Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Still awake 40 minutes later...

I had a break down about 20 minutes ago and just started crying because of how tired and fed up I feel. DH came into me and gave me a big hug which made me feel better and calmed me down. I have given DS some Nurofen in case it's his teeth that are causing him to wake up and now I'm feeding him and hopefully I will drop off.

Me and DH were casually talking about people who have more than one baby and said those who do must have had a really good first baby. He said there's no way we'd have a second because we couldn't risk having another one like DS.

Still awake 40 minutes later...

I had a break down about 20 minutes ago and just started crying because of how tired and fed up I feel. DH came into me and gave me a big hug which made me feel better and calmed me down. I have given DS some Nurofen in case it's his teeth that are causing him to wake up and now I'm feeding him and hopefully I will drop off.

Me and DH were casually talking about people who have more than one baby and said those who do must have had a really good first baby. He said there's no way we'd have a second because we couldn't risk having another one like DS.

Hang in there. Our first was awful too, sleepwise. Then he potty trained like a dream and never hit other kids and now his school reports say he's a lovely kid. Chances are you've done your time with the hard stuff and things will get better. Obviously it can happen but I've never heard of people having two really difficult babies in a row. Our second was so easy and we'd been dreading those first 6 months!

Squizita - auntiemaggies advice/post made me remember something else someone told me (or I read) about helping the baby settle down without you - express some breatstmilk on to the sheet or their blanket. As auntiemaggies said, it helps
If they smell you...

My lo settled after my last post despite worrying sounds either sounding like a pig , a dying horse or a bleating sheep!

He is awake again - fed him and he fell asleep but he's about to start screaming so will check nappy and repeat the cycle of feeding and hoping he will sleep....

Welcome squizita totally normal baby behaviour it'll improve don't worry!

Writer sorry you've had such a crap night with your DS. Tho it sounds like DH that has caused more of the bother. From listening to my friends I'd say what your DH is like, is unfortunately normal . My DH hasn't got a choice as when me gets in he has DS1 demanding attention straight away and then I pass DS2 over so I can get on with jobs etc. then at 6.25pm we now jointly do their bath routine before DH goes to gym. And as we are still having night wakings the new deal at the weekends is that DH takes both boys in the lounge once they are up for the day (between 7-8am) and I get til 9.30-10 in bed on my own. Speak to him and tell him he will be doing this for you!

Well DS went 7.40pm-4.15am so much better and also no coincidence that he slept more in the day yesterday so I'm definitely persevering with his cot naps in the daytime. Just feeding now so hopefully that'll tide him over til 8am!

DS's 17 months and 4 months

What's the difference between possetting and vomiting? My poor ds must have just bought up the entire contents of his stomach.... All over me in bed

Any ideas? I was pRetty scared but he seems ok....

Possetting is a tiny amount like less than a teaspoon full.
Oh dear Olivia

Writer you poor thing! My first was the worst sleeper in the world. And I still had two more! They have all been tricky sleepers but none as bad as the first. So maybe if I had a fourth it would fall asleep with the greatest of ease?! [hysterical overtired laughter]

Hey writer hope your ok, your doing an amazing job dont forget that ever.
Sounds like a few of us had a rubbish night. DS was gurgling most of the night, I got him into bed with me about 330am and breast fed him while lying down (for the first time) probably not the safest move and he's still in bed with me, sleeping but grizzling.

olivia what did it look like? If it was just once and he seems fine otherwise I Wpuldnt worry.

Quite excited today as I get to have ds weighed. He was 2 weeks early and 6Ib 3 and then lost about 12% so I was worried he was not feeding well but he has put on loads and loads since then (nearly a whole pound at last weigh in)!

Only thing is it is at 930am! Will have to get cappuccino and croissant before I go to make the early start bearable.

Hope everyone is ok despite our interrupted night!

Let us know what he weighs Olivia!!

Well saw DS giving tired cues before his mid morning feed so quickly fed him in gro bag and put him in his cot at 10.10 and he's asleep now!

Me and DS didn't wake up until 10.40am!!!!

Not good when I'm meeting friends for lunch at 12.00

I'm frantically trying to feed him now so I can leave on time!!!

90 minute cot nap!!

Hope you got out on time writer!

Ds weighed in at 8Ib 15 oz so an increase in a week of 9 oz which is great news

He is also just off for a nap (or so I thought!) Midwife at weigh in said his sick episode might have been wind and it made his feed come up. He seems to be feeding ok since - even more so to make up for the one which came up

Great weight Olivia!

Olivia - your post made me smile cos ds was 8 lb 11 oz and 2 weeks early.

It was weigh in day here too and he's 12 lb 14 oz so his weight gain has slowed down and he's dropped on the percentile thing. Not worried as he's feeding well.

HV said that even one single formula feed can affect them for 10 days so that explains the nappy situation. She wants me to be strict about putting him upstairs for naps in the day so I can try to get some time to myself though I'm worried he may end up confusing day and night then.

She also said for me to start giving a formula feed each night (well for dp to give it) at the feed before the last one for the next two weeks to let it build up and have a cumulative effect - she seems to think this will mean I'll get a quieter evening whike he has a longer nap and a better night sleep... not sure I agree... am I brave enough to try it?

Hi all, and welcome to all new posters Sorry, can't remember who was asking about a 2 day old who will only sleep on them, but my DS was exactly the same and it only lasted the first few days, so don't despair. At that age they have to be close to you all the time.

Just a v quick post to say I'm just home from my first morning back at work! It went ok, and DS was apparently v happy but refused to take a bottle, so it's going to be tricky when I have go on for more than half a day.

My DH is looking after him while I work so he will definitely find out what it't like being in sole charge Having said that, he's very hands on anyway so I don't think it will be much of a surprise.

DS had a pretty good night (by his standards) but I still feel exhausted. I think it's going to be tough being back at work. Anyway, I'm supposed to be working at home this afternoon, so nose back to the grindstone for me!

(DS is 8 months)

Auntie do you want to supplement? Is there a need weight wise to do it? Or did you mention you want a break?

I agree with cannot - did you tell your HV you wanted to try formula and wanted a break/rest from BF?

If not then I think what she said was quite inappropriate and not very supportive of BF

Nap #2 in grobag in cot but took him 30 mins to whinge and fall asleep

My MIL looked after DS for most of yesterday with me kind of in the background as a trial run for going back to work.

He resolutely refused his sippy cup all day and got through 7-4 on 2 breastfeeds. He finally took 50ml of EBM from a bottle and a weetabix about 5pm from MIL

He then woke up wanting to feed before midnight for the first time in about 2 months.

Ugh.

Today we've for scaffolders outside the flat who woke him up after 20 minutes each time I got him to sleep. He's having a late third emergency nap now because he's absolutely shattered going a whole day on 2 x 20 minute sleeps.

I wish other people would "get it" when I try to explain that his daily eating and napping directly affects my nights sleep which is why I'm so flipping obsessed with it. I'm sure he'll have a horrible night tonight because he'll be hideously overtired and all out of sync.

Totally agree Mrs! It's us that bear the brunt of a routine being buggered up!!

No I didn't mention anything - she's been talking about me supplementing since about 6 weeks so someone else can feed him to give me a break and sleep longer at night. Admittedly I struggled the first month because I was grieving and ill on top of having a demanding new baby. But things are getting better.

DS had his 12 week jabs this afternoon so we'll see how they affect him - the first lot didn't affect him much except he slept loads.

Auntie there's nothing wrong with supplementing if you want to but if you don't want to then just carry on as you are!