Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Here's a fresh thread!

Let's start by introducing us/babies again

2nd nap was 80 mins so I'm hoping for another good night!

Olivia - weight gain on baby is fab, my little monkey was born at 9lb 3oz waaaaaaaaa
Mrs mugoo - agree with you about it messing up your nights sleep, I had exactly this conversation the other day with my DP
Writer - how was your lunch with friends?
Kate - hey well done for your first half day back at work. I bet that times gone so quick hasn't it. I also bet your shattered I am not surprised, hopefully it will get easier and you'll get into a routine soon.

My lunch was lovely thanks Sammy, I made it there in time!! I popped DS in a high chair and gave him some cucumber and a chip to suck on. He's had a few tastes of strawberry yogurt tonight too.

DS has had 2 naps today, the first lasting 1hr 15m and the second being 30 minutes.

My aim is to have him asleep by 8pm tonight!! I'm going to put him in some warmer clothes tonight now the temperature is dropping a little as I'm thinking he may have been waking a lot last night because he was chilly.

Terrible night last night and started the day with all 3 of us in tears but luckily it's improved since! DS was screaming for a cuddle while I was getting DD ready for playgroup. She gets quite agitated when he cries and was jumping up and down trying to cheer him up - in doing so, she nutted me and gave me a fat lip! Poor little thing was absolutely mortified. We had a big sobby snotty three of us cuddle and all felt much better!

They're both fast asleep now (super early night for them) so DH and I are going to get a Chinese and try to watch a film.

I think the reason DS slept so badly last night is his tummy is adjusting to weaning... He was very farty and squirmy. Could be the same for you writer....?

I'm sorry you had a crap night and morning - sometimes a good family cry can make things seem better

My DS is in an absolute frantic state tonight and I think my DH is the cause. When DH comes home from work he spends his time at home playing with DS but he does it so loudly and crazily!! Throwing him up in the air, spinning him round, shouting, singing at him at full volume and just getting louder and louder if DS starts to grizzle. I have told DH that he's got to stop being so loud and 'in his face' especially when bedtime is approaching but it makes no difference. I try and explain how DS needs quiet time in the lead up to bed but DH just thinks I'm bring precious and nagging. I asked DH to get DS ready for bed and the entire time DS was crying and DH was just talking really loudly at him in a fast speed, pulling faces, singing loud songs, making silly voices etc and DS couldn't handle it. In the end I intervened and just took DS off him and as soon as I picked DS up he cuddles into me and the crying stopped instantly.

How do I make DH see that he can't be like that with DS?

When you figure it out writer please let me know cos even when I issue explicit instructions (if you do this then he'll go to sleep...) dp does this!

Thanks Sammy I'll only be doing Tuesdays and Wednesdays at work and I'm hoping DS won't get too confused with chopping and changing between daddy and mummy at home. He was definitely pleased to see me when I got back, but not clingy so I think the main problem will be getting milk into him while I'm out.

Just doing bedtime feed now. DS is a bit overtired as he's been awake since 3.10 and his last nap was only 50 mins so I'm bracing myself for an unsettled night. I was wondering about putting him in more layers tonight too, but on the end I've gone for long sleeve body suit and 2.5 tog grobag.

Poor you not a doctor that was really bad luck hope your lip's recovering and you get to watch your film in peace.

We have no tv in the run up to bath/bed otherwise they are both too wired!

Just explain to your oh's that we wind down gradually and the babies need to too! Unless the men want to do all the night settling of course

15 mins into his last feed, hopefully the persevering with naps will pay off again tonight

I've put DS in his cot whilst awake to see what happens. I'm determined to crack self settling, he did it before he can do it again!!!

I've put DS in his cot whilst awake to see what happens. I'm determined to crack self settling, he did it before he can do it again!!!

Just persevere writer! I'm sure he can get back to it!

He cried and cried - and after many attempts to console him in his cot I gave up and picked him up. We had the absolute shittest night last night (I was in tears at 4am) and I just can't face it again so took the easy option of feeding him to sleep. I'm too tired and drained to play "Battle of Wills" tonight

Well it looks like feeding to sleep no longer works here! He fed then came off with the biggest smile and was wide awake!!! Put him in the cot anyway and he was asleep in 10-15 minutes.

Hope you have a good night writer and everyone else!

Kate I'm dreading going back to work but good to know you both got thru the day ok, I'm sure the sippy cup use will improve soon!!

When do I start a routine for ds, he is 6 weeks tomorrow but just reached his due date. He is feeding roughly every 4hrs. However things like bath and bed e.t.c when should I introduce that?

cookie you can start a routine when you like - if it makes life easier for you why not start now? ds is 12 weeks and we haven't got much of a routine yet but will be trying to cracking that soon

Writer just read last night's story, how horrible for you. :( Hope you get a better one tonight.

Olivia great weigh in. I am fretting about feeding and weight and DD is all of 3 days old!

Aunt I agree with the others- unless you asked that HV is a bit controversial and perhaps grasping for the easy solution for her.

Got my milk in today - she is very grumpy about this (think the change in flow/boob shape) and spent today being fussy/pully ... then deciding to go hell for leather ow my poor nipples and let down. However progress has been made regarding DD sleeping not on us. She will now be set down in a basket or bassinet right next to me, bit of bedroom re-arrangement and we might be onto something! I'm typing this with her snuffling away next to me not on me!
We shall see how that pans out by my posts later on.
DH is suffering. Last night she wasn't quite ready for the basket so we split the night into 'shifts' of 3 hrs... I have never slept well in my life, but DH sleeps like an angel. So even though we got the same sleep, he was a zombie today and although he is being SO helpful he was clearly weak as a kitten. Mind you I did blub because I convinced myself my new milk was hated by DD and she would starve because she had done only 1 poo nappy. Rang a helpline, they said it all sounded normal. Got off phone. Found DD in her first full on 'poonami' nappy. So I guess she aint starving...

Squizita - my DH really struggled on broken sleep too, so in the early days we divided it in a way that meant he'd stay up late with the baby and just bring him up for feeds while I went to bed early (8/9ish) and then I'd be on duty dealing with any night wakings from 11.30/12ish until 6ish when he'd get up to give me a little lie in... It meant he'd be in bed for a solid 6-7hour stretch and I'd get longer in bed but it would be more broken up... I don't know if something like that could work for you...?

The LOs were not impressed with our idea for a relaxed night and have had us up and down the stairs non stop waking in turns! Both settled now so I'm going to join them. Good luck everyone!

So I was thinking the same about more layers... Bearing in mind DS is 2 weeks old tomorrow would I put an extra blanket on at night? I'm feeling it getting cooler and if I'm cold surely he must be?

Our rooms here start off at 20 at the beginning of the evening and drop down to 18 so it's 2.5tog bag and short sleeve vest/sleepsuit here for both boys

And he's awake and crying again...
Didn't even go three hours.

I can't have another night like last night

And he's awake and crying again...
Didn't even go three hours.

I can't have another night like last night

An hour later and he's still awake and just starts crying the minute I put him down. I have been crying again. I'm just so sick if it, there's absolutely nothing wrong with him.

Writer I'm still trying to get ds off since 10.30!

30 minutes later and DS is still awake

It's times like this that I really, really, REALLY wish I had bottle fed him.