Night Feeders Part 4 Up All Night Feeding, newborns, sleep regressions, toddlers, every knackered Mummy welcome!

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Here's a fresh thread!

Let's start by introducing us/babies again

OK I cracked after about 10 seconds and looked at that thread

SO relieved to see most people seem to feel that if it gets everybody more sleep and the baby seems to want it, feeding to sleep isn't a big issue, esp since the baby on that thread is about the same age as mine (i.e. not a newborn who definitely needs night feeds). Also glad to see people saying their baby grew out of it naturally in the end. It's so easy to become anxious about all the 'rod for your own back' stuff. Oh how I hate that phrase!

Are you breast feeding Kate? Sorry I can't remember. If so how are you factoring that in to you returning to work? I'm only asking because it's something playing on my mind about when I go back so work.

The feeding to sleep thread has actually stayed very amicable, no really nasty comments or anything, just different opinions

25 mins of faffing and cooing in his cot and he's asleep!!

I know for a fact that mine only wakes out of hunger now - he frequently self settles throughout the earlier evening when he wakes between sleep cycles because we see him do it in the monitor.

He's almost now reliably just doing one feed a night (down from umpteen!) so I'm happy to keep feeding him in the night for now.

Yes I'm breastfeeding. I'm lucky in that at first I only need to be in work two half days every week and the rest if my work I can theoretically do at home. I'll be leaving expressed milk for DS. After he's got used to me being away I'll start going in for two full days and then I'll express at work, but I've got my own office with a lockable door and a very flexible and fairly family friendly job (teaching at university) so that might be easier for me than for someone in a different type of work. Also DS is well established on solids now so I'm hoping (optimistically) that I won't need to express after the first couple of months and that he'll just have bf morning, when I get home and on the days I'm not in work. I realize I'm lucky in that, although I'll have quite a lot of work to do, much of it can be done at home (marking etc) so I can kind of ease into being away from DS quite gently and slowly. That's the plan anyway. I'm sure in practice it won't all be plain sailing!

mrsmugoo - I think your baby should win a 'Complete Turn-around' award

kate - Sounds like you should make the transition quite well. If I get the job next week I'm going to be away from DS for 15 hours at a time and am very worried how we'll manage the feeding. He will be 9 months old though when I go back so hopefully it won't be such an issue then.

cannot - congratulations on the nap!! DS has had his first nap of the day (45 minutes) but it was in my arms during feeding. I promise to try putting him in his cot next time.....

40 min nap in the cot, yes! He woke a few times and settled himself

writer yes I think you'll see a big difference at 9 months. My DS is just over 8 months and in the last month he's really ramped up his solids and is definitely taking less milk during the day. Good luck with your interview! I think I saw your other thread about the job and fwiw it sounds like a brilliant opportunity to me

Cannot I meant what tactics are you trying. Mine never sleeps in bed willingly apart from at night.

It's no problem on the night but day time he just plain refused to nap lately

No tactics as such just continuity. Will be feeding him in his sleeping bag for his mid morning and mid afternoon feeds and then putting into cot awake. I will let him grizzle/cry for 5-10 mins max for going in to shush pat. He's nearly 5 months so I don't feel quite so bad for trying this! It worked for one nap yesterday and the one this morning. Just feeding him now so will see how long it takes him to sleep (took nearly 30 mins earlier to drop off and he slept 40 mins)

Well be managed another 40 min nap in the cot

Just had a house full of visitors again and I find it really stresses DS AND ME out! I hate the way he gets passed around like a toy. DP has just taken him out in the car to give me a break which is nice but I'm worried and will be till they get back.
Poor DS was sick about 4 times (when I say sick just that little bit that comes up after feeding) that worried me as that's the most he's been sick.
Ahhhhh they are a constant worry aren't they! Just laying on the sofa trying to chill out....

A bit of possetting is normal don't worry.

Anything that ruins my boys routine annoys me as I'm the one that deals with the consequences!!

Earlier bath and started feeding just after 7. Let's hope the decent sleep today means a good night

DS has had 3 naps today: 2x45 minutes and 1x30 minutes. Not really very long naps but they were evenly spaced throughout the day.

We had more success with BLW this evening as he happily sucked away on some dry toast and some roasted parsnip. He also took 40mls of EBM from his sippy cup.

I'm just doing his bedtime feed now

Well DS only had a quick 17 min feed! Very bizarre for him and he's fallen asleep already? What does tonight have in store?!

Doing the bedtime feed here too. DS had 3 naps today:2× 1.5 hours (!) and 1× 30 mins. I know yay should make for good sleep tonight but I expect it's just going to make him harder to settle as the last nap was quite late!

Evening ladies.
My LB has his bath bottle and bed all done by 7 and is usually asleep by 730. Do you think this is to early? He is 7 weeks today and last night he slept till 2. I wasn't sure if I should wake him as it seemed like a really long time between feeds. HV said no more than 5 hours but how old do they have to be before you leave them for longer?
Sorry for the questions new mum and not sure who else to ask.

Bloody kitten ran in the bedroom just as I was putting DS down and woke him!! But he wriggled and moaned for 10-15 mins and then back to sleep. Least he seems to be getting better at settling himself

DD sleep getting worse by the day (6m 2wks). Think I have done everything wrong. Has anyone had any success stopping feeding to sleep? Occasionally she manages to get herself to sleep in the fwy but naps still barley 45m long. The night wake nines are getting worse. How have you helped to stop them? I am trying to shorten feeding times and try other ways of getting her back to sleep but really feeding is the only sure thing. I was trying to sing a bit too but then read somewhere that this was wrong too. What do you do? Help. Glad your babies seem to be sleeping more/well/better.

suea - I personally wouldn't be worried about a 7.30pm-2am sleep if your baby is happy and healthy. As long as he's having lots of wet and dirty nappies and is bright and alert during the day then I don't think you have anything to worry about.

My DS fell asleep at 7.40pm but woke again at 8pm and just started crying. It took me 30 minutes to get him off to sleep again and he seems quite content in his cot now. I'm currently making the most of my quiet time by getting some of my research/revision/interview prep work done. It's pretty crap that at the end of the day when DS is asleep I then have to spend hours doing this when really I just want to lie in bed and relax

yorkie - my DS is 6 months and is always fed to sleep. I have made peace with it now. There is a thread currently running in the 'Am I bring unreasonable' forum about feeding babies to sleep and it may be of benefit to you. It will help you see how really really common feeding to sleep is and that there's nothing wrong with doing it

cannot - if you keep making such good progress then we are going to have to throw you off the thread

Writer he might be getting better at self settling and cot napping but he's still up 1-2 times in the night!!! Only that one fluke of 10 hours in the last 3 weeks!!?

ds wouldn't feed much at bedtime so think I'm in for an eventful night...

He still only naps on me during the day -any advice to try and break this habit?

We're going to have to go back to putting our babies age at the bottom of our posts as there are so many new members I can't keep track of what age everyone's baby is and I hate having to keep asking

I only say it because with some poster's questions the age of the baby is important in terms of how to respond properly

My DS is in the spare room now (we haven't shared a room in God knows how long) and he's got the most horrendous cough!!! It's driving me mad because it's going to keep me awake and will no doubt wake DS up at done point!!

(DS is 6 months)