp earlier on. I'm finding the lack of sleep gets easier - you just get used to it but I am looking forward to getting four nights uninterrupted sleep soon!

15 mins of continuing squeaking noises here.. I am sure he makes these noises in his sleep sometimes but I daren't check properly so fingers crossed!

Good luck for the night ahead

Olivia

squizita · 24/09/2014 01:41

Olivia Yeah DH is at home: he does nappies and housework, I do mainly feeding. Good to hear it's normal to both be up and down! That thing about night milk is interesting because I just spent an hour keeping-awake, changing nappy and comforting DD before had a 10 minute feed which is quick even by her standards.
I think I have worked out the pain issue since milk too - she is grabbing at the nipple with her gums as she's no longer doing a nice calm gape taking in lots. Will ask about it next MW visit.
...right, just asked DH to settle DD in the basket (as she still smells the milk on me and fusses even when clearly drowsy full) and going to sneak in for a sleep.

I have exactly the same dilemma re sleeping bags - DD is tiny for them, but she kicks off blankets and then I'd worry about cold. Battle for another day though, today her sleeping in the basket is enough, even if it does take 2 grown adults to feed and settle her!

Sammyviv · 24/09/2014 02:07

Writer I hope your ok. I also really hope you have managed to get some sleep. I too have those moments of wishing id bottle fed and I'm only 2 weeks in

Sammyviv · 24/09/2014 02:13

Ok here's a question
DS just woke for a feed so I give him some boobie juice and he falls asleel! Grin alas the thing is he needs a change. Am I a bad mum if I leave him?

Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 02:34

1.5 hours later and he woke and started screaming again. That was 45 minutes ago and is still awake Sad

Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 02:34

1.5 hours later and he woke and started screaming again. That was 45 minutes ago and is still awake Sad

Cannotbelieveit · 24/09/2014 02:42

Oh writer sorry you're having a crap night. Hmm

Re: sleeping bags we've used gro bags and they are recommended from just under 9lb

First feed of the night after just over 6 hours sleep even after he napped so well Confused oh well he's a little baby not like he's trying to manipulate me

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Sammyviv · 24/09/2014 03:47

I'm on our second feed of the night now (I gave in and changed the nappy!) I feel I've had quite a few hours sleep, actually wondering if this is worseHmm

OliviaRinHerts · 24/09/2014 03:52

Sammyviv

Our babies are in cahoots

I'm on second feed now too!

Re nappy- I had same problem at first feed. I changed it As knew if I didn't it might wet or mess the sheets... Also knew he would need changing at second feed if I didn't do it then. However I gAve him
Other boob after the change so he still slept although he did grizzle for 15 mins once in his basket but settled eventually. I am getting better at leaving him... It's all practice and no you wouldn't be a Bad mother If you didn't change him - just a very tired one prioritising!

OliviaRinHerts · 24/09/2014 03:57

Writer

What about a dummy for those really terrible nights? I was so against them and totally understand why people don't use them but my sister I law changed my mind and as have one for when he really won't settle.

Just a thought.

AuntieMaggie · 24/09/2014 04:47

writer hope you're getting some sleep x

sleeping bags I read they aren't recommended for newborns as they can slip down in them as they're so small and overheat. not sure when is recommended though - I've bought one for the winter. have you tried wrapping/swaddling babies in the blankets or tucking them in? DS has always kicked his blankets off but i don't worry at the moment as it's still quite warm.

DS went for 5 hours tonight probably due to the jabs and calpol but I'm still trying to settle him after an hour poor love :(

cookielove · 24/09/2014 08:36

Hello all, I am seriously struggling with the mix breastfeeding, ds will do one good feed then refuse the next two or three regardless of how well he feeds he still has a bottle top up and is taking up to 5oz. I wanted to preserve till his due date - yesterday- but to be honest he still isn't getting it. I just can't seem to let it go and just do full on bottle feeding!

On the sleeping front, I managed to swaddle him first time in three weeks he didn't cry because of it and he slept well :)

cookielove · 24/09/2014 08:38

Sleeping bags - I have a 1.1 tog, several 2.5 togs he is too small for most of them but he is almost there with his weight! Our flat is warm 22+ most of the time and that is with no heating!

Cariad007 · 24/09/2014 09:02

How is everyone this morning? My night was ok - DS up a couple of times but he just sucked a bit and went back to sleep. When I woke up he was on the other side of me so I must've moved him in the night so I can't remember! He was mainly feeding from one side so I have one empty boob and one massive one now.

Writer, hope you're ok?

Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 09:13

I'm exhausted Sad

He didn't go back to sleep until 3am. Was up again before 6am and didn't go back to sleep until 06.40 and then up again at 08.30 Sad

olivia - I used a dunmy when he was 6 weeks old because he had horrendous colic and it was an absolute life saver!!! However, when he hit 10-11 weeks old he decided he didn't want it anymore and despite numerous attempts with various styles he just will not take one Sad

OliviaRinHerts · 24/09/2014 10:14

Oh writer- let's hope you get to nap today. I always worry about too much sleep in the day mind you as my ds sleeps a fair amount in the day but less at night. Shame about the dummy. I didn't know it helped with colic- good to know as we've given ds one but mainly evenings and night time but he rejects it sometimes too

We are currently still in bed. Am desperate for coffee and breakfast so let's hope he falls asleep after this feed. Think I will have a lazy day at home and not even venture out. It's grey and wet....

Hope everyone is ok?

Cannotbelieveit · 24/09/2014 10:22

Cookie can you get a bf councillor over to help? I don't know how it works but if you google bf helplines they might have people local to you that can come out?

Writer sorry it wasn't a good night. I don't want to moan about one feed Shock but it is still tiring esp with a live wire toddler!

DS started nodding off about 9.15 so changed him and put him in grobag but he was being fussy and only fed for 3 minutes then whinged so put him in his cot and he's been asleep since 10.10 Grin hope he has a good nap (not that the good naps yesterday helped last night!!)
DS 1 is also napping in his cot earlier than usual!

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OliviaRinHerts · 24/09/2014 10:23

Cookie love

Well done on the swaddling. I might try it again for my 5 week old. He didn't seem to like it as he likes his hands by his face but things change

Re mix feeding, how much and when are you doing of each and which do you struggle with? Bottles are easier for them so have you tried expressing - even one or two express bottles is good - that's seems to be the best of both worlds. We obviously want to do what's best for baby but that also means doing what is best for us too. I also learnt this week when baby was getting a lot of wind that after a month you should swap to a slower teat which we have done (test size 2 rather 1 for new borne). Our ds is still greedy and necks the one ff bottle we give him at night (currently four oz but that should be going up soon to 5) so is good he has to take it a little slower now.

OliviaRinHerts · 24/09/2014 10:30

Hats to off to everyone who has another child at home! I am struggling with the one - it must be so hard with a toddler too.

I agree with cannot believe it. I paid for a private lactation consultant to come out over the august bank holiday. I'd been out of hospital a few days but the bf was going so badly and my husband went out one morning at 9am to get formula as I was in tears. Midwife also came that day so we hid and didn't start to use the formula regularly (just the one night feed) and then I got this lactation consultant out on the Sunday who was just such a help. I burst Into tears when I saw her at the door.

I found with every new person I saw (nct, health visitor, hospital) and every different person moving my baby to the boob and giving me advice, gave me more confidence and more tricks and experience. Best £85 I spent and she was here at my home for 2 hours.

Cannotbelieveit · 24/09/2014 11:00

Well DS woke screaming after 35 mins (I knew he'd be hungry!) so fed him in our room and put him back in the cot and he's asleep again. Hope he can sleep at least an hour

Now do I chill myself or cook tonight's tea whilst I have chance?!

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Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 11:17

Can we swap babies please??

I'm very lucky that DH is the cook in our house, lol. I can't remember the last time I cooked Grin

Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 11:17

Can we swap babies please??

I'm very lucky that DH is the cook in our house, lol. I can't remember the last time I cooked Grin

Writerwannabe83 · 24/09/2014 11:17

Ps) you should chill Grin

Cannotbelieveit · 24/09/2014 11:34

I'm still chilling ;-)

Might eat my lunch now before the twosome are up!

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