Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Let's start by introducing us/babies again

DS napped for another 1hr20!

After a fairly good night I'm having a crappy day. DS has barely eaten but wants to drink from me constantly and woke up from his earlier nap if I moved from his side. He is driving me around the bend with his whining and I just want him to shut up. Am thoroughly fed up. I could take him for a walk but given that he screams all the way home I don't think I can be bothered. Am going to ask DP to take him out for a bit when he gets home as I need a break. I've had no luck meeting other mums either, I've gone to a few baby groups but not really clicked with others there except just to make general chitchat. In massage class I happened to mention that I cosleep with DS and DP sleeps in the spare room during the week only to be met with a smug "oh my husband absolutely refused to do that." ODFOD.

I haven't gelled with anyone at baby groups either (admittedly I haven't bothered much with DS2 as none here are suitable for them both!

Sorry your day hasn't been good. Hope you get a break later

Put DS down after his feed for a nap in the cot again and this time he went to sleep pretty much straight away. Hoping he will have at least an hour. I will make dinner ready for later now then play with DS1

cariad - you have my sympathy when dealing with a grizzly and needy baby. I have been at the end of my tether on a few occasions where DS is permanently miserable, crying, moaning and nothing alters their mood - it's just draining. I find myself counting down the hours until DH gets home so I can hand DS over for my own sanity

I'm quite lucky with regards to baby groups as there are 4 other moms I've befriended and we frequently socialise with each other. A very good friend of mine is also on maternity with her 9 month old so I have her for company too. Sometimes when DS is in one if his moods I find myself desperate to socialise with someone, be it friends or visiting family, just so somebody else can have a go at entertaining DS and give me a break.

And as for sleeping in separate rooms I don't think me and DH have shared a bed in well over a month!! I do miss it but at the same time if co-sleeping is the only way to ensure me and DS get some sleep then so be it. TBH the husbands who 'absolutely refuse' to sleep separately sound like idiots if they put their needs before their DP/DW and their child.

I've had quite a pleasant day with DD today which is surprising considering how tired I am. He had a 45 minute nap this morning and a 1.5 hour nap this afternoon. He had his afternoon nap on the bed with me and thankfully I managed to doze off and I had a 45 minute cat nap which isn't much but at least it's something.

Me and DS are now watching Deal or no Deal whilst I enjoy some chocolate and caramel biscuits with a gorgeous cup of tea.

When DD gets home we are going to try DS on sone baby rice and I've also got another parsnip and a carrot to roast and give to him

I have spoken to a prospective babysitter on the phone today (who will be used if I get the new job) and I'm going to visit her on Friday. I'm dreading the whole prospect of having to hand DS over to someone else

Mo haven't tried any baby groups yet I do hope to meet some like minded people though

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So DS must be starting his 3 week growth spurt he's been so demanding today. DP just tried to take him for me but I got my head down for 20 mins and he started crying. I can't Leave him if he cries and DP can't sooth him, my HV today said that DP needs to be able to settle him. Anyone got any tips? What can I do, thing is DS stops crying soon as I take him... It's a saving grace I couldn't handle it if he cried all the time

In the early days Sammy my DH used to just walk round with him and sing to him or shush him and that worked

Started last feed earlier at 7. Great naps today totalling just under 3 hours but his feed times were much shorter so we shall see tonight!

I'm just doing his bedtime feed now. I ideally wanted to do it earlier but FIL arrived at 7pm to visit us. Great timing

I'm praying to God that DS behaves himself tonight!!!

After a hellish night last one with crying every couple of hours, tonight started better with a peaceful getting off to sleep by DD. On how I wish for us all to have good nights. Fingers crossed. X

Another bed time feed where he was wide awake after. So in his cot he went and asleep 15 mins later! He does stir but can settle himself now. So proud of him, if we could just crack the night feed!

I put him in his cot when he was semi-asleep and instantly the crying started.

He's now crying and grizzling but not screaming. I'm in his eye line so he knows I'm here. I feel bad for leaving him but I just don't know what else to do. Bedtimes just can't carry on like this anymore, he's got to learn that his cot is for sleeping in as opposed to me holding him all the time and him crying whenever I put him down.

When we first started putting him in cot for naps he did cry and it broke my heart even tho I never let it go on longer than 5-10 mins but he only did that a couple times and now he seems to know he has to nap/sleep in there

Hi ladies advise needed
I'm putting DS in a sleeping bag for the first time tonight
I have him in a vest and sleep suit and then sleeping bag? Is this too many layers or ok?
The sleeping bag doesn't say what tog it is annoyingly but it's quite thick

Also when I feed him in the night do I I just do it in the sleeping bag? Or take him out?

If it's quite thick then it's most likely 2.5 is there anyway you can check with the shop it's from?

Yes just feed DS in it! I don't do nappy changes at night anymore thought as he never poos

It's weirdly French lol so I'm assuming it's a 2.5 and I've gone with just a long sleeved vest now as googled it. Only thing is I find his hands get cold at night, I was going to use the sleep suit with the scratch mits but obviously can't if he's in a grow bag. I know their hands do get cold and it's no reflection on them but I wouldn't want cold hands in the middle of the night

Hi all old and new. We're on holiday and Z has gone back to waking every 2hrs and so we are co sleeping! He is 8 months tomorrow and was doing 5hrs/4hrs/2hrs awake at 6:30. Then a cold, virus and this holiday has sent him back to newborn aaaaaaaaaaaaa!

Sammy my advice - ignore the HV, lo will only settle at the moment with his primary carer. Come 6weeks he'll psychologically be able to settle for others. Unless another can feed him he will not see them as able to provide comfort!! Get dh involved by making you tea, cuddling lo when he's settled and changing nappies!!!

Sending good sleepy vibes xx

Thanks bumpies
Well DS is asleep in my arms let's see what happens when I put him down
Anyone got any advise in trying to introduce a dummy? As DS is defiantly comfort sucking on me
Tried to give him a dummy to no avail yet

Ohhh DS is not sleeping, DP just got up and had him crying for 5mins and got impatient. Now he's back on the boob, only thing that keeps him quiet. Sigh I really hope it's not Gona be a long night but have a feeling it is :(
How do other peoples DP AND DH cope? Mines particularly laid back too So for him to get stressed takes a lot, well it didn't then....

He wouldn't stop crying until 9pm when I had to feed to sleep. Two hours later he's awake and crying again. I don't know what the f**k is up with him lately but it's driving me mad.

He wouldn't stop crying until 9pm when I had to feed to sleep. Two hours later he's awake and crying again. I don't know what the f**k is up with him lately but it's driving me mad.

DS had a 2 hour afternoon nap and after that was back to his cheerful little self thank god. He ate some dinner and then I handed him over to DP to do play and bath. DP got him to sleep around 830 and then he woke up for a quick feed when I came to bed about half an hour ago. He's tossing and turning though, so I think he might need a burp to settle himself.

Sammy to answer your question, my DP has always coped really well with DS. He's only just turned 26 so has plenty of energy to deal with him! He does bath time and sometimes dinner too, although I like to cook as I find it relaxing. I used to be a good cook but got out of the habit as DP used to do it all. Am enjoying rediscovering a few culinary skills now! DP has also always more than pulled his weight with nappy changes (for the first month he probably did more than me as he had a month off between jobs) and on weekends will take DS in the mornings so that I can have a lie in and watch him while I go to the gym.

Up feeding now

Feeding here too - at least he managed to go 3 hours this time