Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Here's a fresh thread!

Let's start by introducing us/babies again

Please don't feel like a failure, Squizita. This sounds totally normal for a young baby - and it's what Dads are there for! I think it's important to remember that when they cry, babies don't always actually know what they want - they're just crying because they're overwhelmed, then they smell your milk, think "it must be that I need" and gets enraged when it isn't! When they're really worked up handing them to someone else can often be the only thing that calms them. From your posts you sound like such a lovely, thoughtful, switched on Mum. I am sure you are doing absolutely brilliantly - it can just be really hard.

Squizita sorry you didn't have a good night, how old is your DD? I remember the not settling at all without milk then getting annoyed with milk in the early days. Does she feed fine and settle ok in the day?

Well DS woke up at 1.40am (was 3.15am the day before) so felt a bit peeved we aren't getting any better esp since after he fed he was wide awake again, so I offered 2nd side straight away and he drained it too and then slept til 6.40 and we are up for the day feeding now before DS1 wakes.

Coincidence that he took both sides and only woke once?

DS went through to 6am took a HUGE feed and conked right back out - is still sleeping now!

Bloody typical I'm going to have to wake him or he'll be napping when need to leave for waterbabies!

squit all sounds very NORMAL to me. Crap nights are part and parcel with a baby when they are too young to know day from night.

My advice is- PUT THE BOOKS DOWN! You know your baby and you are doing a fantastic job.

Try to make a difference from day to night with keeping it darker and calmer at night and lively with music on in the back ground during the day.

You are doing a great job and we have all been there

squitza I agree with the other posters this is completely normal for a young baby. I would bin the books and stop worrying. breastfed baby poo is like runny mustard and baby sick can be like you described which sounds like she had too much but can also happen as the valve to the stomach doesn't always close properly so if you move them straight after a feed then this can happen. completely normal. and sometimes they want more milk after to get rid of the taste of sick. you are doing a great job so don't be so hard on yourself.

Squiza
I concur....put the books down they will do your head in. I've relied on the advise of friends and people on here and I agree trust your instincts you know your baby better than you think. Just go with the flo. I understand how frustrating it is believe me, but these little poppers are learning too just like us. I've been so quick to put DS on the boob that I don't try and settle him but my mum yesterday settled him so well and last night I tried for an hour with a dummy, he took it but I had to hold it, everything takes patience and keep trying.
I hope you ok today.

squizita - the early weeks of having a baby is do difficult. Everything seems like guess work as we try to get to know our babies and try and work out what their cries mean and what they want, it's a very tough phase. As has been said, please stop reading and obsessing over books, no two babies are the same so please just trust your motherly instinct and know that you are doing your best, you are clearly a fantastic mom x x It has already been said that babies brains aren't developed enough to understand why they are crying and the brain can't calm itself down, the baby knows something is wrong but can't work out what do just cries and cries. You have my sympathy as I have been there myself and it is absolutely heart breaking having to listen to them cry and feel helpless. I'm sorry your partner isn't being very supportive as that can only make matters worse. I hope you are feeling better this morning

DS slept well last night:

07.30 - 01.30.
Feed
02.00 - 5.00
Feed
05.45 - 09.00

So a good 12 hours in split sessions and I'm happy with that as I feel nice and rested.

He are two rice cakes yesterday too so that made me happy as it's the first time he swallowed something instead of just sucking it

We are on Day 6 of no poo....

I have a HV home visit today from a weaning specialist to come and give me some support in preparation for him going to nursery next month.

If you Google Priscilla dunstan on Oprah Winfrey there is a YouTube video about interpreting your baby's different crys - I found it really useful after someone on another thread recommended it

Writer DH is supportive - he managed to settle her for an hour at 4am! He just has that man thing of "everything has a reason" which cab be infuriating.

Mine has that attitude too squizita - he can't get it into his head that sometimes babies cry for no apparent reason and that it can take a long time to be soothed. You're right, it is annoying

Oh I hate that! Especially when dp can clearly see I'm struggling with ds screaming and fighting me and he expects me to know what's wrong/what to do/etc!

I know - it's like they immediately assume that because we're the mom we know everything!! We're just as new to parenting as they are and we can't read the baby's mind anymore than they can

I've managed to get a 40 minute nap out of him earlier so a big improvement on yesterday. He's just fed himself 3 spoons of pear yogurt and taken 2oz of EBM from his beaker. I feel like I'm losing my baby

He also had a poo today after 5 days of nothing (he usually goes once or twice a day) and it was not pleasant!!!

missmgoo - I'm glad you've found a good nursery, it must be a huge relief to have found somewhere you trust. My friend just out her daughter in a nursery (aged 10 months) and when she picked her up on her first day she had a big bruise on her forehead - the staff said she'd tripped and hit her head on the concrete step My friend says she going to give it another week and see his it goes. It'd do hard trusting someone else with your baby isn't it, it's a horrible feeling

I couldn't have predicted this but I am soooo looking forward to it and I feel completely relaxed about leaving him - the nursery is incredible and he's going to have a wonderful time there probably better than at home with me

writer ds used to poo every morning and evening as regular as clockwork until he had one bottle of formula then he went 5 days without. now its every few days.

I cannot get ds to sleep during the day in his crib or anywhere except on me. He just doesn't sleep deep enough for me to put him down so is wide awake when I do! Argh!

AuntieMaggie - mine had every single one of his naps either on me or in a moving pushchair until he was almost 4 months - I never had a single bit of "me time" when I didn't either have a baby on me or pounding the pavements pushing one around.

At 3.5 months I said enough is enough and I started putting him gently in his bouncer and using the motion of the bouncer to keep him asleep on transfer. Then just a couple of weeks later I started putting him in his cot for all sleeps - day and night (had been co-sleeping before then).

Mrsmugoo mine is funny - she will go in her sleepy head. .. In the day! Had a nap today. Woke up and realised all 3 of us, dd and DH and me had flaked for 2 hours!
It's just bedtime she fights. And is fighting now!

Poo question. .. she hasn't done one since lunchtime. Have health visitor tomorrow so will ask then but she is weeing lots and her last poo was huge. Do we think it's ok to see when she poops overnight? Hv will be here tomorrow am anyway.

She will be fine squizita

Mine fell asleep at 7.30pm and is nicely settled in his cot. I'm lying in bed and enjoying the peace and quiet. I reapplied for the job today

She will be fine squizita

Mine fell asleep at 7.30pm and is nicely settled in his cot. I'm lying in bed and enjoying the peace and quiet. I reapplied for the job today

DH is having her sleep on his tummy while he watches car programmes on TV for an hour. Best case: she is bored to sleep till next feed! But even if not I'm gonna get a little disco nap in.

Squiz - it's very common for little babies to be unsettled in the evenings - google the witching hour!

I remember DS being such a nightmare between 6-8pm for aaaages. It's just the time of day when you're knackered and want to eat and put your feet up.

mrsmugoo that's how it is for me - I've managed to get him to sleep in the moses basket, pram, bouncer, swing, or crib a couple of times each but it doesn't seem to last more than that! This morning I put him down twice - the first he woke as soon as I started lowering him the second he was definitely in deep sleep and stayed asleep for about 5 mins before waking up and giving me a big grin! I'm going out without baby at the weekend leaving him with dp and I've been stockpiling breast milk for the occasion!

DS been asleep for an hour now. He napped for 2hrs15 today in his cot even with me having friends over!

I think you've cracked the napping cannot feeling jealous

I'm going to start the new thread as this one will be running out very soon. I'm on my iPhone though so I won't be able to add the link to the thread is someone else able to do it once I've created it??